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Get A Life To Get A Boyfriend!

Enjoy singlehood and enhance your life by following these five Cosmo mindsets. The men WILL follow.
Posted on October 14, 2009 12:00 am by Claire Betita-Samson
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“Don’t waste the pretty,” was Greg Behrendt’s mantra when Cosmo chatted with him during his visit to the Philippines in 2006. The author of the bestselling tome He’s Just Not That Into You kept saying that he’s tired of “seeing great women in bullshit relationships.”

Make that half-relationships. Hannah, 25, an IT specialist, had been wallowing in a “sort-of” relationship with Edward, 25, for nearly a year when it hit her that he had never initiated anything between them. “He tells me I’m ‘someone special,’ but I’m not quite his girlfriend,” she reveals.

Meanwhile, Rita, 31, an accountant, insists that her life will get better once she finds her ideal guy. In the meantime, she waits and seldom goes out or tries anything new. “I’m saving myself because I know, darating din siya!”

“Don’t waste your time,” says Behrendt. “Move on to better ground.” That is, if you’re in dating limbo. But what if you’re not dating at all at the moment or in between relationships? All the better, says Greg. His advice to attracting true love: “Get a life!”

1. If you party, he will come.

Christine, 23, a store manager, relates that instead of just having fun at a bar, a party, or dinner with friends, she’d be obsessing over the potential guys she might meet that night. “I used to really dress up for guys—in outfits that I thought would make me more attractive to them, like low-cut tops and miniskirts,” she relates. “Plus, I’d be super-conscious—I had to make sure I looked good every minute.”

It was only when she focused on her own fun and dressed for herself that men started coming up and on to her. “I’ve stopped the short skirts and tight tops—instead I’ve started showing up in my comfy jeans and blouson tops, which I love.” Here’s a hint: Just begin to have fun, and you won’t be able to keep the guys from pounding down your door.

“Plus, if you’re genuinely busy and enjoying yourself, there will be windows of opportunity for you to meet other people,” says Behrendht.

2. Don’t put your life on hold.

“Double standards are alive and kicking: Cool guys get their rocks off, good girls hold out for a rock,” say Andrea Lavinthal and Jessica Rozler, authors of The Hookup Handbook, A Single Girl’s Guide to Living It Up.

“I used to decline a lot of invitations from friends—from going bar-hopping to out-of-town trips,” confides Shelley, 26, an architect. “Wala lang—I just thought then that I’d be able to do all those exciting things once I found the man of my life.”

Don’t wait for Prince Charming to magically appear in your life before you start doing the things you want to do, says Behrendt. Good things can start happening right now. “Start doing the things you love now,” he advises, “and that will ultimately make you more attractive.”

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