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Is Your Relationship Just Okay Or On The Rocks?

All couples go through relationship roadblocks. With these indicators, find out if it’s just a rough patch you can fix...or if your love is waning for real.
Posted on March 3, 2010 12:00 am by Dana Hudepohl
Photo: "The Break-Up" courtesy of Universal Pictures

Just Okay

You dislike each other’s pals, so you rarely socialize together.
How to fix: Compromise so that for every night you’re out with friends, you also schedule a quiet evening by yourselves.

You give each other the silent treatment whenever something bugs you.
How to fix: Be forthright about what’s on your mind. It will help reestablish your bond.

You nag each other with niggling relationship issues.
How to fix: As long as neither of you is shouldering all the blame, you’ll be able to come up with solutions together.

On The Rocks

You admit that you loathe each other’s buddies and mock them in front of each other. This shows a level of open hostility between the two of you that’s tough to surmount.

You go into attack mode when you’re mad, making nasty comments to each other. When you can’t keep a lid on hurtful remarks, it shows you no longer care about the consequences.

You constantly bitch to your friends about his flaws. When the picture you paint is the antithesis of Mr. Right, it’s a sign that your love is waning, and it’s time to move on.

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cecily

24. sometimes you just need to let go even if its hard to do.this is the only way to realize how stupid you are.
June 19, 2010 at 12:27 pm report abuse
angel_love_song

23. Ouch. Now I know what to look out for.
April 27, 2010 at 02:13 pm report abuse
bashful_vixen

22. This "on the rocks" stage usually happens when you're in a relationship with the same person for years (basta long-term na). It's just a STAGE. You two can always conquer that if BOTH of you put an effort. So cheer up! :) - im seeing some truth to this.
April 25, 2010 at 12:52 pm report abuse
milaniecandido

21. READING COSMO EVERYDAY IS MY IE...HOPE THIS ARTICLES WILL BENEFIT EVERY EACH LADY OF THE DECADES...BECAUSE IT IS A GIFT OF LOVELY LIFE TO ME..KEEP ON COMING CIAO!
March 27, 2010 at 04:05 pm report abuse
chantel

20. guys what if your boyfriend does not want you to join his get together with his childhood friend(girl). He's pointing out that he does not want me to drink with them coz according to him, it's some sort of a hassle.(I really dont drink a lot). For my part, I just wanted to get to know his friend/s. Why wont he allow me?I think our relationship is really on the rocks :((
March 25, 2010 at 09:16 am report abuse
lalabong

19. You admit that you loathe each otherâ��s buddies and mock them in front of each other. --- The most obvious way that the relationship is on the rocks.
March 16, 2010 at 06:53 pm report abuse
lalabong

18. Nice article cosmo!
March 14, 2010 at 06:31 pm report abuse
SLoanne

17. i don't know... we dont fight.. we dont cuddle either...
March 13, 2010 at 07:41 pm report abuse
katiyay0624

16. i can't concentrate in reading the article. all i remember is how i cried buckets with the movie "the break up". its the picture.
March 12, 2010 at 09:53 pm report abuse
kidikayni

15. This "on the rocks" stage usually happens when you're in a relationship with the same person for years (basta long-term na). It's just a STAGE. You two can always conquer that if BOTH of you put an effort. So cheer up! :)
March 12, 2010 at 06:45 pm report abuse
mary_ann_lei

14. THE BREAK-UP!
March 12, 2010 at 12:00 pm report abuse
Santori01

13. JuSt OkAy... there is no perfect relationship.. Its a matter of how you and your guy handles the situation..
March 11, 2010 at 09:59 pm report abuse
mych08

12. im on this stage right now..parang the magic was gone..
March 09, 2010 at 08:34 pm report abuse
kay13

11. on the rocks but at the same time just okay, i think most relationships goes through this stage one way or another..we all have our negative attitudes but we just have to learn how to accept each other.
March 09, 2010 at 05:50 pm report abuse
luisa

10. On The Rocks .. but getting by
March 09, 2010 at 12:01 am report abuse
clarisse11

9. just ok..it's good to have a bf older than you..
March 07, 2010 at 11:44 pm report abuse
lalabong

8. I can't relate on this article because Im single now.
March 06, 2010 at 10:41 pm report abuse
cheskafrances

7. on the rocks!!!hay....but trying to fix...
March 03, 2010 at 11:10 pm report abuse
jhe_1212

6. 6. hmmm... baka nga... napaisip me dito...
March 03, 2010 at 03:57 pm report abuse
Elyz_Iza

5. we're just okay kahit may silent treatment kami paminsan-minsan.
March 03, 2010 at 03:50 pm report abuse
shadysurvives

4. wala sa dalawa, so we're more than ok!
March 03, 2010 at 11:25 am report abuse
miss_techylicious

3. i think we're just ok. thanks for the heads up :)
March 03, 2010 at 08:38 am report abuse
handpaintedsky

2. hmm..smooth sailing pa din
March 03, 2010 at 07:57 am report abuse
sonncza

1. on the rocks kame ni bf
March 03, 2010 at 07:55 am report abuse