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Rule 3: Sex always has to be spontaneous

Why you should break it: The constant carnal craving that most twosomes experience early in a relationship sparks lots of anytime, anywhere sex. Unfortunately, it doesn’t last. Eventually, daily pressures can put a damper on your desire. “Many people erroneously believe that to be happy as a couple, you need to be having frequent, spontaneous sex,” says Ianni. “But you have to work at maintaining an exciting sex life.”

So if your calendar is as stuffed as Paloma’s bikini top, schedule time to get it on. Rather than making dinner reservations, book a booty session instead. It might not sound that romantic, but penciling in sack sessions has its benefits. “Planning a rendezvous creates anticipation, which can up your arousal,” explains Ian Kerner, PhD, author of Be Honest—You’re Not That Into Him Either. “Thinking about having sex before you actually do it is mental foreplay.”

That’s what Kara, 29, discovered after she got a big promotion. “I was working my butt off and was too exhausted for sex,” she recalls. “However, my boyfriend was starting to bitch about how boring I was becoming. So we made a date to ‘hang out’ at home. I found myself fantasizing about the hot things we would do that night.”

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  lalabong
  15. if we can't control the situation we can control ourselves naman diba.
  March 22, 2010 at 11:07 am report abuse
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  lalabong
  14. some guys, ok lang sa kanila sa iba naman hindi pwede, iba iba ang ugali ng boys.
  March 22, 2010 at 11:06 am report abuse
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  mary_ann_lei
  13. I just accepted my ex's facebook request aba nagalit na si boyfriend ko!
  March 12, 2010 at 05:13 pm report abuse
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  lalabong
  12. I always know the rules and I break some!
  March 06, 2010 at 11:48 pm report abuse
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  len9
  11. i put these tips to good use. :D
  February 06, 2010 at 07:45 pm report abuse
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  loveme.hateme
  10. rule # 3 is perfect. haha. soo true. now I know whats the importance of sex. It really last the relationship.
  February 06, 2010 at 05:53 am report abuse
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  shirleylim26
  9. Put some spice in your relationship by Rule 3: Sex always has to be spontaneous. Correct! Maintain an exciting sex life.
  February 02, 2010 at 11:40 pm report abuse
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  fishbowl84
  8. kinda hard to admit it but it's true :)
  February 02, 2010 at 09:56 pm report abuse
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  summerinparis128
  7. very well explained.i totally agree especially Rule 3: Sex always has to be spontaneous,haha
  January 31, 2010 at 09:31 pm report abuse
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  handpaintedsky
  6. i second the motion.. :)
  January 30, 2010 at 10:06 am report abuse
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  reeya
  5. i agree...
  January 28, 2010 at 09:53 pm report abuse
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  fishbowl84
  4. we should break the rules because we only get to live once and lifes too short to follow them :)
  January 28, 2010 at 10:37 am report abuse
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  prettylass8831
  3. One thing I've learned from this article is to always speak my mind.
  January 26, 2010 at 10:24 am report abuse
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  len9
  2. nice love rules :)
  January 23, 2010 at 11:27 am report abuse
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  miss_techylicious
  1. nice article... i love breaking rules. =) thanks for the tips! =)
  January 22, 2010 at 11:16 pm report abuse

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