RELATIONSHIPS
Get On His Mom's Good Side
Posted on August 5, 2009 12:00 am by Bubbles Santos
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Snagging the man of your dreams is difficult enough. But winning over his mom? That’s a completely different story. Pinoy culture dictates that a good girlfriend (or wife, for that matter) gets along with the guy’s mom. Why? She’s that part of your boyfriend’s life that you’ll have to love—and live with—as long as you’re together. Remember, she’s the only “other woman” in your guy’s life you’ll never be able to get rid of. Real mothers who’ve spent years raising their sons share how to get on your guy’s mom’s good side.
The Meet And Greet
I don’t like it when the girl just sits in a corner quietly. Although I understand she can be naturally shy, she should at least make an effort to interact with other family members. Take the initiative and find a way to get a conversation going.
—Gina, one son, aged 30
I understand uso ngayon ang masikip at maiksing damit, but it’s wisest to dress appropriately, especially for our first meeting. Unless we’re meeting you at the beach, don’t wear something skimpy! Call me traditional, but shouldn’t you come in something that covers at least half your body?
—Ruby, four sons, aged 26 to 33
A girl has to find a way to determine the most appropriate form of greeting. Try to see if other people are making beso, mano, or simple handshake lang. Makiramdam ka, then do the same to your boyfriend’s mom—she’ll surely appreciate the gesture.
—Jeanette, two sons, aged 17 and 21
Young couples can be very sweet, but in the company of old people like me, too much display of affection can be annoying. Short pecks and kisses are okay, but sitting on the guy’s lap can be too much.
—Tina, five sons, aged 29 to 39
I encourage my sons’ girlfriends to be comfortable around me and just be themselves. They don’t need to impress me with their English or useless trivia. If they pretend to be something they’re not, how will I get to know them well?
—Ruby, four sons, aged 26 to 33
My son once brought home this girl who had a loud voice and would always butt in even when she wasn’t part of the conversation. I don’t think this is appropriate behavior for a first meeting.
—Tina, five sons, aged 29 to 39
’Di ba when you meet the mom for the first time, you don’t know what to bring? My son’s girlfriend made an effort to find out what I like, and she brought me this beautiful sewing kit as a gift on our first meeting. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but be sure to give your boyfriend’s mom something she can actually use!
—Ruby, four sons, aged 26 to 33
Tags: dating,mother-in-law,mother,mom,relationship
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21. nice to know! gud thing close kami ng mom ng bf ko. :)
February 27, 2011 at 07:32 am report abuse -
20. this is soooooo helpful! :P
May 11, 2010 at 02:36 am report abuse -
19. Haaay meeting the parents is so scary. :(
April 22, 2010 at 04:57 pm report abuse -
18. good thing wala pa naman...
March 22, 2010 at 10:26 am report abuse -
17. how i wish ang maging mother in law ko is not monster in law...
March 22, 2010 at 10:25 am report abuse -
16. Siempre dapat a girl knows (or should try to learn) how to cook!
March 12, 2010 at 05:11 pm report abuse -
15. Have bonding moment with your guy's mom. love her like the way you love your mom and she'll surely love you back.
March 06, 2010 at 11:45 pm report abuse -
meg14. what if ur bf's mother likes you bf ex-gf than you? grrr
February 25, 2010 at 04:16 am report abuse -
13. di ko alam kung gusto ako ng mom nya mejo takot ako and i get shy :|
February 06, 2010 at 07:44 pm report abuse -
12. These are helpful tips. Of course it's a must that you behave properly and make the effort to talk to other people around.
February 04, 2010 at 08:36 am report abuse -
11. You and you mom's bf should get along together. I mean it is important that you and your future mom should be ok. It's difficult if your bf's mom is not on your side.
February 02, 2010 at 11:36 pm report abuse -
10. check! :)
February 02, 2010 at 09:56 pm report abuse -
9. i nver got the chance to meet any of my ex-bf's moms.they are all from broken family.sad and ironic.isn't it?
January 31, 2010 at 09:46 pm report abuse -
8. when i first met my guy's mom, she said that i looked so young daw. hahaha :)
January 30, 2010 at 10:02 am report abuse -
7. you are lucky if she likes you
January 28, 2010 at 11:44 pm report abuse -
6. i love my mother in law! i'm so lucky because she is very supportive.
January 28, 2010 at 11:52 am report abuse -
5. taking notes.
January 24, 2010 at 05:39 pm report abuse -
4. Get On His Mom's Good Side == amen. =)
January 22, 2010 at 11:11 pm report abuse -
3. thanks for this article. i needed this. :D
January 22, 2010 at 10:17 pm report abuse -
2. very nice topic! the key is, we really don't need to exagge things with bf's moms, pay respect will always comes first, then just be ourselves, make an effort but DON'T overdo...so that they won't see us... acting TRYING HARD.
January 22, 2010 at 01:51 pm report abuse -
JAYPEE1. OMG. I am very shaking when i am with the family of my bf especially when I am with his mom and lola. "Buti na lang at ambait ng mom nya, pero never kong inabuso. err." I gave her a smile always when we get together. :p
November 24, 2009 at 02:07 pm report abuse
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