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Get Your Guy To Talk To You
Men aren’t as naturally chatty as ladies are. Cosmo shows you how to get your tight-lipped lover to spill his thoughts.
Posted on August 11, 2009 12:00 am by Brooke Le Poer Trench
Photo: Eric McNatt
Posted on August 11, 2009 12:00 am by Brooke Le Poer Trench
Photo: Eric McNatt
About His Feelings for You
Save it for bedtime. “This is when he’s at his most vulnerable and most likely to talk about feelings with you,” says L.A. sex therapist Ava Cadell, PhD. So draw it out of him while you’re lying together with a lead-in statement like “Mmm...sarap to be so close together, ‘no?”
About His Work
Avoid questions like “How was your day?” “Many men don’t see the point of rehashing it, so ask specific questions,” says Deborah Tannen, PhD, author of You Just Don’t Understand. Suss out the key players in his daily life and ask pointed questions, such as “How’s your boss Ian?”
About Your Future Together
Choose your moment carefully. Wait until he’s relaxed and drop the idea into your conversation with a casual statement like “I would love to live with you.” Ask what he thinks about it, but then give him a few days to mull it over.
Save it for bedtime. “This is when he’s at his most vulnerable and most likely to talk about feelings with you,” says L.A. sex therapist Ava Cadell, PhD. So draw it out of him while you’re lying together with a lead-in statement like “Mmm...sarap to be so close together, ‘no?”
About His Work
Avoid questions like “How was your day?” “Many men don’t see the point of rehashing it, so ask specific questions,” says Deborah Tannen, PhD, author of You Just Don’t Understand. Suss out the key players in his daily life and ask pointed questions, such as “How’s your boss Ian?”
About Your Future Together
Choose your moment carefully. Wait until he’s relaxed and drop the idea into your conversation with a casual statement like “I would love to live with you.” Ask what he thinks about it, but then give him a few days to mull it over.
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13. 13. Naku yung new bf ko, ang daldal.. But he knows when I want silence.. :)
April 21, 2010 at 01:05 pm report abuse -
12. let him talk and give him his moment.
March 22, 2010 at 10:23 am report abuse -
11. make sure that the topic is interesting to him.
March 22, 2010 at 10:23 am report abuse -
10. Don't force your man to say everything to you. Just let him be.
March 06, 2010 at 11:42 pm report abuse -
9. a simple "how are you?" sometimes makes a guy open up..:D
February 10, 2010 at 01:03 pm report abuse -
8. i like it when we chat on the phone before the end of the day to get updates and make kwentuhan on how our day went by.
February 06, 2010 at 07:42 pm report abuse -
7. guys are really kainis sometimes no? hrap chennahin. haha
February 06, 2010 at 05:45 am report abuse -
6. If your guy does not talk too much you ask him like "hows your work?" by saying so you will lead him to talk about what happened to him the whole day and he will be comfortable to talk.
February 02, 2010 at 11:25 pm report abuse -
5. communication is a very very important part of every relationship.
February 02, 2010 at 09:53 pm report abuse -
4. Well my guy is kinda chatty so I don't really have this problem. But occassionally I ask him how he feels about me or does he miss me when we don't see each other.
February 01, 2010 at 09:37 am report abuse -
3. i think,a relationship is healthy whe a guy develops openness.
January 31, 2010 at 10:22 pm report abuse -
2. it's very nice to have a very open and comfortable relationship with your guy..
January 28, 2010 at 02:44 pm report abuse -
1. thanks for all these. my guy's silent type. with these, i'll somehow let him share some of his ideas.
January 22, 2010 at 11:53 pm report abuse
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