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Months after I landed the Cosmo gig, I became so busy with my own life that I didn't have time to look behind my back to see who was talking. When I asked my former boss for advice, he told me that gossip will always be there. It'll follow me to the ends of the earth. No matter where I go, what I do, and who I'm with, gossip will continuously spin in my world.

"Deep people talk about ideas," my former boss said. "Average people talk about events. Shallow people talk about everyone else."

It's true: There will always be people who will talk behind your back whether you do your best or you suck. Small people always do, insecure people like Fiona, Jack, and Karmi, who squeeze their way into tight, classy circles because they want to be part of the "elite group" in the agency. (Click here to read an article on how to deal with insecure people.) Whenever I look at them now, I realize that even if you try your best to hang out with people who are well-mannered, poised, and classy, that doesn't make you one of them. Even if you spend the whole day rubbing elbows with people who are elegant and intelligent, class and wit aren't things you can rub all over yourself like whitening lotion.

These days, I surprise myself with how good I've become at handling the mega nega rumors I continue to hear about me. For someone who lives under constant scrutiny, it came to a point where I actually snickered when I heard some of the wacky scenarios the evil trio--Fiona, Karmi, and Jack—spread about me, especially the one that involved me sleeping with one of the bosses.

If I heard the Veronica Sleeping Around Gossip a few months before, my blood pressure would have skyrocketed to the great beyond and expletives would've started coming out of my mouth like bullets from a machine gun. But these days, I even look forward to hearing wicked—and, most of the time, ridiculous—gossip about the girl with balls the size of Jupiter. It makes every cell in my body come to life; it's crazy!

Does gossip bother me? Do I really care what other people say about me? No.

I've learned that pathetic people will always talk about those who are larger than life, regardless of what they do and how they live their lives. Truth is, you can't please everybody. No matter what you do and what you say, you will always have detractors who will bite your butt to slow you down.

Whenever my friends come to me to retell the latest blind items people throw at them, I give them the same advice: laugh it off. Better yet, laugh in their faces.

If there's one saying about gossip that I really took seriously, it's this: People talk behind your back because you are ahead.

I think the universe thought I needed this. For the longest time, I depended on someone else to watch my back for me. With Sam gone, I needed to learn how to survive in an environment where crab mentality was treated like the latest fad diet.

I learned to fend for myself and my character became stronger. I learned to embrace my faults and love myself for my weaknesses and strengths. I learned to be at ease with myself. And I learned to look after myself in this big and messy corporate world. I was finally able to fix myself from the inside out.

Regardless of the gossip, I'm me. And I think "I'm me" says a lot. I bite.

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