There are so many mysticisms surrounding sex while pregnant—you might hurt the baby! (probably not), you will want to have sex all the time (you might not), you will never want to have sex again (you probably won't). That's why this Reddit thread featuring women getting real about pregnancy sex is so illuminating.
Here's some things that might happen between you and your sex drive when you're pregnant:
1. You might go full horn dog for the whole thing.
One woman says, "I stayed over the top horny the whole time through both pregnancies. And the sensations were so intense too. I couldn't get enough. I'm currently in the process of becoming a surrogate. I feel sorry for my poor husband."
2. You might be uncomfortable near the end of your pregnancy.
As one user shares, "It only gets uncomfortable during the third trimester. But for the most part my sex drive is just diminished. I am almost 15 weeks with baby #2 and my sex drive is nowhere to be found. It sucks."
3 . You might start strong and then simmer down.
One woman shares, "My sex drive increased greatly my first trimester and it held pretty steady until I hit month five and then it simply started fading away. Initially, it was just harder and harder to orgasm until finally, by the eight month, I couldn't even get myself off. There was no sensation other than friction.
It came back pretty quickly after childbirth, thankfully, and I actually look back pretty fondly at the time period before we were cleared for sex (six weeks)—we made out like teenagers for hours, something we had somehow forgotten in our almost 20 years together."
4. You might find it varies from pregnancy to pregnancy.
One woman says, "First pregnancy, my libido was through the roof, although it was nearly non-existent in the months before I got pregnant. I'm pregnant now (seven months), and it's been totally different; I masturbate a good bit, but it's like my vagina is super tight, and penetration is really uncomfortable, so sex isn't really happening as much as we'd like it to."
5. You might find that your low sex drive stays a low sex drive.
One woman writes, "I have almost no interest in sex while pregnant or for about the first year and a half afterwards, if my first child and the seven weeks of my second pregnancy are any indication."
"My sex drive is normally pretty low. I'll go two months without feeling horny if I don't get laid, and that's while I'm in a relationship (though I haven't gone that long without sex in years so it might be more or less time now). Last time I was single I went easily six months at a time without really thinking about it," she concluded.
6. You might find it varies from pregnancy to pregnancy, part two.
One Redditor writes, "First pregnancy I was an insatiable beast, I couldn't get enough to the point where it was like a chore for my husband, ha. Not really he loved it. Second time, I was until around six months pregnant when something changed and I was not able to get off. It was dark times, for months I went without an orgasm. Terrible stuff. Thank god it was temporary."
7. You may find it varies from trimester to trimester.
One woman says, "First trimester—no. All I wanted was sleep. More glorious sleep. Second trimester—I wanted to bone ALL THE TIME. Third trimester—I felt a bit more worn out, but I was still pretty horny."
8. You might find you're not interested in sex at all.
As one person writes, "I had zero sex drive during both of my pregnancies. I'm 9-weeks postpartum and its yet to return."
9. And not that you cared about a man's opinion, but one man shared that it was the, "best sex ever (male perspective)."
So there you have it! (Oh, and maybe these orgasmic pregnancy positions could help you get started? Happy pregnancy boning!)
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