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10 Ways To Keep Your Man From Cheating
Posted on November 26, 2009 12:00 am by Claire Betita-Samson
KEEP YOUR MAN STRATEGY 4: Clinginess is unbecoming.
“I used to call Nathan and ask what he had done during the day, where he went, and who he went with,” says Patricia, 29, a nurse. “Our phone calls and conversations became 'reporting time' for him.” Patricia also insisted that Nathan go on shopping trips with her, and demanded she come with him to all his activities, including office outings. “I also got mad or sulked if he didn’t reply to my text messages,” she confesses. “The reason that people feel clingy tends to stem from insecurity more than anything else,” says US-based psychologist Dr. Dennis Neder.
KEEP YOUR MAN STRATEGY 5: Keep jealousy in check.
“I go ballistic whenever I catch him looking at other girls,” says Mela, 22, a PR assistant. “Kakainis!” Why do guys look? “We simply appreciate beauty,” says Joel, 30, an entrepreneur. “Trust is a firm belief in the ability, honesty, integrity, reliability and sincerity of another person,” says John Gray, author or Men, Women, and Relationships. “When a man is not trusted, he will automatically begin to withdraw.” We don’t want that, right? “It is a woman’s trust in a man that draws him to her,” says Gray. “”If she trusts that he can and will help, then he gets the message that he is of value and that his best is enough for her to accept and appreciate.”
KEEP YOUR MAN STRATEGY 6: Have your own life.
You count. Be it work, a business, or a tight circle of girlfriends, you have your own world where you are important. Engage in activities you enjoy. Don’t be scared of being on your own. Anna recalls that Tristan was gradually drawn to her again when she stopped caring. “Show him that you can live without him,” she advises.
KEEP YOUR MAN STRATEGY 7: Speak your mind.
Ask for what you want and say it. According to author Sherry Argov, “A strong woman is much more desirable than a 'yes woman' who routinely sacrifices herself.” Rhea never knew the real score about Dennis and his airport fling. She opted to believe Dennis, but realized that it must not happen again. “Establish how you want to be treated from the beginning of the relationship,” she says. “Voice out any doubts you can’t shake off before it gets out of hand and your emotions are unstable.”
KEEP YOUR MAN STRATEGY 8: Be responsible for your own happiness.
The biggest mistake women tend to do is rely on anyone—especially their guy— to make them happy. The thing is, you cannot depend on anyone to make you happy. It’s only you who can make yourself happy. “We have to be happy within ourselves, first and foremost,” says Paul Munchline, author of The Art of Loving. "Establishing a relationship with the right person should only enhance our happiness in life.” Find out what you really want to do, and pursue it.
KEEP YOUR MAN STRATEGY 9: Look out for his fragile ego.
Like it or not, it needs to be stroked. Admit it, we all like being complimented by the opposite sex. But apparently, men need it more. “Women are not the cause of infidelity nor should we be victimized by it,” says Alexandra Penney, author of How to Keep Your Man Monogamous. “It doesn’t happen because we’re not sexy or savvy enough. It happens because a man’s basic ego needs are not being met.”
KEEP YOUR MAN STRATEGY 10: Be the best.
“No longer concerned with staying fit and attractive, a committed woman might lose the allure she once had.” Anna admits that one thing that made Tristan take a second look at other girls was the fact that she had become boring. “I didn’t take as much care of my appearance, I started dressing in ratty stuff,” she says. “Instead of rising to the intellectual discussions that I knew he was fond of, I reduced our conversations to office chismis."
Photo courtesy of Belo Medical Group
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92. noted :)
February 27, 2011 at 11:48 pm report abuse -
91. I dont know how to do this but I keep myself beautiful and I trusted him more. If he will do it again because he did it before then hell will break loose
July 03, 2010 at 09:49 pm report abuse -
90. naiinis ako pag may mga couples na ung guy ngin sa ibang gals khit ksma gf nya.haha.ang pangit.sna never un mangyre saken (never pa nman so far):) or bka nman dko lng npapancn.hmp!ill throw a fit pag gnun!haha.
May 23, 2010 at 05:04 pm report abuse -
89. hahah puro nga Pacquiao,
May 16, 2010 at 01:03 am report abuse -
88. too much of the pacquiao-krista thingy!
May 15, 2010 at 04:28 pm report abuse -
87. nice article. babalik-balikan ko 'to!
March 31, 2010 at 06:14 am report abuse -
86. SOOOOOOOOOOO love this article!!
March 24, 2010 at 04:31 pm report abuse -
85. don't neglect your man.
March 22, 2010 at 07:59 am report abuse -
84. love him deeply and sincerely.
March 22, 2010 at 07:59 am report abuse -
83. Jinky's condition is complicated since she's not only married to Manny. She also has children with him. So if she left him, there is a high possibility that the children will be hurt and the concept of them as a family will be gone. I just hate it how SOME men see women as trophies. I've observed that the high-ranking men in the society tend to have more mistresses. I don't Manny's religious enough to keep him from being loyal to his wife.
March 17, 2010 at 06:10 pm report abuse -
82. ang cute nitong pic!
March 12, 2010 at 12:08 pm report abuse -
81. True! make sure not be overly jealous , be confident and don't provoke your man to be unfaithful. Give them privacy din don't sneak on their stuff to much. It created uncomfortable zones kasi sa guy then tend to be much malihim pa nga e pag ganun.
March 12, 2010 at 05:51 am report abuse -
80. you should trust your man..and we (girls) respect relationships if we knew already that the guy has a gf or wife,omg stay away from him.
March 07, 2010 at 11:58 pm report abuse -
79. Love your boyfriend unconditionally.
March 06, 2010 at 11:10 pm report abuse -
roxy78. if i were jinky i will make ubos manny"s yaman..lol
February 24, 2010 at 02:32 pm report abuse -
marhie77. if i were in jinky's place..i'll fight for what i believe is right..being hurt is already given in the situation,,it will pass..as long as you dont forget to ask GOD'S guidance,, in time,evrything will be alright..
February 16, 2010 at 08:27 am report abuse -
jessica ivler76. trust and love him..it works for me...my bf always tells me that it's one of the things he really appreciates about me, he says that when i'm with him, he feels like he can do anything, achieve anything, because i love and trust him.
February 13, 2010 at 09:27 pm report abuse -
75. make him want you more...
February 10, 2010 at 12:03 pm report abuse -
74. you have to be unpredictable to keep him coming back for more..keep him excited!
February 10, 2010 at 10:50 am report abuse -
73. im everything..pag nagloko sya..mawawala ang everything nya hmp
February 10, 2010 at 10:41 am report abuse -
72. siguro ako mananakot na lang...hehehehe
February 10, 2010 at 10:41 am report abuse -
71. Keep the surprises coming - yep. keep em coming.
February 09, 2010 at 09:03 pm report abuse -
70. being passionate is the key...
February 09, 2010 at 09:02 pm report abuse -
69. When I'm in a relationship I tend to lose myself and focus my attention on my bf. This is something that I'm really working hard to change.
February 09, 2010 at 08:54 am report abuse -
68. I like STRATEGY 3: Keep the surprises coming. A couple should have an air of mystery, and that spontaneous factor. So that relationships would not be boring.
February 08, 2010 at 05:48 pm report abuse -
67. we should have laws against cheating men and mistresses. you know in egypt, when a woman caught her husband in the act with his mistress, she can legally kill both of them.
February 07, 2010 at 11:08 pm report abuse -
66. i really don't like women who go after men who are already taken.
February 06, 2010 at 06:42 pm report abuse -
65. We can't guarantee that a cheating man will always come back to his wife. If he has found true love, peace and happiness with his mistress that he hadn't with his wife, well he's not coming back.
February 02, 2010 at 10:00 pm report abuse -
64. i just hope my husband would never cheat on me. mag papasexy na ako ulit..
February 02, 2010 at 09:07 pm report abuse -
may sangalang63. Someone once said that when you marry someone, he/she possesses 90% of the traits you're looking for in a partner. As the marriage goes on, one will get bored and look for the remaining 10% that he/she cannot find in his/her partner. That's the start of infidelity. When the marriage falls apart, he/she will realize what he/she have lost.
February 01, 2010 at 10:00 pm report abuse -
62. this is to prove in any marriage darating talaga ang temptation nasa lalake na lang kung weak siya at magpapadala, in the end, family pa rin niya un babalikan niya.
February 01, 2010 at 06:50 am report abuse -
61. true love and marriage bliss will keep a guy fr cheating.
February 01, 2010 at 03:06 am report abuse -
60. There's this rumor that jinkee followed Manny sa US para bantayan sya. Nasa US rin kc si Trista e. tsk tsk
February 01, 2010 at 12:21 am report abuse -
59. And if he did beg, reject! If he didn't, well you don't deserve him. And if he didn't but you wanted him back, that's stupidity.
January 30, 2010 at 12:40 am report abuse -
58. Yeah. If I were jinky, break agad. If he loves you, he'll beg for another chance, otherwise, he won't.
January 29, 2010 at 04:39 pm report abuse -
57. well if im jinkee makikipaghiwalay nako kung uulitin pa ulit ni manny ung ganung bagay...after all maganda na naman xa and she has establish her own name and its time to stand at her own feet.well hindi nmn sa hinuhusgahan ko xa kc di ko nmn xa kilala.pero dapat turuan nya rin ng leksyon si manny kc sobra na xa nasasaktan and isipin nya rin ung effect sa mga kids
January 28, 2010 at 10:13 pm report abuse -
56. yeah, i agree with joyful. it's always up to them if they couldnt resist the temptation. if they really love you, why would they want to see another girl in the first place.
January 28, 2010 at 04:19 pm report abuse -
55. First of all I hate mistresses. But when we look and find the real reason why men cheat maybe some women will be shocked, the problem would be us. We have to have open communications with our men. Men love being loved. We should shower them praises and we should be around always. But most importantly we should have our own lives too. We don't have to leave our own friends just for your man we should keep them most especially in times like these. Love yourself first.
January 27, 2010 at 10:10 am report abuse -
54. whatever a woman/wife/gf do, if the man/hubby/bf decides to have an affair, it's his choice but definitely not your fault.
January 26, 2010 at 10:57 pm report abuse -
53. don't give your man the opportunity to cheat. prevention is better than cure
January 26, 2010 at 09:30 pm report abuse -
52. Guys have different reasons for cheating. But whatever reason it is, it is still cheating!!! So, don't allow your men to have the opportunity to cheat. No to cheating.
January 26, 2010 at 10:29 am report abuse -
51. guys usually prefer to get kerida bec it's in their genes. not os sure if this is accurate although i've seen these situation in my entire family. (broken fam kami bec of kabit)
January 25, 2010 at 08:05 pm report abuse -
50. Why do women always have to do the work? Men should learn to be responsible for themselves.
January 25, 2010 at 07:41 pm report abuse -
49. hays mga lalaki tlga!!! lulusot at lulusot... I feel for Jinkee, Pacman should be proud of her.
January 25, 2010 at 06:30 pm report abuse -
48. i hope my man never cheats on me.. or else! so far he's been good naman.. and i try my best to keep him happy.
January 25, 2010 at 06:30 pm report abuse -
47. 10 Ways To Keep Your Man From Cheating...........pacman...ikaw ah!! patawarin mo na ayan ate!!
January 25, 2010 at 06:12 pm report abuse -
46. The woman should also learn to appreciate her man more so that he will realize how lucky he is to have you.
January 25, 2010 at 03:38 pm report abuse -
45. Nothing is for sure about the issue but I dont think that it did good on both parties...
January 25, 2010 at 03:25 pm report abuse -
44. For those who think that their efforts went in vain when the guy said good-bye, then it just shows what a loser he is. Cry a little, don't give up, pursue life with gusto, find your passion, make yourself beautiful, and find a new one. The best revenge is to see him looking at you fazed, "huh, I broke up with her yet she seems fine."
January 25, 2010 at 05:18 am report abuse -
43. my error on the comment, I meant, you are not going down to his level
January 25, 2010 at 05:14 am report abuse -
42. It is right that Jinkee never gave up Manny despite the issue because if she gave up, it would have been easier for the "la mujer esa" to get him. Jinkee had been with Manny from the start,through thick and thin, while the "la mujer esa" only fell for him because of his money. Why should we forgive? If you forgive, you free yourself from the bondage of your man's mistake. You are now going down to his level. If you cheat as well, then it just shows that you are stooping down to his level. If you cannot take it, then get out of the relationship and forgive him still, but don't ever cheat while in a relationship with him because you are putting yourself in the same boat with him who has the fault. It is only but pride that is getting in your way when we think that we carry the burden of the relationship. Both men and women carry the burden and sweetness of the relationship, but women are the quarterbacks, never giving up or compromising and of course, never cheating.
January 25, 2010 at 05:13 am report abuse -
41. well, im not bitter it's just.. ung title pa lang, masyado ng martyr ang girls..
January 24, 2010 at 10:20 pm report abuse -
40. why do guys cheat in the first place.. hay
January 24, 2010 at 10:19 pm report abuse -
39. isn't the fact that he's in a relationship enough that he stay away from it? girls lang ba ang kaya na hindi magcheat? it's irresponsible na tau parati..
January 24, 2010 at 10:19 pm report abuse -
38. why do we always find a way to keep them from cheating? isn't the fact that a guy if he's in a relationship must be kept from cheating?
January 24, 2010 at 10:18 pm report abuse -
37. i agree with #10. if you're the best, ppl will love you no matter what.
January 23, 2010 at 11:29 pm report abuse -
36. Be responsible for your own happiness.:) and dapat nag aayos parin kahit in a relationship na para mukhang blooming lagi.stay interesting and di na siya ngin sa iba.:D
January 23, 2010 at 08:04 pm report abuse -
35. totoo ba itong picture na ito? dapat ang babae lagi ang marunong umintindi at magpatawad, martir!?
January 23, 2010 at 05:19 pm report abuse -
34. Sometimes kasi though you gave everything na, or ginawa mo na lahat but still he cheats. That was a big HURT talaga. You don't know what to do anymore na. Of course better do these 10 ways nalang. Ang importante is ginawa mo dvah?! =)
January 23, 2010 at 01:45 am report abuse -
33. “Establish how you want to be treated from the beginning of the relationship,” my mom also once told me this. that if you're not married yet and you let your bf flirt w/ other girls, thinking that he would grow tired of it, is just letting him think that it's OK for him to do that even when you get married.
January 22, 2010 at 05:21 pm report abuse -
32. I totally agree with number one. Be both his gf and mistress.
January 22, 2010 at 09:42 am report abuse -
31. scary it is in?! you invest sacrifice in years and hindi pala kayo meant to be! sayang ang panahon. for me hirap yun i let go! :(
January 21, 2010 at 04:59 pm report abuse -
30. this is so right..
January 21, 2010 at 03:16 pm report abuse -
29. hmmm ung bruise b ni pacman e galing kay jinkee o sa kalaban LMAO
January 21, 2010 at 12:14 pm report abuse -
28. while i may agree that we should exert our best, they (men) should exert their best too. unfair naman kung tayo na lang laging iintindi at sila hindi.
January 20, 2010 at 11:38 pm report abuse -
Che27. I aggree with Glad. Lage nlng b tyo (girls) ang dpat umintindi s knila (boys)?
January 19, 2010 at 01:57 pm report abuse -
Glad26. Why do we, women, have to do everything to make our men stick to one? Don't they have jobs to do too?
January 15, 2010 at 04:53 pm report abuse -
25. i agree, cheating is a choice
January 13, 2010 at 08:15 am report abuse -
24. I agree with Summer.. CHEATING is choice! if your guy really don't want to cheat... then HE WILL NOT CHEAT...no matter what.
January 09, 2010 at 02:17 pm report abuse -
23. i mean christina aguilera was right.
January 07, 2010 at 06:29 pm report abuse -
22. i forgot her song's title but it was so right. i am seething just now, as i overhear my uncle boast that his son has three girlfriends. asar!
January 07, 2010 at 06:29 pm report abuse -
21. i agree =)
January 07, 2010 at 03:35 pm report abuse -
20. cheating is always a a guy's CHOICE.
January 06, 2010 at 02:45 pm report abuse -
19. korekek! caramel
January 05, 2010 at 02:38 pm report abuse -
18. thanks for the reminders! =)
January 05, 2010 at 11:08 am report abuse -
17. Before I broke up with my ex, he had this "platonic" relationship with a girl. They both admitted that they like each other (as crushes). The girl had a boyfriend. Things got really bad between my bf and me, and the girl had a lot to do with it. So we broke up. What happened was the girl's boyfriend realized that he liked me. He broke up with the girl and tried to pursue me. We dated and we liked each other. However, there was one dealbreaker that the guy couldn't really compromise with, so he tried going back to his ex. On the other hand, my ex realized his mistake and tried to get back to me, inspite of the fact that I "hurt" him because I dated his friend's ex. (My point is, a girl can be a "bitch" and still get away with it, as long as she shows the guy that she can stand up for herself.)
January 02, 2010 at 08:52 pm report abuse -
16. so so so true. =]]
January 02, 2010 at 01:57 pm report abuse -
15. good article!
December 29, 2009 at 12:17 pm report abuse -
14. this article is so helpful and true..."Establish how you want to be treated from the beginning of the relationship and voice out any doubts you can’t shake off before it gets out of hand and your emotions are unstable."--kahit mapera pa ang hubby mo =)
December 29, 2009 at 01:44 am report abuse -
13. I will contine doing things to impove myself.. have out of town trips with Manny... just us ! Do some Cruise together to Bond! Buy a revealing Victoria Secret Nighties! ;-)
December 29, 2009 at 12:44 am report abuse -
12. i agree with you guys about the krista issue and infedelity ... i hate bitchess who f***s my man
December 26, 2009 at 04:49 pm report abuse -
11. isa lang ang message so topic na to, keep yourself interesting and make yourself more and more beautiful to keep your man interested with you all the time.
December 26, 2009 at 11:54 am report abuse -
10. team jinkee hehe!
December 25, 2009 at 08:00 pm report abuse -
9. Infidelity can really ruin a relationship because once it happens you stop trusting the person. It would be difficult to get that back again if you're not willing to forgive your man.
December 24, 2009 at 10:11 am report abuse -
8. sometimes you can't help but think that all men cheat...that boys will always be boys. i remember what a married friend tells her husband - that as long as he does not bring the girl home, it's alright. well, not for me.
December 24, 2009 at 01:19 am report abuse -
7. “For most of us, the trouble isn’t in finding someone, the challenge comes in keeping that special someone interested and intrigued,” --- i agree. this is the main marital prob even those with 26 yrs of togetherness suffers. =(
December 23, 2009 at 12:32 pm report abuse -
6. men are born polygamous..so as women...
December 22, 2009 at 07:13 am report abuse -
Gorgeous Gal5. Naku Krista, of all nmn the guy....Find someone n bagay sau...Wag ka masilaw s pera...Madaling kitain yan..
December 21, 2009 at 02:39 am report abuse -
iamisay4. regarding about the manny-krista issue, if it's true, it's just so disappointing that a smart young lady like krista have entered that kind of relationship. now that jinkee pacquiao have started to speak up, i just hope that krista will find someone who's deserving of her.
December 14, 2009 at 07:32 pm report abuse -
Renator3. Don't be quick to judge. You don't know if there is truth to the rumors.
December 02, 2009 at 07:07 pm report abuse -
2. about this isyu...higit pa sa bicth ang dalagang tao na papatol sa may asawa,anoman rason nya!!ok,..for manny-u will destroy yourself just for fun at sa babae,all blessings from god ,mawawala sayo,.ayaw ni god ng ganyan...i dont know wat happen to krista-galing s maayos at maka dyos na family,edukada,smart at biglang nagwawala..nag rerebelde kaba??nasa edad na sya!at ito pa,..sabi ko ng ang pasexy image di nakakatulong sa tao o star ,,look at the rumors puro indecent,..tsk.sisirain ka ng showbiz pag di ka umayos at wala kang GOD,..dapat trabaho lang at iwas ka o wag kang makipag closer sa mga married pipol o guys,..tsk..
November 30, 2009 at 06:05 pm report abuse -
1. i like ds article....
November 29, 2009 at 08:01 pm report abuse
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