Man, (500) Days Of Summer is one depressing movie. The tagline says it all: “Boy meets girl. Boy falls in love. Girl doesn’t.” Somehow, tales of unrequited love ring true for the general population, because we all have our own sob stories to share. I’d like to think that in as much as death is the great equalizer, love also shares the same equalizing properties—everyone falls prey, no one is spared.
Whether you care to admit it or not, we’ve all been fools for love. The promise of forever with your ideal man is just too irresistible that we’d fight tooth and nail to have it happen to us. Once upon a time, I crushed on this boy so hard that I threw a bitch fit after learning that he was hanging out with a close friend. It’s not like it was said friend’s fault that the man of my dreams liked spending time with her. I just couldn’t (or didn’t want to) wrap my head around the fact that he didn’t enjoy my company as much, when I was oh-so-hopelessly devoted to him. Reality bites, and I walk away with a bruised ego. How lucky of me.
Others who aren’t quite as lucky give up so much of themselves before they even start to come to terms with the glaring “He’s Just Not That Into You” truth. In the quest for true love, some of the smartest women I know lose their ability to distinguish simple right from wrong. I’m a big fan of arguing in bullet points, so here goes.
• A friend who graduated at the top of her class once spent her life savings to pay for a roundtrip plane ticket and accommodations, so her Australian boyfriend could have a relaxing Pinoy getaway and visit her at the same time. Boyfriend in question ended up reuniting with his ex-wife.
• Another friend who is one of the best writers I know lied to her parents, missed a couple of days of work, and flew to a remote province to try to win her man back, as he was having an affair with his cougar-ish boss. She was unsuccessful.
• Yet another friend with a promising career mistook a one-night stand for a potential relationship. He’s been treating her badly and leading her on for the past two years, she’s none the wiser.
It pains me to think that these girls who have so much to give leave so little for themselves. In an ideal world, women everywhere would be aware of their self-worth and know that they deserve to be loved, cherished, and respected. At least, we can take comfort in the fact that men can be just as in love with love.