MATTRESS MOVES
7 Practical Ways To Enhance Your Sex Life
If you’re stressed from the holiday rush, maybe what you need is a great dose of lovin’. Keep your libido up this Christmas with Cosmo’s get-in-the-mood-for-lust tips.
Posted on December 17, 2009 12:00 am by Leslie Lee
Photo: "Original Sin" courtesy of MGM, "Mr. and Mrs. Smith" courtesy of 20th Century Fox
Posted on December 17, 2009 12:00 am by Leslie Lee
Photo: "Original Sin" courtesy of MGM, "Mr. and Mrs. Smith" courtesy of 20th Century Fox
You appreciate sex for its benefits (both physically and emotionally), but there are times when you just don’t feel like it or you’re performing less sex-sationally. Maybe you just can’t squeeze it in your insane Yuletide schedule, or you and your honey are rarely left alone these days with all the family and friends you need to see. But when, more often, you’re out of your erotic element, you start to wonder: Is there something wrong with me? Am I becoming frigid? Cosmo tells you: Relax. Every red-blooded Pinay experiences low lust levels every now and then. Here’s how to make sure your sexual drive doesn’t dip.
1. Spice It Up
What you eat says a lot about your sex drive. Sure, chocolates and wine—common Christmas gifts—are great for boosting romance. But if skilled sexercise is what you’re after, inject a touch of spiciness in your dishes. Spicy food, or those seasoned with chili, can “stimulate the nervous system and enhance feelings of sexual arousal,” according to the article “Recipe for Better Sex: What To Eat To Add Spice.” So, go on and indulge in wasabi-soaked sushi and super-anghang Bicol Express. They’ll make you hot in more ways than one.
2. Go Fish
“Sex is really about circuitry,” says Dr. Barbara Bartlik, assistant professor of psychiatry and sex therapist with the Human Sexuality Program at Weill Cornell Medical Center. Meaning, your blood needs to flow—and keep flowing properly—in order to really feel that sexual high. The right food to munch on? Those rich in Omega-3 fatty acids like fish since Omega-3 makes your nervous system function better,” adds Bartlik. Add a fish dish to your holiday menu.
3. Ditch The Routine
Most couples often feel sex is boring when they always do it in the same sack style. Take it from Ben, 30, IT specialist: “When my girl and I have sex the exact same way we always do—missionary-style—it gets predictable. And, sad to say, when sex gets predictable, I don’t really feel the urge to jump into bed whenever I’m with her.”
Don’t fret about being stuck in that sexual rut forever. “Sexual intensity (or lack thereof) is a personal choice. It’s not a condition,” assures Lou Paget, author of How To Be A Great Lover. “It can be created or recreated very quickly.” He adds that all you need is “a little inspiration.”
Add more variety and spontaneity into your sexual routine, like what Tala, 27, video editor, did when she noticed that she and her boyfriend were having sex less often. “Our sexual chemistry seemed to have lost its magic,” she recalls. What she did to beat the blahs, Tala shares, was to suddenly grab her guy’s leg under the table while they were out having dinner with friends. “That move really shocked him,” Tala says, “but he was so turned on by my sudden boldness that we left the restaurant quickly and finished the deed in his condo.” Since then, their sex life was infinitely better.
4. Get Moving
Are you the tamad type who thinks doing desk stretches is equivalent to exercise? Chances are, your sexual stamina needs some work. Nix that sedentary lifestyle, hit the gym for some real exercise, and you’ll find yourself raring to jump your man’s bones.
“The surest way to whet sexual appetite and increase sexual activity is through physical exercise,” writes Amy Painter in Exercises to Improve Your Sex Life. “Aerobic exercise revs up hormones, flushes stress, whittles away fat, and rejuvenates the body...regular exercise also increases blood flow to the genitals, priming men and women for sex.” Exercise also causes your body to produce and release endorphins, thus prepping you for some bedtime action. Hey, even your rigorous Christmas shopping (think hours of walking around the mall in a rush) can do the trick.
1. Spice It Up
What you eat says a lot about your sex drive. Sure, chocolates and wine—common Christmas gifts—are great for boosting romance. But if skilled sexercise is what you’re after, inject a touch of spiciness in your dishes. Spicy food, or those seasoned with chili, can “stimulate the nervous system and enhance feelings of sexual arousal,” according to the article “Recipe for Better Sex: What To Eat To Add Spice.” So, go on and indulge in wasabi-soaked sushi and super-anghang Bicol Express. They’ll make you hot in more ways than one.
2. Go Fish
“Sex is really about circuitry,” says Dr. Barbara Bartlik, assistant professor of psychiatry and sex therapist with the Human Sexuality Program at Weill Cornell Medical Center. Meaning, your blood needs to flow—and keep flowing properly—in order to really feel that sexual high. The right food to munch on? Those rich in Omega-3 fatty acids like fish since Omega-3 makes your nervous system function better,” adds Bartlik. Add a fish dish to your holiday menu.
3. Ditch The Routine
Most couples often feel sex is boring when they always do it in the same sack style. Take it from Ben, 30, IT specialist: “When my girl and I have sex the exact same way we always do—missionary-style—it gets predictable. And, sad to say, when sex gets predictable, I don’t really feel the urge to jump into bed whenever I’m with her.”
Don’t fret about being stuck in that sexual rut forever. “Sexual intensity (or lack thereof) is a personal choice. It’s not a condition,” assures Lou Paget, author of How To Be A Great Lover. “It can be created or recreated very quickly.” He adds that all you need is “a little inspiration.”
Add more variety and spontaneity into your sexual routine, like what Tala, 27, video editor, did when she noticed that she and her boyfriend were having sex less often. “Our sexual chemistry seemed to have lost its magic,” she recalls. What she did to beat the blahs, Tala shares, was to suddenly grab her guy’s leg under the table while they were out having dinner with friends. “That move really shocked him,” Tala says, “but he was so turned on by my sudden boldness that we left the restaurant quickly and finished the deed in his condo.” Since then, their sex life was infinitely better.
4. Get Moving
Are you the tamad type who thinks doing desk stretches is equivalent to exercise? Chances are, your sexual stamina needs some work. Nix that sedentary lifestyle, hit the gym for some real exercise, and you’ll find yourself raring to jump your man’s bones.
“The surest way to whet sexual appetite and increase sexual activity is through physical exercise,” writes Amy Painter in Exercises to Improve Your Sex Life. “Aerobic exercise revs up hormones, flushes stress, whittles away fat, and rejuvenates the body...regular exercise also increases blood flow to the genitals, priming men and women for sex.” Exercise also causes your body to produce and release endorphins, thus prepping you for some bedtime action. Hey, even your rigorous Christmas shopping (think hours of walking around the mall in a rush) can do the trick.
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40. i'll start memorizing them all.
June 29, 2010 at 02:51 am report abuse -
39. whoaa...cant wait for my hub na..grrrr
April 15, 2010 at 11:47 am report abuse -
38. do expose your body in front of him..like u make dress after shower ,,men excite for that
March 29, 2010 at 07:30 am report abuse -
37. Ditch the routine is to simply end the monotony in the relationship. Be adventurous and try something new all the time.
March 07, 2010 at 11:54 am report abuse -
36. Man, I think I need to print out all these tips... Hehe!
February 10, 2010 at 03:05 pm report abuse -
35. To enhance Sex life ditch The Routine. Try other positions and he'll surely surprised.
February 09, 2010 at 07:10 pm report abuse -
34. Try also watching sexy movies together. You'll see the result after.
February 09, 2010 at 08:11 am report abuse -
33. spontaneous is fun! it adds excitement :)
February 07, 2010 at 03:11 pm report abuse -
32. Channel Your Inner Sexy - the easiest for me. *wink
February 07, 2010 at 12:52 pm report abuse -
31. Do The Squeeze - whoa.. this is new to me.
February 07, 2010 at 12:52 pm report abuse -
30. I should add spice to my diet.
February 07, 2010 at 09:46 am report abuse -
29. angelina jolie is sooo hot!!
February 04, 2010 at 01:47 pm report abuse -
28. so sexy!
February 02, 2010 at 05:47 am report abuse -
27. spice it up.try something new & it will gv better results.
February 01, 2010 at 04:14 am report abuse -
26. Get Moving
January 29, 2010 at 04:59 am report abuse -
25. yup! Routine s*cks. Try something different naman for a change.
January 28, 2010 at 02:19 pm report abuse -
24. i wanna be like angelina jolie..smoldering hot!!! :)
January 28, 2010 at 08:30 am report abuse -
23. Confidence is key
January 28, 2010 at 05:42 am report abuse -
22. I need an exercise talaga..haha
January 27, 2010 at 02:45 pm report abuse -
21. Doing the deed is a great way to lose some pounds.
January 26, 2010 at 08:08 am report abuse -
20. these are all great! i especially love #5 and #7. thanks you. :)
January 24, 2010 at 03:32 pm report abuse -
19. Number 5 is easy. We can do this anywhere, even if you're in the bus or sitting elsewhere. Just make sure you don't pee in your pants/skirt or shorts! ;)
January 23, 2010 at 09:29 pm report abuse -
18. NUMBER 3 IS VERY VERY VERY HELPFUL
January 23, 2010 at 05:15 pm report abuse -
17. I'm not really fond of fish but to spice up my sex life I'd better eat more of it.
January 22, 2010 at 09:20 am report abuse -
16. I think kung nagsisimula pa lang kayo in a honeymoon stage or something, doing it daily ay hindi nakakasawa =)
January 22, 2010 at 07:57 am report abuse -
15. make it twice a week so that it would not be nakaka sawa!
January 21, 2010 at 02:26 pm report abuse -
14. oysters and spicy food could do the trick ;)
January 21, 2010 at 12:35 pm report abuse -
13. another sensible topic...keep 'em comin' cosmo ^^
January 15, 2010 at 10:50 pm report abuse -
12. I didn't know that spicy food can increse libido. Thanks for the informative article.
January 14, 2010 at 10:06 am report abuse -
11. hahaha ill do it for my hubby the spicy food//..
January 08, 2010 at 07:43 pm report abuse -
barbiemagicalprincess10. this will help me in the future but right now i'm not yet ready. i love reading cosmo.
January 03, 2010 at 11:09 pm report abuse -
9. guess who's having bicol express for dinner? LOL
December 30, 2009 at 06:34 pm report abuse -
8. Cool article! =)
December 30, 2009 at 08:23 am report abuse -
7. @prettylass .. oh yeah i agree ,, me too ..
December 29, 2009 at 05:28 pm report abuse -
6. already tried some of the tips here. thanks!
December 29, 2009 at 11:43 am report abuse -
5. thanks for the tips.
December 29, 2009 at 02:11 am report abuse -
4. wala dito hubby ko , but i'll try this tips when he arrives home.
December 27, 2009 at 11:24 am report abuse -
3. These tips are really helpful but sometimes I'm just way too busy to have sex. Hehe..
December 23, 2009 at 04:41 pm report abuse -
2. ♥i super love ur advice in all aspect especially when it comes to this sensible matters =)
December 22, 2009 at 03:31 pm report abuse -
1. hahaha why do i have this idea that my man is actually reading your bed room blog?... thanks for the idea cosmo. he actually suggested to try some of the things listed here. i'll do the rest. *wink
December 22, 2009 at 01:44 pm report abuse
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