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Top 4 Questions To Avoid Asking Your Man
Posted on November 30, 2009 09:00 am by Jason Sanchez
Guys aren’t allergic to responding to questions on topics like our favorite sex position (um, all of them) or how our rock-hard abs got so damn rock hard. But before you channel Boy Abunda and pull out the magic mirror, know that certain queries guarantee an eye roll and a sigh. They’re the ones with no right answers.
This guy's lucky—he'll never have to endure such annoying questions from his girl. But for the benefit of the rest of you ladies, here are painful probes we hate to be asked, let alone reply to.
1. "What’s on your mind?"
Putting us on the spot with this one—especially after sex—is annoying. It’s like you’re trying to force us to spout some relationship epiphany. Chances are the only thing bogging down our brains are thoughts of what snacks are in the fridge. Says Rico, 27: “My ex always wanted to know what was on my mind, and nine times out of ten, it had nothing to do with her. But if I ‘fessed up the truth, she’d get all huffy and insulted. She took it to mean we weren’t on the same wavelength. Eventually, I agreed and broke up with her.”
2. "Do you think she’s hot?"
You might as well ask, “Do you think she’s hotter than me?” That’s what you’re really getting at. Decent boyfriends pay compliments at random--that’s why we think it’s lame when you fish for them conspicuously. Besides, even if we think someone else is smokin’, it doesn’t mean you’re not. But if we acknowledge that another chick is good-looking, we’re screwed. “This girl I was dating always pointed out pretty girls and asked my opinion,” says Bert, 24. “Over time, I caught on that she was seriously insecure.” News flash: There’s nothing sexier than confidence.
3. "Would you tell me if your friend were cheating?"
Rarely will we rat out a member of our own posse, even if we think he’s acting like a total ass (see Online Hunk Xian Lim’s answer to a similar question). If we tell you that our friend is a two-timer, we’re bound to be deemed guilty by association. That, or you’ll expect us to cut off the philandering friend. Dante, 31, can relate: “I confided in my girlfriend that my best friend was fooling around,” he says. “Not only did she stop speaking to him, which made it obvious that I shared, but she got mad at me for remaining friends with ‘The Tarantado.’” Male policy states to answer yes if asked this question, but never follow through on it.
4. "You find Paloma cheesy, right?"
If Paloma is cheesy, bring on the crackers. Did I say that out loud? We could just answer "Yeah, she’s heinous," but that would be lying. A better alternative: You accept the following answer and promise never to ask again. Deal? Here goes: "Men are suckers for Barbie-esque babes…as long as we don’t have to take them home to Mom." "My buddies and I go to a bar where the girls are scantily clad,” says Randy, 23. “Sure, we really ogle the chicks, but they don’t pose a threat to our girlfriends.” When it comes to relationships, we want more than a one-dimensional being.
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21. this is funny kasi pwede ding title most common questions of women
May 16, 2010 at 10:04 pm report abuse -
20. Guys don't like interrogations. just don't ask nonsense questions.
March 09, 2010 at 12:27 am report abuse -
19. i ask my man anything. but yeah, not those mentioned above
February 10, 2010 at 08:08 pm report abuse -
18. "Would you tell me if your friend were cheating?" --it makes no sense for me.. insecure girls would ask this definitely..
February 10, 2010 at 11:42 am report abuse -
17. I don't have to ask #3 to my man. He unconsciously talks about these things without me asking it. I feel lucky he trusts me.
February 08, 2010 at 09:37 pm report abuse -
16. "What’s on your mind?" - i always ask him about this.. i cant help it...
February 08, 2010 at 05:10 pm report abuse -
15. boys just find ot hard to speak their minds so we girls ask questions..
February 08, 2010 at 09:44 am report abuse -
14. Then when they answer, "yeah, I'm fine", we girls don't take that literally. We feel that there's something behind it. The male specie is really tough to decipher.
February 04, 2010 at 03:14 pm report abuse -
13. Men do not speak up unless we ask, right? So how are we goin to know without blurting out "what's on your mind?"? Is it ok to say, "Ok ka lang?" instead?
February 04, 2010 at 03:12 pm report abuse -
12. Don't worry about men. You don't have to ask them what they are thinking all the time. Let them ask you. If you don't have nothing important to say it's better to shut up.
February 02, 2010 at 07:51 am report abuse -
11. My man tells me if that she likes this girls' haircut and suggests me to try it. I think being honest with women is cool. It helps us to know what you like. =)
February 01, 2010 at 05:11 pm report abuse -
10. Some men are honest about being attracted to sexy girls.
January 26, 2010 at 08:59 am report abuse -
9. hahaha these questions are funny. they're all interesting. my bad, i always ask him what's in his mind.
January 22, 2010 at 07:03 pm report abuse -
8. right. men would rather be asked what they're doing than what they're currently thinking
January 22, 2010 at 04:24 am report abuse -
7. haha. ganun pala.
January 21, 2010 at 05:44 pm report abuse -
6. hahaha! so funny! but so true ;) im guilty of having asked my boyfie questions 1-3 (don't know who paloma is)! HAHAHA!
January 08, 2010 at 09:35 pm report abuse -
5. hmm.. men are hard to read so i believe it's ok to ask them anything!
January 07, 2010 at 01:08 pm report abuse -
4. I don't agree with this. Why should you "edit" what you want to ask your man? Relationship is all about communication. If a guy can't "take these questions" because it would bruise his "ego", then he's not to be taken seriously either. :-) Just my POV
December 31, 2009 at 09:13 am report abuse -
3. huh
December 30, 2009 at 08:13 pm report abuse -
2. agreed..men=ancient himalayan hieroglyphics
December 27, 2009 at 10:41 am report abuse -
1. Men are unreadable beings so sometimes I can't help but ask my bf what he's thinking about just out of curiosity.
December 24, 2009 at 04:59 pm report abuse
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