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3 Tips For Standing Your Ground
Either way, it's important to keep your cool in emotionally tense situations between you and a co-worker. Here's how:
- Be in control. Don't get overwhelmed! When faced with a frustrating situation, it may seem easier to say yes and let the other person have his way. Put your foot down and voice out your concern. You'll regret it if you don't speak up.
Annabelle Rama said on Showbiz Central that Ruffa cried because Kris always makes her bara on The Buzz. But did Ruffa ever put her foot down and tell Kris that she didn't like the way she was being treated? Sometimes you have to stand up for yourself to get the kind of treatment you want.
- Be patient. Yes, keeping your cool can be very hard when your friend's been complaining nonstop that your hairstyle looks just like hers or your sister's been throwing a tantrum for three days because you won't lend her your pink top. But if you patiently explain, understand, and yet keep firm to your decision, the difficult person will eventually stop bugging you.
Or in this case, if your friend won't stop talking about something you'd really rather not discuss or think about (like your upcoming transfer to another television network), sometimes the best solution is to stay calm and discuss the topic rationally, or find a respectful way of saying that you don't feel comfortable talking about it.
- Be confident. Your life is filled with relationships whether you like it or not. Sometimes, what keeps you from facing unpleasant tasks or moments with people in your life is your own fear. This fear allows these people to take advantage of you. Make an effort to stand up for who you are, what you believe in, and what you want in the most polite but firmest way possible. As long as you have a good sense of who you are and what you want in your life, you'll earn people's respect. And they'll think twice before they start bullying you.
Ruffa was seen visibly tearing up before she left the set of The Buzz, because she got overly emotional (and maybe a little hurt) when Kris brought up her impending move to TV5. But Ruffa already made the decision to transfer and signed the contract. She might have been sad about the move and sad to leave her ABS-CBN family, but she should take pride in her decision--one she made for the benefit of her career. Work is work, and you have to take the best possible opportunities when you can. Everyone can respect that.
With reports from Regina Belmonte
Tags: showbiz,Ruffa Gutierrez,Kris Aquino,issues,coworker,office politics
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33. i'll keep this things in mind. we never know when this is gonna happen
March 22, 2010 at 02:18 am report abuse -
32. This is a nice article not because i'm more in favor of kris but i see that number 1 is correct. Ruffa should have said what she feels and not be plastic to Kris during her years of stay in the buzz. It's not just Kris' fault she should have said that it not OK for her. I guess she doesn't have the guts.
March 19, 2010 at 10:33 pm report abuse -
31. actually ganyan nmn talaga si ruffa kala mo kung sino malinis....eh plastic din nmn xa kaya lang nmn xa hnd na nag renew ng contract with the ABS_CBN is because may shaina na si john loyd at least si kris kaht bata si james yap sa kanya pinakasalan nmn xa.kaya wag na xa mag inarte kc matagal na nmang xang plastic...
March 18, 2010 at 12:20 am report abuse -
30. as if nman, ruffa didnt knew kris.. natural na kay kris na tactless yan.. ilan years na sila magkasama, now lng ba cya na "bara" ni kris? haller... :)
March 16, 2010 at 04:43 am report abuse -
29. for sure they will be friends again..
March 12, 2010 at 06:13 pm report abuse -
28. As much as I avoid taking sides, I can't help but point out that the three tips to keep cool -- control, patience and confidence -- aren't in Ruffa in this issue. I watched the show and see nothing wrong about what Kris said. Well, if we are to dig the previous shows though wherein Kris constantly making "bara" Ruffa, she's letting it happen anyways and we all know Kris, that's just her and that's one of the qualities that made her famous. So yes, I'm taking Kris' side.
March 12, 2010 at 10:15 am report abuse -
27. di ko alam kanino ako ehh.... iguali nilang dalawa meron ako.. i can play as Kris Aquino everyday and so as Ruffa!
March 11, 2010 at 10:40 pm report abuse -
pms-y26. i wasn't able to catch the buzz when it happened by im taking kris aquino's side on this issue. i've always liked her even though a lot of people don't. she's got character and she makes sure people remember that. i don't think she's bullying ruffa, and i don't think she intends to cut people off when they speak at the show, it's a TALK show. and she talks a lot. much like us posting here, we want to be heard. i think ruffa was too sensitive. and being a showbiz personality, she should know that when you transfer to a different network, words are going to fly out of peoples' mouths and they're not all nice. And to all fun fearless females out there, know how to stand your ground. There won't be a bully if no one's too easy.
March 11, 2010 at 01:58 am report abuse -
Deborah in San Fran25. I love Kris Aquino. She's smart, charismatic and a go getter. I got to meet her in person years ago and she's very warm, genuine and nice to her fans. I think the reason why she so popular and well like by Pinoys all over the world is because a lot of people can identify and relate with her. She's outspoken but you can really see that she's a very genuine person..she's REAL and HONEST.
March 10, 2010 at 11:07 pm report abuse -
24. overall, i think this two ladies still kept the issue professional.no back-stabbing or anything.
March 10, 2010 at 09:47 pm report abuse -
23. Kris is tactless.. Ruffa Hurts..Both Families are affected.. But at the end of the day..Ruffa & Kris will be friends again.. life is too short...they just have to REALLY LEARN.. to Be in Control, Be Patient & Be Confident.. Kris maybe too over confident not knowing she hurts other feelings.. but she's only human..she's not perfect though to know everyone's feeling.. but for her to be a little more sensitive would be a BIG Help..Ruffa must learn too control her emotions too.. afterall, what she did is unprofessional..Never walk-out in any of your commitments.. there's always a time for your emotions...she should have talked to Kris..so the latter would also understand that she's not the only person that matters... :)
March 10, 2010 at 04:51 pm report abuse -
22. Kris may not be likeable to most of us, but we have to admit that she's very smart, articulate and outspoken. character talaga sya kaya people don't mind wasting their time watching her.beside, Philippine showbiz will not be as colorful as it is today without a Kris Aquino in it.only KA can be both tactless and charming at the same time, and that's what endears her to the public.sino pa ba naman kasi ang artistang kayang maging super straightforward and frank even if that means being hated by most people di ba?
March 10, 2010 at 01:36 pm report abuse -
-21. i don't ever know why kris aquino has fans. she's not even likeable in the first place.
March 10, 2010 at 12:17 pm report abuse -
20. d namn cla ngplastikan ng mgapologize n rin si kris..it's just good manners.....the end
March 10, 2010 at 07:56 am report abuse -
19. If somebody is trying to bully you, you have to speak up!
March 10, 2010 at 07:07 am report abuse -
18. team ruffa for me, kris really is a bully and very insensitive. Good thing anabelle rama was there to defend her offspring
March 09, 2010 at 11:23 pm report abuse -
17. we need to grow up all!!!
March 09, 2010 at 10:09 pm report abuse -
16. 16. deadma na lang sana si ruffa. di na sya nasanay sa ugali n kris. i don't think kris will ever change her pagiging taklesa. not this or any event in the future can make her change. that is what she is tactless..
March 09, 2010 at 09:41 pm report abuse -
15. 15. i think kris was insensitive that time and it alo pains her that ruffa is leaving with her statement and that day ruffa is having a bad hair day.
March 09, 2010 at 06:33 pm report abuse -
14. 14. showbizz...
March 09, 2010 at 06:32 pm report abuse -
13. Natural sa showbiz ang away.Walang bago,normal na tao lang...
March 09, 2010 at 04:04 pm report abuse -
witchy_witch12. na-misunderstand lang ni ruffa ung cnabi ni kris,wla nman masama sa cnabi ni kris..at ska all of us knew na ganun lang talaga c kris so hindi na bago un..ruffa should know it..masyado lang sya naging emotional...
March 09, 2010 at 03:49 pm report abuse -
erica11. insecure lang si kris kay ruffa sa set when it comes to beauty ,mas beauteous naman c ruffa, eversince naman napakainsensitive ni kris eh,shes nasty sa mga comments nya she should learn how to put her feet on the ground.
March 09, 2010 at 02:02 pm report abuse -
10. 9. We all know na talagang ganon lang magsalita si Kris.. I'm convinced na wala namang masamang meaning yung comment niya kay Ruffa..
March 09, 2010 at 01:30 pm report abuse -
9. This happens not only on tv but also in the office. Thanks for this article.
March 09, 2010 at 01:25 pm report abuse -
8. I'd like to learn how to really keep my cool.I have such a short temper and one sassy mouth which always gets me in trouble.If given the chance, I'll enroll in anger management course talaga.Di naman ako insensitive or overly sensitive, short-fused lang talaga.Tama si toughgurl, dapat balance talaga in everything, hindi ung puro sarili na lang iniisip natin without taking into consideration how the other party feels.
March 09, 2010 at 10:36 am report abuse -
7. elyz is right, hirap kasi si ruffa mag decide since un come back career nia napalago nung show. sana nung tahimik na sia di na si kris nag reverse psychology na sarcastic comment na "mas masay dito diba" un words na un nag triger kay ruffa, parang naguilty sia na bakit pa sia umalis. decoding wat kris had said, is bakit ka pa aalis eh ok naman dito, is the price it right kaya ka lilipat. parang ganun so si rufa being emotional cant handle anymore, pero professional pa rin sia at di basat nag walk out on air, off air na lang ata. then she was crying na pero pinipilit pa rin niyang pigilan, at uminom na lang ng tubig so tears wouldnt fall out. para saken may mga limits sa mga words na binabato kung sa tingin ng iba walang masamang sinabi si kris, sa intanation ng boses ia parang meron, although we know na ganun na sia eversince. pero may something pa rin sa bitaw ng words nia that lead ruffa triggers all the mean things kris done to her on air. eversince naman nung bumalik si kris lage na nia binabara si ruffa, so i think na triger na ang lahat ng ruffa. un lang...
March 09, 2010 at 09:41 am report abuse -
6. ako naman, I personally believe na dapat hindi tayo insensitive and too sensitive at the same time. dapat balanced lang lahat.=)
March 09, 2010 at 08:48 am report abuse -
neutral5. Tama si elyz iza.. hinid ako kumakampi kay kris or ruffa kasi both sides have mistakes.. kay kris, hindi dapat siya nang iinterrupt even though she has a lot of wise things to say dahil kabastusan iyon.. while si ruffa naman ay dapat hindi masyadong sensitive at pahabain pa ang pasensya at never makipag away sa cam. Kris, my advice to you is don't be rude and let others say their opinion too.. while for Ruffa, i saw your patience when I watched the Buzz last Saturday but if you dont wanna be the topic of every newspaper, just be humble and make your patience longer. Kris, i know you are famous but your feet should always be on the ground. Ruffa, wag masyado sensitive.. because you're just destroying yourself to the public.. :)
March 09, 2010 at 07:53 am report abuse -
4. still go for kris! kasi ung words na gimanit naman nya was "mas masaya dito" means ayaw nya paalisin si ruffa!
March 09, 2010 at 07:34 am report abuse -
3. You'll regret it if you don’t speak up.--- so true! Kasi naman may mga tao talagang insensitive kaya 'pag dka mag-react, kawawa ka. Minsan talaga, nakakainis na ganun si Kris kay Ruffa. Maski kay Boy Abunda, nagagawa din nya ang barahin or mag-interrupt habang nagsasalita pa ang tao, it's so unethical. Anyway, in time, hopefully, magkakabati din silang dalawa.
March 09, 2010 at 01:04 am report abuse -
2. Im Team Ruffa. Pero I heard nag sorry na si kris, Im team kris na din. Peace na sana lahat! I like them both!
March 09, 2010 at 12:45 am report abuse -
1. Always be patient. It's my no.1 rule! Patience is a virtue right!
March 09, 2010 at 12:43 am report abuse
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