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Are You Shortchanging Yourself?
Some women give their boyfriends everything—even if they don’t get as much as they deserve. Cosmo lists five ways a girl makes tipid on herself in a relationship.
Posted on October 7, 2009 12:00 am by Jen Chuaunsu
Posted on October 7, 2009 12:00 am by Jen Chuaunsu
“Never give a woman your credit card.” This is the first thing that Echo 3 Lincoln, a fugitive human-in-training (played by Hollywood hottie Ewan Mcgregor) learns about females in the futuristic action flick The Island. Women and shopping malls may be made for each other, but there’s a hidden culprit that costs women empty savings accounts: Their tendency to splurge on their sweetie.
As the more giving sex, a girl will unadmittedly make tipid on herself just so she can spoil her sweetheart or sometimes even “save” the relationship. But at what cost? And is it even worth it? Here are five bad tipid habits that women tend to have.
Tipid Habit #1
A Little Sugar Goes A Long Way
Whenever they went out on a date, Gel, 23, a student, always paid. Her boyfriend owned a car but she footed the gas bills. He’d often make parinig about the things he’d like to have and Gel would save her allowance just to get them for him. She expected his love and devotion in return, but got unfaithfulness instead. The lesson? Spending money on your honey doesn’t necessarily result in infidelity, but constantly trying to please him can make him take you for granted.
Eve, 22, a PR officer, agrees. She remembers spending money on long distance calls to her boyfriend who was then based outside Manila. Her bills skyrocketed. For Eve, however, every minute was worth it. Yet in hindsight, she felt unappreciated. “Minsan kasi nasasanay sila sa mga binibigay mo and they take it for granted,” she says. “They don’t realize the efforts that you make.”
“You don’t have to give more to make a better relationship,” assures Dr. John Gray PhD, author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. “When you wake up and remember your needs, he also wakes up and wants to give you more.”
Tipid Habit #2
Your Time Is Not Your Own
It’s easy to get sucked into being a couple. You start making plans for two. Part of you feels missing when he’s not there. Tessa, 28, a writer, edged out her loved ones before she realized it wasn’t healthy. “You should give equal opportunity to the people that you value,” she says.
There will be changes when you add a mate in your life, says Susan Swimmer, author of Is He The One? But the addition shouldn’t change everything. “If you’re forced to choose between him and them, you’ll probably lose both.”
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As the more giving sex, a girl will unadmittedly make tipid on herself just so she can spoil her sweetheart or sometimes even “save” the relationship. But at what cost? And is it even worth it? Here are five bad tipid habits that women tend to have.
Tipid Habit #1
A Little Sugar Goes A Long Way
Whenever they went out on a date, Gel, 23, a student, always paid. Her boyfriend owned a car but she footed the gas bills. He’d often make parinig about the things he’d like to have and Gel would save her allowance just to get them for him. She expected his love and devotion in return, but got unfaithfulness instead. The lesson? Spending money on your honey doesn’t necessarily result in infidelity, but constantly trying to please him can make him take you for granted.
Eve, 22, a PR officer, agrees. She remembers spending money on long distance calls to her boyfriend who was then based outside Manila. Her bills skyrocketed. For Eve, however, every minute was worth it. Yet in hindsight, she felt unappreciated. “Minsan kasi nasasanay sila sa mga binibigay mo and they take it for granted,” she says. “They don’t realize the efforts that you make.”
“You don’t have to give more to make a better relationship,” assures Dr. John Gray PhD, author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. “When you wake up and remember your needs, he also wakes up and wants to give you more.”
Tipid Habit #2
Your Time Is Not Your Own
It’s easy to get sucked into being a couple. You start making plans for two. Part of you feels missing when he’s not there. Tessa, 28, a writer, edged out her loved ones before she realized it wasn’t healthy. “You should give equal opportunity to the people that you value,” she says.
There will be changes when you add a mate in your life, says Susan Swimmer, author of Is He The One? But the addition shouldn’t change everything. “If you’re forced to choose between him and them, you’ll probably lose both.”
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23. yeah.stay happy!
May 15, 2010 at 04:25 pm report abuse -
22. don't dwell in the past, better move on.
March 22, 2010 at 08:09 am report abuse -
21. be happy all the time!
March 22, 2010 at 08:09 am report abuse -
20. martir!
March 12, 2010 at 12:19 pm report abuse -
19. âYou donât have to give more to make a better relationship,â -- i agree on this statement, if a guy loves you he will love you all the time.
March 06, 2010 at 11:21 pm report abuse -
18. Nakakaawa naman yung girl pag ganito, sobrang martyr. When you're in love kasi di mo na napapansin yan.
February 10, 2010 at 02:24 am report abuse -
17. "Minsan kasi nasasanay sila sa mga binibigay mo and they take it for granted" ~ yeah that's true.
February 06, 2010 at 07:01 pm report abuse -
16. This is my favorite line: knowing how to fight is important, but knowing how to stop fighting is even more important. A good man knows how to give up being right. A great man will do it periodically, even if he is right.â I will apply this advice in my everyday life with my hubby.
February 02, 2010 at 10:42 pm report abuse -
15. there are just some guys who like to take advantage of girls. too bad. relationships should be give and take. not take and take.
February 02, 2010 at 09:13 pm report abuse -
14. there should always be fairness and equality in evry relationships.
February 01, 2010 at 02:37 am report abuse -
13. a relationship should be a two-way street ladies..
January 30, 2010 at 09:08 am report abuse -
12. I agree. Your time is not your own. Its like that he is included in every decision that you will make. It's really difficult sometimes.
January 29, 2010 at 10:33 am report abuse -
11. Your Time Is Not Your Own - i had to give up a great job just for him. :(
January 27, 2010 at 07:42 am report abuse -
10. i dont want to spend to much money. i also have needs.
January 26, 2010 at 06:25 pm report abuse -
9. I think women are "martyrs" by nature. Sometimes I hate myself for being one.
January 26, 2010 at 09:17 am report abuse -
8. Ang sakit naman nung #5, until the right one comes along?
January 25, 2010 at 06:12 pm report abuse -
7. I'm paying more than he does because i have a job.. Eventually, he'll pay me back haha
January 25, 2010 at 06:10 pm report abuse -
6. "Donât settle for an âin the meantimeâ relationship" == so true. love yourself so the guy will love thee.
January 22, 2010 at 11:15 pm report abuse -
5. A bad habit of mine is no. 5..
January 11, 2010 at 08:41 am report abuse -
4. ouch @ #3!
October 08, 2009 at 03:18 pm report abuse -
ai3. i totally agree with this article. ganito di kc aq dati on my past relationship. i thought in that way i could make him not leave me but even with all of my efforts still our relationship ended badly. i guess, whether you do things or not for your guy it never really matters. a guy who is in love with you will always be with or without it :p
October 08, 2009 at 01:37 pm report abuse -
Trix2. I agree with you, graceila24, I love that line, too!
October 07, 2009 at 10:35 am report abuse -
1. i love what PhD Ian Kerner said - "Someday just arrived. Someday is right now. If youâre wasting your time, you may be missing out on a real chance for love.â
October 07, 2009 at 09:34 am report abuse
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