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These days, it seems so often that you hear about celebs (even married ones!) hooking up with a hot co-star on-set, while his or her significant other is out of sight and, obviously, out of mind. And as much as we’d like to think it’s the kind of thing that only happens in showbiz, on-the-job liaisons are just as common outside Tinseltown. But you already know that, didn't you?

In fact, statistics show that the workplace has become the number one breeding ground for cheating. According to a study done by infidelity expert Shirley Glass, PhD, 62 percent of men who admitted to having an affair had done so with someone they met at work. “You often spend more time with co-workers than with your partner, which can create intense bonding,” says Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, author of Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery? To ensure your guy is doing his job rather than his coffee-break buddy, follow these tips.

1. Know His Business

Sure, it may get boring when he goes on and on about his pain-in-the-ass boss or other people he works with, but if he can’t talk to you about the workplace highs and lows, he may open up to someone who understands all the pressure he’s under. “The more you know, the more he can share with you and the less likely he’ll be to confide in his attractive co-worker,” says Don-David Lusterman, PhD, author of Infidelity: A Survival Guide.

To come across as genuinely interested (rather than annoyingly nosy), ask specific questions that address how he handled certain tasks or dealt with a difficult higher-up. Otherwise, it’s like pulling teeth. “If you simply ask him how work is or what’s up, he’ll say ‘It’s fine’ or ‘Nothing,’” says Alon Gratch, PhD, author of If Men Could Talk. “But when you ask targeted questions, it’s easier to get him talking.”

With some insight, you’ll also be able to determine if his late nights make sense or seem suspicious. Is he working on a project that would require him to work more hours or send him out of town for a long weekend? If he knows that you know what he’s up to, it’s harder for him to pull late nights or grab drinks with a cute co-worker without any explanation.

2. Be A Presence

Another cheat-proof-him strategy: Make sure everyone at his job knows he has a woman...and a kick-ass one at that. Be enthusiastic about joining him for work gatherings, whether it’s the company party, after-work beers, or his co-worker’s birthday bash. Otherwise, a potential rival will assume she can steal your man because she doesn’t take your commitment seriously. In her mind, if the relationship is legit, you’d be there.

By making your presence known, you’re marking your turf as well. “It humanizes you and gives you a face,” says Weil. “Not only will she realize you’re a real part of his life, but it will also make her feel guilty about trying to get it on with your guy once she’s socialized with you.”

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  eemiaj1016
  47. Hay..even im confident with my man,nakakainis parin talaga ung mga girls na flirt!kahit alam nla may gf.hell to all those flirty gals.haha.get ur own man!cmon! :)
  May 23, 2010 at 04:59 pm report abuse
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  sexy_lola
  46. waah napanood ko yan, basta pag may napansin ka na dapat lang nagbabantay ka na
  May 16, 2010 at 01:01 am report abuse
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  iamjaezel011409
  45. stay pretty.i guess,lol.
  May 15, 2010 at 04:28 pm report abuse
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  angel_love_song
  44. i think trust is the best way. or just shut up and know that he'll still come back.
  April 27, 2010 at 02:18 pm report abuse
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  Florida2630
  43. thanks for tips I worry for that sometimes so I stay sweet with my hubby so he's not gona temp to fall with other women
  March 29, 2010 at 07:23 am report abuse
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  lalabong
  42. don't nag your man. they hate naggers.
  March 22, 2010 at 07:58 am report abuse
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  lalabong
  41. be nice to your guy.
  March 22, 2010 at 07:58 am report abuse
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  mary_ann_lei
  40. Don't be paranoid!
  March 12, 2010 at 12:07 pm report abuse
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  lalabong
  39. Don't be so sensitive and emotional. Talk to your man and make an effort to know his office mates.
  March 06, 2010 at 11:10 pm report abuse
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  salmoncat
  38. the thing is men only have mr. assigned to their names unlike women so other people would not know if men are married unless they say so, act that they are taken, wear their wedding band all the time. it's important to let people know that he's already taken.
  February 10, 2010 at 05:46 pm report abuse
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  tinnnnn076
  37. attack the kabit!
  February 10, 2010 at 12:04 pm report abuse
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  milaniecandido
  36. pag ginawa p ng hubby ko magloko at s loob p ng opis nila..hmmm..ihanda nya ang mukha nya at ng babae nya dahil ipapaskel ko sila s bulletin board ng walang saplot...lol
  February 10, 2010 at 10:43 am report abuse
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  milaniecandido
  35. presence at ipakita s mga office mates that you ROCK! hahahah para matakot sila tumabi s hubby ko hahahaha
  February 10, 2010 at 10:42 am report abuse
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  miss_techylicious
  34. Stay On His Mind 24-7 - will do. thanks for the advice.
  February 09, 2010 at 08:55 pm report abuse
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  miss_techylicious
  33. Identify The Biggest Threat -- hm... sabi nya, lahat ng girls sa firm is may asawa na.
  February 09, 2010 at 08:54 pm report abuse
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  miss_techylicious
  32. Make sure everyone at his job knows he has a woman...and a kick-ass one at that - true.
  February 09, 2010 at 08:49 pm report abuse
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  miss_techylicious
  31. Know His Business - important to know sino lagi kasama nya sa ofc.
  February 09, 2010 at 08:49 pm report abuse
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  toughgurl
  30. Stay On His Mind 24-7---> dapat. saka in a good way dapat.=)
  February 09, 2010 at 02:44 am report abuse
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  shirleylim26
  29. You really have to make sure everyone at his job knows he has a woman. Be enthusiastic about joining him for work gatherings.
  February 08, 2010 at 08:39 am report abuse
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  tinnnnn076
  28. yeah, minsan kasi pag matagal na sa isang relationship, both partners become too comfortable with each other. They don't mind looking unattractive anymore...
  February 07, 2010 at 11:13 pm report abuse
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  len9
  27. stay pretty kahit na matagal na kayo ng bf mo. pakilala ka sa officemates nya para alam nila na taken na siya. tska ung least ineexpect mo, be aware (beware) haha :D
  February 06, 2010 at 06:37 pm report abuse
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  tinnnnn076
  26. I love to comment on topics like this. I've never been cheated on that's why i wanna share my insights to all the not single ladies out there. Stay beautiful, be spontaneous, make him realize what a great girl he has, be present at his side, connect with him and love love love. And more love.
  February 04, 2010 at 04:47 pm report abuse
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  tinnnnn076
  25. be present at his workplace and make sure to put your best foot forward. Look your best and look friendly. Better if one of his male friends will notice you. in this way, your guy will surely think of you as a trophy that will make men die of envy. moreover, you would pose a threat to his female colleagues. Sometimes, trust won't be enough to prevent your man from infidelity. This "it's up to him", won't work. Men do not have conscience haha! If a beautiful girl is in front of him naked, do you think he would think about you?No. Men are weak. Maybe he can resist because he loves you, but trust me, at the back of his mind, he was thinking what would it feel like to get in bed with that girl. Prevention is still the best move to keep your man. And it is up to you how you'd do that.
  February 04, 2010 at 04:43 pm report abuse
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  fishbowl84
  24. always trust your man.. the rest is up to him.
  February 02, 2010 at 09:06 pm report abuse
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  summerinparis128
  23. Identify The Biggest Threat-haha.and mke sure they dont gt near to ur man.haha.not to the point babakuran mo n un bf mo.look gorgeous pra d n mpatingin sa ibng ofcm8 un bf.hehe
  February 01, 2010 at 03:08 am report abuse
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  donnaportia
  22. Don't ever and I mean EVER nag him. In my case, I think it's the other way around. He nags me. haha.
  February 01, 2010 at 12:41 am report abuse
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  shirleylim26
  21. You have to show your man how important he is in your life. Don't start the fight with him. Be always nice and shower him with your kindness.
  January 31, 2010 at 04:53 pm report abuse
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  tinnnnn076
  20. Don't nag and be pretty all the time.
  January 29, 2010 at 04:37 pm report abuse
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  joyfulmom
  19. whoa!buti na lang we have our own business!not particularly affected.
  January 26, 2010 at 10:58 pm report abuse
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  jongskie721
  18. trust your partner and don't ever try to nag him
  January 26, 2010 at 09:28 pm report abuse
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  Giell
  17. Trust is the key. You should always trust your partner in any of his endeavors.
  January 26, 2010 at 10:38 am report abuse
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  reeya
  16. i trust him and my instinct would tell me if he has an affair.
  January 25, 2010 at 09:12 pm report abuse
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  fishbowl84
  15. for some reason, i hated beyonce in that movie obsessed! even if she was the wife..
  January 25, 2010 at 07:59 pm report abuse
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  kgtiu87
  14. With all the tips on men and infidelity, women are sure to succeed.
  January 25, 2010 at 07:39 pm report abuse
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  rose17
  13. @miss_techylicous, you text him every single hour? isn't every hour too much? well..
  January 24, 2010 at 10:17 pm report abuse
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  miss_techylicious
  12. these are all true. i make it a point to ask him about his day, then will make sure i know his office friends ans stay connected. i text him every single hr. hahaha
  January 23, 2010 at 11:15 pm report abuse
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  rose17
  11. i'll make sure that i'll be giving him something about me to think about whenever he's in the office, so the girls on the other cubicle would not be a cause of distraction for him. a sweet text to him every now and then could do.. :)
  January 23, 2010 at 10:51 pm report abuse
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  mamaii26
  10. hala is that true is it possible ba in office affairs?wa natakot tuloy ako sa hubby ko..
  January 22, 2010 at 08:03 pm report abuse
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  butter-diner
  9. hahaha i don't know about this pero nasa iisang office lang kami ng asawa ko. same floor. same bay. hahaha.
  January 22, 2010 at 05:49 am report abuse
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  prettylass8831
  8. If your guy is crazy about you, an office affair would be the farthest thing on his mind.
  January 17, 2010 at 09:13 am report abuse
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  jhe_1212
  7. Hmm.. Office affairs, its unavoidable. You just have to get a hold of urself not to fall...
  January 08, 2010 at 10:41 am report abuse
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  ynahjie
  6. im not being possessive or suspicious but i think his boss likes him. =(( ..i can tell. but i dont think he would want to have an affair with her! i hope what i think is right. hahaha. anyway, i trust him naman.
  January 02, 2010 at 02:00 pm report abuse
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  Myrajoy
  5. Just stay confident and cool is the best action...Being too possessive is quite a mess to your guy..love it!
  January 01, 2010 at 01:45 pm report abuse
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  prettylass8831
  4. I could definitely use some of the tips here. Very informative.
  December 28, 2009 at 02:00 pm report abuse
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  alizey
  3. i totally agree with this
  December 26, 2009 at 04:50 pm report abuse
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  casebats
  2. i believe in commitment.. though sometimes i get proposals from my office to my advantage.. pakilig ba
  December 22, 2009 at 07:12 am report abuse
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  ice_cream
  1. i can't..errr
  December 02, 2009 at 03:01 am report abuse

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