Who Needs A Boyfriend To Be In Love, Anyway?

Posted on November 24, 2009 12:00 am by Veronica

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Two years and a million funny anecdotes later, I got the chance to talk to Charlie, a dear college friend, via YM. Under normal circumstances, it would have been amusing that she’s going through the same shitty situation as mine.

Oh yes, Charlie is a girl, who refuses to use her given name “Charlene” because it’s too feminine. Since we both have the same penchant for colorful language, expensive coffee, and cheesy talk, we got right along since junior year of college.

Charlie is in love—at least that was what she told me at first—with an old flame back in high school. So I pressed, “You mean you already have a boyfriend?!” Emphasis on the exclamation point here, because as far as I can remember, Charlie is a member of the No-Boyfriend-Since-Birth Society.

“Who said you need to have a boyfriend to be in love?” she said with a grimace.

Bull’s eye!

She started telling me about her current, umm, affair/date thing. She sounded so happy at first, but after a few days of non-stop cheesy talk, she told me that Jan (the HS flame) started giving her the cold shoulder after the first hint of impatience (read: subtle hints of "So, what are we anyway?").

When Charlie began to sound depressed, I decided to share with her a few snippets of my experiences of late, hoping it might cheer her up. God knows my situation is far more confusing than hers. Truth is, I’m the biggest chicken left hanging in midair here.

Hearing what I’m going through seemed to inspire her—especially since this made her realize she’s not the only one suffering from this sense of “not knowing." I think I’ve just Cosmo-tized a friend. *Clap clap*

And exchanging way too personal stuff with Charlie--that simple act of opening up to a dear friend--led to a great realization.

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  lavfifth
  25. Knowing that you're not the only could make you feel better..hope you had learned the lesson earlier..
  April 28, 2010 at 09:32 am report abuse
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  lalabong
  24. It feels great to have someone you can talk to about your own personal problem.
  March 08, 2010 at 06:41 am report abuse
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  handpaintedsky
  23. it feels good to have an old friend around. :)
  February 07, 2010 at 09:05 am report abuse
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  shirleylim26
  22. Sharing your own story to others is a good sign of realizing what have you done to yourself lately. That was aweome V!
  February 06, 2010 at 01:29 pm report abuse
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  donnaportia
  21. It must have been a great relief to know that someone out there understands you.
  February 02, 2010 at 09:38 pm report abuse
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  fishbowl84
  20. best of luck to both of you V..
  January 30, 2010 at 08:42 pm report abuse
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  joyfulmom
  19. it takes two to make it right...
  January 29, 2010 at 05:08 pm report abuse
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  miss_techylicious
  18. it's always great when you have someone around you who can understand how you feel.
  January 28, 2010 at 01:34 pm report abuse
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  prettylass8831
  17. Don't sell yourself short. You should be with someone who values you and loves you the same way you love him.
  January 24, 2010 at 09:37 am report abuse
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  veronica11
  16. @torque15: i hope i see my silver lining soon.
  January 24, 2010 at 01:28 am report abuse
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  len9
  15. it's hard to love someone who does not love you back.
  January 23, 2010 at 02:00 pm report abuse
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  torque15
  14. ive been told before - choose someone who loves you more over another whom you love dearest. agree? although yes it is better said than done, i now see the silver lining behind this gold mine told by a peer :)
  January 22, 2010 at 10:53 pm report abuse
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  fatalframe
  13. i've been "in love" with a man for like 8 years. he doesn't know i exist haha.
  January 22, 2010 at 04:06 pm report abuse
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  jhe_1212
  12. ano nman kaya ang narealize mo huh????
  January 11, 2010 at 12:59 pm report abuse
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  summerinparis128
  11. never set any expectations when it comes to love,its not always reciprocated.pro ms happy p dn un pareho kau ngmamahalan db?
  January 09, 2010 at 06:18 am report abuse
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  prettylass8831
  10. Being in a relationship with no commitment is really hard. You should get out of it before your feelings get too involved.
  January 06, 2010 at 03:09 pm report abuse
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  Myrajoy
  9. Sometimes love is not a " vice versa" thing...I totally agree with her!..hehe
  January 04, 2010 at 01:35 pm report abuse
• rhia
  8. I think what V meant was nobody needs someone to be "in love" perse. I also agree with Vhye when she said "to love" is a two-way street. But the two concepts are on the different planes.
  November 26, 2009 at 03:50 pm report abuse
• Honey121
  7. I sooo agree!
  November 26, 2009 at 12:37 am report abuse
• patty
  6. true, true
  November 25, 2009 at 11:03 am report abuse
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  cybercrash
  5. well, love is not a one way street, it takes two to tango.. right?
  November 25, 2009 at 01:32 am report abuse
• vhye
  4. ...but to love and not to be love in return really hurts especially if the one you love knows how you feel for him but he doesn't even care..will you be happy and contented loving him without him returning the same feeling?...: (
  November 24, 2009 at 08:29 pm report abuse
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  christineorias
  3. @vhye: the realization is, we don't necessarily need a partner to be in love. there's so many reasons to be in love.. :)
  November 24, 2009 at 06:24 pm report abuse
• Honey121
  2. Bitin! Bitin!
  November 24, 2009 at 11:07 am report abuse
• vhye
  1. ...what would be that realization?...bitin naman!
  November 24, 2009 at 02:12 am report abuse

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