"What does it feel like to go from physically unattractive to physically attractive?"
This was the question posted by Quora, a question and answer website, which prompted hundreds of former wallflowers to share their personal stories and reveal what they felt and thought about their transformation. Although most were positive, others were bothered by how differently people treated them after they bloomed. Some also felt like they were forced to have different personalities to fit their new image.
Check out these accounts from two beautiful women:
Occupation: Victoria's Secret Model, Actress, App Developer
I didn't technically start being bullied until my super awkward high school years where I all of a sudden found myself at 5'9" and 89 pounds...It's been strange having people regard me at such extremes throughout the course of 15 or so years…I was a late bloomer. Didn't really start looking like a model until after college. So it's been a rather jarring experience having people see and treat me the way they suddenly do now.
The perks of being good looking: People offer me a lot more freebies, I make money off of my looks through modeling, strangers talk to me more often, more people listen to me and laugh at my jokes, and I even have the occasional suitor...all good things. On the other hand: Would-be catcallers will sometimes skip the compliments and just call me a bitch as I walk by, some women (although very few) are very catty to me from the get-go, and many people are shocked to find out that I'm anything other than an airhead...that I was a computer science major and that I program iOS apps, for example. Sometimes it all makes me very, very angry. Sometimes even a complimentary cat-call can make my blood boil. Sometimes I feel as if I have to prove myself now just as I felt I had to prove myself then. Can't catch a break, I guess.
I clearly take advantage of my looks. I'm a model for pete's sake... And in general, having beauty and intelligence is super useful during occasions that require me to assert a bit more authority. But when I'm home and completely myself, when my hair is a mess, when I'm wearing my now broken glasses with the tape in the middle, and I'm up coding at 3a.m., I could give my middle-school self a major run for her money. I have to wonder, why didn't they like me then when I'm still the same person now? Why do they like me now? How do I know that they like me now? Does anyone actually really even like me now?
Some things don't leave you.
Occupation: ECE PhD by day, Rockstar by night
My appearance changed quite dramatically from high school to college. My hair calmed down, my skin cleared up, I grew into my gangly, awkward body, I lost the baby fat on my face, and I finally started taking care of my crazy eyebrows. Growing up, I was a nerd. I didn't have many friends, and most of my time was spent alone in my room working on electronics projects, programming, [or] playing guitar or video games.
After I matured, I started going to the gym, and my appearance started changing, I noticed quite a few changes in my lifestyle and how people treated me. This may just be specific to me, but these were the big changes in my life:
- I was no longer a wallflower. People started looking at me when I walked around and [took] notice of my presence. This was weird and unnerving.
- Making friends became a lot easier; I didn't even have to make an effort. I was still weird and offensive and I STILL made friends. I started getting invited to a lot of events and parties. I felt like socializing and going to parties was the "cool" thing to do, and the thing I should do and take advantage of.
- I have two personalities now. One is my real self, which is who my friends and co-workers know, and who makes super nerdy jokes, is wildly inappropriate, and very morbid. The second is the personality I put on for non-technical social situations. No one is going to get my nerdy jokes, even though they may be the first things I think of. I remember once at some fancy party I let one of those jokes slip and got laughed at and called "big bang theory" for the rest of the night.
Do I take advantage of this? Yes, to some degree…It's easier to become famous when you're good looking. So I try to promote my looks to increase my views on my YouTube guitar vids. [But] there are also disadvantages I have encountered. One is having to deal with other girls being competitive or jealous, and being mean to you. This never happened before, so it took me a while to believe that it was a thing. Another is that more often than not, when a stranger approaches you at a party or at a bar, they automatically assume you're not very intelligent.
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