5 Ways To Get Rid Of Your Envy
Are you jealous of your friends or the people around you? Cosmo gives you five ways to get over your inggit.
Posted on February 24, 2010
by Claire Betita-Samson
Sometimes you can't help wanting what you don't have, but like that Rolling Stones song goes, you can't always get what you want. Don't let your envy get the best of you. Here are five things that will help you get over your pagka-inggitera.

  1. Stop it, ASAP. "Halt as soon as you become aware of your envy," advises psychologist George Bishop, Ph.D. "Do not, on impulse, make actions or adopt attitudes that work against yourself."

  2. Focus on your own unique qualities. Make the most of what you have, and enjoy it! Learn to like what you have. And, believe in yourself. "A solid belief in one's own abilities increased life satisfaction by 40 per cent," says David Niven, Ph.D., psychologist and author of 100 Simple Secrets of Being Happy.

  3. Extend your comparison. "When we feel envious, we often concentrate only on one aspect of ourselves," explains Bishop. You may feel envious of your friend who's now working abroad, living in a foreign city, and earning quadruple your salary. What you don't know is that she may actually be lonely and overworked—and that you're actually better off.

  4. Spend time with the person you envy. Yes, you read right. Go on over to the "enemy." This way, you get to see the whole picture and may find out that there is less to envy than what you originally perceived. "By associating with those we envy, we come to see the whole of their lives, not just the parts we covet," says Bishop. "We might discover that they have flaws and weaknesses elsewhere."

  5. Turn off the TV. "Watching too much TV can triple our hunger for more possessions, while reducing our personal contentment by 5 per cent for every hour a day we watch," says Niven.
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  • Santori01
    Reality Check-- People who critize alot are insecure, people who complain alot seldom make actions ON THE OTHER HAND..People who are successful are usually those who were first weak & poor..and People who achieve alot Got many inspiration..so behind every personality lies a positive and negative experiences..so we need to reflect on the positive side..:)
    March 10, 2010 at 05:11 pm    report abuse   
  • lalabong
    We should have to Focus on our own unique qualities. We are different from one another so stop comparing yourself to others.
    March 10, 2010 at 07:16 am    report abuse   
  • hedgewitch
    Sometimes, we just can't stop. Ultimately, we need to try to stop it.
    February 28, 2010 at 06:47 pm    report abuse   
  • ayettelovesyou
    envy=insecurities.. thats why we should all do the #2...
    February 26, 2010 at 04:10 pm    report abuse   
  • mamaii26
    im a jealous person too.. hindi ko maalis minsan..
    February 25, 2010 at 11:53 am    report abuse   
  • retz
    I agree with #2, absolutely correct.
    February 25, 2010 at 10:20 am    report abuse   
  • jhe_1212
    7. I'm happy with my life, pero I have my own goals and plans and I make sure to achieve it by working hard! Gnun lang yun!
    February 25, 2010 at 09:27 am    report abuse   
  • sonncza
    sometimes reading yung bag raid nyo makes me envious..ü
    February 25, 2010 at 07:27 am    report abuse   
  • Elyz_Iza
    as a child, my mom taught me to value the people and things that i have and not be jealous of other people because all of us are blessed...
    February 24, 2010 at 10:33 pm    report abuse   
  • fishbowl84
    great tips!! im glad that im not that envious though.. im usually contented with what i have.. :)
    February 24, 2010 at 09:14 pm    report abuse   

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