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Butterflies in the stomach. We really don't have control over it, do we? Sometimes, we experience it when we least expect it.

As for our actions and reactions, we have direct and full control over them--and yet, the moment we decide to compromise often takes us by surprise. Even the most stubborn of us. Even me.

Most of my friends are in super-duper long relationships already. Take my high school best friends Gail and Nicia, for instance. Despite the fact that they’re still on the 30-going-on-13 mindset, both their relationships have survived the fabled “Three Year Itch.”

True to form (and I’m proud to admit it), I’m the one in our circle who keeps changing boyfriends. In fact, my siblings James and Cass started betting on how long my present relationship would last. Yes, last year they bet that Logan would last three months and five moths respectively, and they announced the figures over family dinners.

“Ako nga, three weeks lang ang bet ko e,” my father said jokingly.

“Ako six months,” my mother added.

I used to pout over those things. But lately, I find it amusing that they still bet on how long Logan and I would survive without killing each other.

In college, it was Nicia who kept changing boyfriends. “Parang T-shirt lang,” she joked. “Kapag may defect, palitan.” That’s how annoyingly "feeling" she used to be--but in an amusing way, though. She eventually found her match, as I wrote in Season 3.

But isn’t it just insane to put up with something or someone who is clearly in need of an overhaul? A tweak here and a tweak there, sure. But take Archer the Gorgeous for example. Guys like that need an overhaul. Take Matt, for instance. Jerks like that need to rot in hell. Still, given the lessons learned and the present state of mind, I never want to settle for anything less than what I really want.

Back then, I thought that being in a relationship meant dressing up for dates, dining at posh restaurants, partying with each other’s friends all the time, and having goo-goo eyes for the rest of the my life. But as I age, I realized that relationships are more than just movies, dressy dates, teddy bears, and the same likes and dislikes.

On most days, you’d catch each other wearing ratty, old pambahay, doing the dishes or the laundry, cleaning your Payatas of a room, and eating leftover food from the fridge while laughing at noontime shows that you swear you don’t watch but you actually do. There are days when the guy of your dreams becomes your nightmare on Elm Street. There are nights when your blood wouldn’t tingle with passion but curdle in frustration when he chooses a night with his bros than a usual Friday night with you, or to play Assassin’s Creed instead of going to a press movie night. And there are days when he drops by your house unannounced, and you haven't even showered, brushed your teeth, or much less powdered your oily nose. And there would be days when he’d whisper in your ear that you have a huge tagos on one of your Red Alert days.

Yes, there are days when you both feel and look your worst and it could be an everyday thing when you’re living under the same roof. So maybe it’s not really butterflies in the stomach that make a relationship last that long. They say that passion ends when commitment begins. Scary thought, isn’t it? But passion is something that comes and goes. It can ignite, wither, and spark again.

So maybe it’s compromise, patience, and unconditional love.

Maybe it’s those three that enable Logan and me to survive being with each other. After all, we both admitted that we’re both kind of hard to be with. Ironically, two negatives cancel each other out, and we are still together.

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