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4 Tips On Finding Mr. Right
Make it your New Year’s resolution to stop falling for the pwede na guy and finally find true love. (Hint: It all starts with YOU!)
Posted on January 6, 2010 12:00 am by Claire Betita-Samson
Photo: Marlon Corvera
Posted on January 6, 2010 12:00 am by Claire Betita-Samson
Photo: Marlon Corvera

Have the past few years given you nothing but a string of so-so, or worse, sorry relationships? Maybe you need to look inside yourself first to figure out what’s really missing in your life. Heed Cosmo’s advice below.
- Get to know you.
“The only way for a woman, as for a man, to know herself, is through creative work on her own,” says Betty Friedan, author of The Feminine Mystique. Define who you are. Know what you want. And discover what your special qualities are that make you different. “When you truly know yourself, you can make more realistic relationship decisions,” says Peter Hector, author of Love No Guarantee.
- Take responsibility for your own happiness.
No one else can make you happy but yourself. Learning how to create your own happiness alone is a key part of building self-confidence, says US-based psychologist Tom Stevens, PhD. “If you believe that you can take care of your own needs well and be happy even if you are alone, then being alone is nothing to fear.” He adds that creating a happy “self” makes you more confident and attractive.
- Follow your tummy.
Your instincts are your first line of defense against danger. Whenever they tell you something is wrong, they’re usually right.
- Broaden your mind.
“Question and discard thoughts like, 'This is the only person I can be happy with,'" advises Stevens. Hector adds: “Modify your perception of Mr. Right.” Change your outlook. “Your image of Mr. Right might be a lifelong fantasy that bears no relevance to the person you are.”
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56. I really should take heed of these advices. Parang all the time na lang, I settle for someone na pwede na. It's time to focus on myself first before worrying about finding "him". :)
April 30, 2010 at 09:42 am report abuse -
55. U feel fullfilling if u find Mr.rigth and will marry u and live happilly ever after
March 29, 2010 at 07:18 am report abuse -
54. enjoy lang sa single like me. there is mr. Right for us.
March 23, 2010 at 08:16 pm report abuse -
53. just don't find him, dadating yun, for sure.
March 23, 2010 at 08:16 pm report abuse -
52. Find Mr. Right not Mr. Perfect!
March 12, 2010 at 11:57 am report abuse -
51. Girl Instinct never failed...
March 11, 2010 at 10:41 pm report abuse -
50. yes you're right girl..women's instict never failed...
March 08, 2010 at 09:41 am report abuse -
49. Follow your instinct girl! Women's instinct is tried and tested.
March 07, 2010 at 02:31 pm report abuse -
cheer48. i always believe that he's the only person i can be happy with,maybe thats why i'm still single for 3 years now..i want him to be mine but if he's not for me i hope that the right one for me will come,i'm just here waitng...
February 17, 2010 at 02:05 pm report abuse -
47. there are a lot of possible Mr. Right. sometimes. it's the situation that's making him wrong.
February 10, 2010 at 07:09 am report abuse -
46. I'll keep in mind to be happy on my own so that I won't fear being alone.
February 09, 2010 at 08:58 am report abuse -
45. you need to look inside yourself first to figure out what’s really missing in your life
February 08, 2010 at 10:43 pm report abuse -
44. the "ideal man" only exists in our dreams. in reality, there is no perfect guy out there...only "good enough" man.
February 07, 2010 at 11:24 pm report abuse -
43. learn to love yourself first!
February 07, 2010 at 07:25 pm report abuse -
42. we don't have to find them, he'll come when the right time comes.
February 02, 2010 at 09:52 pm report abuse -
41. #1 & #2 are the most important.
February 02, 2010 at 11:37 am report abuse -
40. there is always someone for us,time/perfect timing will lead us to him.
February 01, 2010 at 03:15 am report abuse -
39. I believe that you don't have to find Mr. Right because he WILL come to you. ;) It's worth the wait.
February 01, 2010 at 12:46 am report abuse -
38. Your Mr. Right might just be around the corner. You just have to learn how to wait.Patience is a virtue. You really have to have big patience in finding the right one. There is really meant for you. You really just have to wait.
January 31, 2010 at 05:47 pm report abuse -
37. If you're totally happy with your present man despite the downs and negatives, he's the one. If you have a single doubt about the relationship, it means no.
January 29, 2010 at 04:20 pm report abuse -
36. Know what you are looking for in a man
January 28, 2010 at 05:16 am report abuse -
35. have had a lot (as in a lot!)of heartaches, but then one day i woke up, stop trying to find mr. right...kablam, biglang dumating!
January 26, 2010 at 10:40 pm report abuse -
34. Thanks for this post. and maybe kaya hanggang ngayun ay wala pa rin akong bf dahil sa mga reasons na ganyan? baka lang naman.
January 26, 2010 at 09:05 pm report abuse -
33. i like the take responsibility for your own happiness. its true.
January 26, 2010 at 06:19 pm report abuse -
32. Follow your tummy. I always use that. Hahaha.
January 26, 2010 at 10:19 am report abuse -
31. before i thought he's my mr. right but i was wrong.. but now... after a year i know i met my mr. right na.. si best friend ko pala... hehe
January 25, 2010 at 08:21 pm report abuse -
30. love this..
January 25, 2010 at 08:20 pm report abuse -
29. i hope you girls get to find your mr. right.. i know i did :)
January 25, 2010 at 06:38 pm report abuse -
28. Don't think too much of finding "The One". Be happy on your own.
January 25, 2010 at 03:42 pm report abuse -
27. They say , Collect and collect and then select! I think this one is right. You have to have patience in finding the right one.
January 24, 2010 at 11:53 pm report abuse -
26. Broaden your mind. == not only while you're single but also when you're with someone.
January 23, 2010 at 10:52 pm report abuse -
25. love comes when we're not looking. it is when we are confident and comfortable with ourselves that makes us attractive.:)
January 23, 2010 at 07:34 pm report abuse -
24. if you feel that he is the right one for you go get him , by hook or by crook!
January 23, 2010 at 12:09 am report abuse -
23. Go after your own happiness, and happiness will come at you too. Wag masyadong ipressure ang sarili to find Mr. Right. Minsan pag hindi pinipilit dun dumarating.
January 22, 2010 at 07:50 am report abuse -
22. don't go after the image
January 22, 2010 at 04:33 am report abuse -
21. hay need to meet the wrong guy to see the right one.
January 20, 2010 at 11:14 pm report abuse -
20. Take responsibility for your own happiness.-->THIS IS THE BEST TIP EVER!=)
January 20, 2010 at 08:58 pm report abuse -
19. patience is a virtue, as the saying goes. so trust patiently that God will give you the right guy at the right time :0
January 11, 2010 at 09:06 pm report abuse -
18. just be yourself, love yourself, trust yourself and be realistic and the right guy will find you.
January 08, 2010 at 02:19 pm report abuse -
17. Love yourself..!..hehe
January 08, 2010 at 01:19 pm report abuse -
16. "Take responsibility for your own happiness." Too true! :D
January 08, 2010 at 12:02 am report abuse -
15. i love it :)
January 06, 2010 at 11:55 pm report abuse -
MSDIAZ14. I so like this...
January 06, 2010 at 10:23 pm report abuse -
13. I already wrote this tips on my journal.
January 06, 2010 at 12:05 pm report abuse -
12. when in doubt, don't... doubts are still a valid feeling..
January 06, 2010 at 11:38 am report abuse -
11. always, always trust your instincts ladies!
January 06, 2010 at 11:04 am report abuse -
10. korek! pretty lass
January 06, 2010 at 10:53 am report abuse -
9. You have to love yourself first before you can truly love others.
January 06, 2010 at 10:47 am report abuse -
8. I've been single for more than 2 years now, and I just started enjoying every single moment of it. When I come to think of it, it really helps to take time away from dating and relationships. It helped me discover new passions and rediscover old ones. I also got to discover what I really want from a man. Since I'm the only person who takes care of me, I know how I deserve to be treated. So if ever someone comes along and he respects me any less than the way I respect myself, I would know for sure that he doesn't deserve me. :)
January 06, 2010 at 08:12 am report abuse -
7. I like this one: take responsibility for your own happiness. Some women rush into relationships because they think it would give them happiness and contentment, if you found happiness within yourself, then they won't rush into bad relationships or keep a bad one from falling apart. We deserve better!
January 06, 2010 at 07:55 am report abuse -
6. i wish this was posted 2 yrs. ago .. :DDD
January 06, 2010 at 03:30 am report abuse -
5. Sometimes when you least expect it, the right one comes along. Much like lost items...when you need them, they're not there. But when you don't need them, they're right in front of you.
January 06, 2010 at 02:48 am report abuse -
4. It's really hard to find Mr. Right. I think a woman should not rush in finding one. I agree with the tips listed that we should know who we are and what we want for us to figure out the guy that we would want to spend most of our time with or luckily to spend the lifetime with. I also learn to love being alone this days,I agree that I can make myself happy,I just learn how to appreciate.
January 06, 2010 at 01:53 am report abuse -
3. Sensible post, a must read!
January 06, 2010 at 12:23 am report abuse -
2. Broaden your mind. - a must
January 06, 2010 at 12:16 am report abuse -
1. "Take responsibility for your own happiness." -- super agree! live life to the fullest but be responsible with all your actions =)
January 06, 2010 at 12:02 am report abuse
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