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4 Steps To Get Over A Guy Who's Not Into You
Stop pining for a man who doesn't feel the same way. Not only is it painful, it keeps you from finding the one who does.
Posted on September 23, 2009 12:00 am by Claire Betita-Samson
Photo: Courtesy of Sony Pictures
Posted on September 23, 2009 12:00 am by Claire Betita-Samson
Photo: Courtesy of Sony Pictures
1. Call once. If you feel you've been slighted, resolve your uncertainty by simply making a quick call after a few days, advises Bob Berkowitz, co-author of What Men Won't Tell You But Women Need to Know. If he's no longer interested, it should come through loud and clear. No harm done.
2. Speak up. "I should have brought up our relationship," says Mica, a book editor who had been seeing Jake, a business executive. Even while they were meeting up and getting together in different Asian countries, there was absolutely no talk about the kind of relationship they were having. "I didn't want to appear O.A. or uncool," she says about why she didn't ask him about it. Make sure you ask your guy about your relationship at some point.
3. Nip it in the bud. Accept that he's not interested in you. Yes, it will sting—but it will be brief. That's better than the endless, agonizing torture you'll be experiencing in an unpromising relationship.
4. Move on. Have other activities that don't depend on a man, says Abby Hirsch, co-author of What Men Don't Tell Women. Channel your energies into ego-boosting to-dos like working out, taking up a sport, or simply catching up with old friends. This way, you not only free yourself from emotional stress and improve yourself in the process, you increase your chances of meeting a guy who's truly into you.
2. Speak up. "I should have brought up our relationship," says Mica, a book editor who had been seeing Jake, a business executive. Even while they were meeting up and getting together in different Asian countries, there was absolutely no talk about the kind of relationship they were having. "I didn't want to appear O.A. or uncool," she says about why she didn't ask him about it. Make sure you ask your guy about your relationship at some point.
3. Nip it in the bud. Accept that he's not interested in you. Yes, it will sting—but it will be brief. That's better than the endless, agonizing torture you'll be experiencing in an unpromising relationship.
4. Move on. Have other activities that don't depend on a man, says Abby Hirsch, co-author of What Men Don't Tell Women. Channel your energies into ego-boosting to-dos like working out, taking up a sport, or simply catching up with old friends. This way, you not only free yourself from emotional stress and improve yourself in the process, you increase your chances of meeting a guy who's truly into you.
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24. don't hurt yourself, accept the fact na you two are not really for each other.
March 23, 2010 at 08:38 pm report abuse -
23. move on, that's the best thing to do.
March 23, 2010 at 08:37 pm report abuse -
22. There are many fish in the sea!
March 12, 2010 at 12:19 pm report abuse -
21. you have to keep moving forward. Don't dwell on the past. There are so many fishes in the ocean girl!
March 07, 2010 at 02:52 pm report abuse -
20. Yes, it's true. Accept that he's not interested in you. Mas nakakahiya pag pinipilit mo sarili mo.
February 16, 2010 at 10:45 pm report abuse -
19. move on.. move forward. that way you'll meet someone more deserving of your love.
February 07, 2010 at 07:08 pm report abuse -
18. Life is too short to waste on someone who doesn't appreciate you.
February 05, 2010 at 10:45 am report abuse -
17. V should read this! :) na alala ko cya tuloy sa bedroom blog.
February 04, 2010 at 02:00 pm report abuse -
16. Women should have to move forward. Forget the past and keep moving. There are so many guys out there. There is really one who is meant only for you. You have to learn how to wait.
February 04, 2010 at 08:07 am report abuse -
15. Accept that he's not interested in you. Yes, it will sting—but it will be brief then moveon.-that's life,we dnt always gt wht we wnt.
February 01, 2010 at 02:22 am report abuse -
14. Move on. It's hard but you must.
January 29, 2010 at 10:44 am report abuse -
13. you have to know if the feeling is mutual.
January 29, 2010 at 12:23 am report abuse -
12. I should have read this article a year ago so I wouldn't be in the dilemma that I'm into now.
January 26, 2010 at 10:00 am report abuse -
11. nice steps. direct to the point yet easy to do.
January 22, 2010 at 11:27 pm report abuse -
wenawina10. I agree with pimpy.. It's like your patay na patay ba sa guy? or your afraid to be alone? or wala ka ng sense ba pag wala ka ng bf? anu ba? self respect nmn. un lng hehe :)
December 17, 2009 at 07:44 am report abuse -
9. correct!
November 14, 2009 at 11:51 pm report abuse -
8. yeah right...
November 08, 2009 at 10:19 pm report abuse -
7. @ pimpy: yeah! it's better to be alone than be with someone who doesn't really like you all that much.
October 02, 2009 at 09:54 am report abuse -
Pimpy6. It is better to dump a man who's not into you than to experience ENDLESS..AGONIZING TORTURE! Believe me it will just make your self esteem low..
October 01, 2009 at 10:27 pm report abuse -
jewel5. true!
September 29, 2009 at 02:30 pm report abuse -
sadas4. sadsa
September 28, 2009 at 04:47 pm report abuse -
3. hay nako. i rily need that..
September 27, 2009 at 02:40 pm report abuse -
andy2. agree ako jan
September 25, 2009 at 03:38 pm report abuse -
1. what if i didnt like the guy whos into me???thats the biggest problem why women/men keep on holding on to tha fact they still have a chance even if theres not!!!
September 25, 2009 at 09:49 am report abuse
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