I was watching The Buzz last Saturday, and in the segment "Heart-to-heart With Charlene," the beautiful Melissa Ricks was put on the hot seat. After the customary plugging of her new soap, she was then asked about her recent breakup with Jake Cuenca. Her confident aura took a 180-degree turn. Her eyes welled up with tears, her voice cracked, and her smile grew fazed. I wanted to reach into the TV set and give her a tight hug. I wanted to hand her the August 2011 ish of Cosmo and say, "Guuurl, 'The Cosmo Breakup Book' (p.90) will help you through this!"

Like Melissa and surely like many of you as well, I've had my heart broken before, too. Been there. Done that. Felt like sh*t.

Past Is Past

"I wished then that he'd look back one last time as he walked away. But, he didn't. And, it was at that precise moment that my heart broke."

Eeeew, ang cheesy. No, those aren't lines from a sappy, trashy romance. Instead, those were but a few scribbles from a journal I kept eons ago, from a time when a pen and a spiral Jordi Labanda notebook were ready crutches for my every emotion.  Emo na kung emo (and thinking about it now, slightly O.A. pala), but the tear-stained sheets spoke of a pain so intense, it was nearly physical.

While it may seem like lifetimes ago, I still remember how heartbreak paralyzed me. It was scary and consuming, heavy and numbing. I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, and I was always looking for an easy distraction. Did they work? Well, not quite. But, "trying to be okay" kept me busy.

The Fix

I suppose that's simply what you have to do when battling debilitating heartbreak: Swallow the bitter pill and believe you'll be okay until you are.

It's a tiresome trudge, I tell you, but one day, you'll wake up and it won't hurt too much anymore. Next, you'll wake up and be excited at the prospect of falling in love all over again. And finally, even absolutely more thrilling, is the day when that next beautiful love arrives. (Kilig, promise!)

Staging The Walkout

Looking back, I realize that it was exactly because he didn't look back that I got to move on...and move on quite beautifully at that.

Every time I asked for a sign to move on, the universe handed me several on silver platters. This led me to conclude that we all need that constant nudge from reality to walk out on pain. And, you'll need a whole lot of self-love to choose to be happy again.

All The Lovers

Going back, I really do hope Melissa Ricks reads this and picks up the August 2011 ish of Cosmo. Same goes for all you lovers out there in the same boat.

There's no belittling the pain, I know. But, the promise of moving on to better, grander things is highly underestimated. One day, you'll get there and laugh all of this off. 'Til then, trudge strong.

The August issue of Cosmo with Angelica Panganiban on the cover comes with a must-read Heartbreak Special that'll make breakups much more bearable.

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