How To Survive A Summer LDR

It can be done. For realz.
by Manica Tiglao
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Here are a few tips to help you keep your man when you’re miles away:

1. Make sure you’re on the same page.

Before anything else, you have to have a good, long talk about where you both expect the relationship to go. Will you be dating exclusively, or are you going the “open relationship” route? Define what you mean when you say you want a monogamous and exclusive relationship so you don’t question each other later. You don’t want to act like a possessive girlfriend once you’re apart, only to find out that he doesn't really think of the relationship in the same way.

2. Trust.

Once you’ve established that you are, in fact, in a committed relationship, make another commitment: Trust. Don’t ruin your boyfie's holiday by being a nagger, or by SMS-ing bad vibes. Remember that no matter how far he might be from you, any sort of negative attitude you choose to show him will still have the same effect as when you're physically together.

3. Let them have their freedom.

If he's on vacation, he deserves it! Give him just enough space so he can do whatever he wants within limit, and even miss you in the process. Besides being able to talk about more things and creating an open communication line, your boyfriend will also be proud to let his friends know that you’re not just another insecure, needy girl.

4. Agree on a regular time and day to communicate.

Agree on specific times and days for talking to your significant other and note them on your calendars. Having a regular time for communication allows both of you to look forward to something and avoid misunderstandings—which can quickly spiral out of control when you can't drive to each other’s houses bearing gifts. If either of you find out in advance that you’ll have to miss your “date,” make sure to let the other person know.

5. Make your presence felt.

While you probably can’t talk to each other constantly, it helps to send a quick update whenever you can. Receiving an unexpected message will brighten up his day, even if it’s just a one-liner like “Off to lunch, can’t wait to see you later,” or a quick shot of where you are or what you’re doing. You can even send a short video to let him feel like you’re really there! There are so many apps these days that will help you tremendously, like Skype, Viber, WhatsApp, and the usual Facebook and Instagram—so maximize them.

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6. Be creative!

Staring at each other over Skype can get old faster than you think. Come up with new ways to “spend time” with each other, like having a dinner date, complete with candles and pretty settings, or watching the same movie or television show together. Feeling frisky? You might want to try this, too! 

7. Flirt a lot.

Obviously, we don’t mean with other people. Keep the fire burning by flirting with your significant other on a regular basis. Remember that there will be temptations for both of you and you’ll need to be prepared to constantly up your game. Make an effort to look your best whenever you’re on Skype, or when you’re sending him a picture of yourself so he knows what he’ll miss, should he succumb to temptation.

8. Don’t be praning, period.

Being in an LDR, no matter how short-term, requires you to be as patient, understanding, and unselfish as you can possibly be. Don’t freak out if he misses your calls once in a while, or if he replies to your messages a few minutes late. That he won’t have his phone on him 24/7 is something you’ll need to learn and internalize constantly before you start throwing tantrums and hurling accusations of infidelity. Cut out the pettiness.

9. Be honest.

You have to be as honest as you expect your partner to be with you. If something bothers you, or if something’s not quite working out, tell him right away that you need to have a serious talk. You’ll be surprised at how fast you can turn into a crazy girlfriend when you’ve been keeping things bottled up for too long. Plus, it’s not easy to kiss and makeup when you’re hundreds of miles apart.

10. Stay positive.

Instead of worrying about that line that pessimists like to drop (“out of sight, out of mind”), focus on this instead: Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Because it’s true. Besides, you have to look on the bright side—you won’t be single forever, and this short time apart is an opportunity for you to pay attention to the other VIPs in your life. And by that we mean yes, you should have a girls’ night out with your best friends.

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