We met up with Bakit Hindi Ka Crush ng Crush Mo? star Xian Lim during BDO's intimate luncheon (how cute is it that he's endorsing the bank with his mom Mary Anne Cruz-Lim?), where he talks ligaw tactics, rejection, and what really catches his attention. Because yes, we do have a fighting chance at winning Xian's heart!
Your new movie with Kim Chiu talks about being friendzoned. Have you ever been friendzoned by a girl?
"When I lived in the States, I wasn't the stud at all. I never stood out. I was the chubby, shy kid—the kid who didn't belong. I really didn't feel I was so wanted by many. So 'yung mga crush ko 'nun, [hindi ako pinapansin]. Sabi nga ni Ramon Bautista sa book niya, isa sa mga reasons kung bakit hindi ka crush ng crush mo, eh wala ka sa radar niya. Hindi ka niya napapansin! He doesn't know you exist."
So how do you reverse that?
"I was in an awkard stage when that happened to me. So I didn't do anything. But I think now, if I really like a girl, magpaparamdam ako. I'd do it the traditional way: I'd send her flowers. I would make [her] suyo. I'd try to get in her zone."
(Halfway through Xian's interview, mom Mary Anne suddenly comments, "He's very creative. An ordinary guy would just give flowers. Pero yung flowers sa kanya, will be in the shape of something.") So cute!
Do you like spoiling your girl?
Not on things, maybe. I'd spoil her with my time. Emotional investment. I'm not a big believer in material things.
What's a deal breaker for you?
Attitude. Mahilig ako sa malambing, sa thoughtful. And if I feel that a girl I'm dating is rude, I shut down. I put up a wall.
What is it about a girl that catches your attention?
The scent really catches my attention. I'm the type of guy who likes a sweet scent. When I can smell that from far away, mapapatingin talaga ako.