Do We Really Have To Beg Men For Romance?

Posted on September 26, 2011 12:00 am by Veronica
Photo: Courtesy of Pioneer Films ("One Day")

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These days, Logan still calls me babe, whether I like it or not. And whether he likes it or not, I call him "hon." There are times when I call him by his name--his real name--just because it sounds astig to my ears.

But, we had outgrown the things we said we would always do when we first got together. We forgot all about The List. We forgot all about the shared journal. We forgot a lot of things when our focus shifted to our careers. For most couples, that’s usually where the breakup starts, when one shifts his or her focus on career. But in our case, we both shifted our focus toward the same thing, and maybe that sort of kept our relationship going.

Still, there are days when I really can't help but feel that we are just living from one date to another. Like our relationship has lost its flair, and my passion has lost its flame. And that's dangerous, isn't it?

I tried to talk to Logan about it--this lack of romance and passion in our lives. In fact, I talk to him about it on a monthly basis. He always tells me in response that, because of the many things we do separately, we don't have long periods of free time for rekindling that romance.

"'Yun nga e," I protested. "We would become busier as we age, and if we don't deal with this now, it will just get worse. And, you're not romantic! I need passion. I live and breathe in romance, I need it."

"But, babe, romantic naman ako e," he would reassure me. "It's just that 'yung mga hinihiling mo, like 'yung chocolate-covered strawberries, ginagawa 'yon sa special occasions. Romantic naman ako minsan e."

"'Yun nga e, gaano kadalas ang minsan?!" (I really can't believe I said this line.)

"Just be patient. Wala lang tayong time lately."

"Kapag gusto may paraan. Kapag ayaw maraming dahilan."

It would have helped to talk to someone about this. If Sam was still alive, he would have helped me straighten my head out, like he always did. I couldn't talk to Charlie. Nicia was going through a roller-coaster emotional turmoil for the nth time. Gail has been dealing with her own "batugan boyfriend" problems for the past five years. Chi was far away. Lily and Franco were out of reach. I really had no one to talk to, and I was starting to get more and more depressed. So, I resorted to movies again.

But, even the movie industry screwed with my head.

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  Belz06
  7. --it's actually not a guy thing to be romantic.. but they can be sweet sometimes that is barely noticeable by most girls because we tend to expect to expect more from them.
  October 14, 2011 at 09:20 pm report abuse
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  juliecastillo20
  6. Sometimes, we really do... :(((
  October 03, 2011 at 10:58 pm report abuse
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  ahbby312
  5. Hayy.. I can feel the emotions V.. Whenever Im having a hard time understanding my boyfie its so hard for me to get rid of it.. Kasi ang layo ng mga friends ko.:( We are all apart.. Mostly I have guy friends which I cant get along with most of the time kasi ang tendency pagseselosan.. Hay. It's hard if you dont have some1 to lean on beside ur guy
  September 29, 2011 at 03:44 pm report abuse
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  juliannemartinez
  4. Guys are romantic. Not just the way we expect them to be. :) Concentrate on the small things. :) Have you ever had couple friends that just broke up? What did you feel? Kami kasi parang automatic that we would ask ourselves if dadating ba kami sa ganung point. Then we both realize na we don't want to lose each other. And the fire begins to burn once more. Ganun yata talaga. It's not always good. Pero once it does, boom. :)
  September 26, 2011 at 10:24 pm report abuse
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  christinebusalpa
  3. Guys are less emotional...ung romance nila hnd noticeable by girls...feel it V...feel it...
  September 26, 2011 at 12:13 pm report abuse
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  icx
  2. it happens. mas emotional tayo eh and we can't help but think about a lot of things. my bf always tells me i think too much. pero di ba when you think about it, tama si logan. if he does it all the time, i bet you you'll get fed up nakakasuka na saka nakakasanay na ung romance. mas romantic pag bigla niyang gawin out of the blue.
  September 26, 2011 at 08:06 am report abuse
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  Brooke Heart
  1. I feel you V. I've been there and it happens, but I think Logan loves you so much. Some guys, like my bf and your Logan are not the everyday romantic type of guy but I know they love us the best way they can. :)
  September 26, 2011 at 12:46 am report abuse

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