Posted on April 28, 2011
by Myatt Murphy
If you asked your guy to divulge the sexiest place on his body where you could stroke him, it doesn't take a genius to guess how he'd respond. But, it turns out there are several lusty locales that, when tantalized and teased, will take his pleasure to a higher level than he usually experiences. "Stimulating these spots not only feels terrific for a man, but it also builds sexual tension throughout his entire body and increases blood flow to his genitals," says Ian Kerner, PhD, author of Sex Detox. "This boosts his arousal and intensifies his pelvic contractions, magnifying his orgasm tenfold."
1. The C-Spot
You probably know the ear is an erotic zone, but you might be surprised to discover just how powerful a turn-on this little body part is. And the most scintillating section? The outer edge. "This firm, C-shaped ridge of cartilage houses the biggest bundle of nerves," explains Barbara Keesling, PhD, author of Men In Bed.
Smooch up his neck and along the back of his ear. "With each kiss, exhale so your hot breath warms the area," says Keesling. Then, rest your lips on the top of his ear, and drag them down the edge so your lips brush the front and back of it. "The more aroused he gets, the more sensation he'll crave," notes Keesling. "Now, nibble and suck his C-spot." As you do so, rub his package in the same rhythm.
2. The W-Spot
Snaking across your guy's chest is a pleasure path that forms a W. Have him lie face up, straddle his waist, and put a fingertip on the upper outer corner of one of his pecs. Draw your finger down the edge of one pec, across the bottom, and up the other side (along the center of his ribcage). Then run it back down, under his other pec, and up the opposite edge. "The skin here is thinner than on the rest of his chest," says Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD, author of Touch Me There!
And, it's extremely sensitive. "Start with a firm touch (you can even sprinkle lube onto your fingertip), and then lighten up or try your tongue. "The more gently you graze his skin, the more you'll arouse the nerves beneath," explains Fulbright. Alternate between gliding back and forth along his W-spot and pinching his nipples. "Grip slightly harder each time to bring extra blood into them and amplify the feeling," says Fulbright.
3. The G-Spot
Women aren't the only ones with a powerful G-spot. A guy's prostate—the walnut-sized gland under his bladder—is the ultimate magic button to push if you want to blow his mind in bed. To tantalize it, partway through oral sex or intercourse, rest two fingers against the swath of skin between his testicles and anus. "His prostate is situated above your fingers, inside his body," says Kerner, "so by applying pressure here, you're indirectly rubbing his G-spot." When you sense he's close to orgasm, rhythmically press the area (one pulse every second) until he climaxes.
A more intense form of stimulation is to place a finger in his anus. First, gauge his interest by circling his backdoor softly with your finger while in a missionary or side-by-side position. "If he doesn't tell you to stop and his erection doesn't flag, he's likely enjoying it," says Kerner. Next, ask him whether you can insert your finger. If he gives you the go-ahead, dab on lube (make sure your nails are short), gently put your finger two inches inside his backstage—that's his prostate. Lightly tap or swirl your fingertip around it. "Then, gradually experiment with going faster and firmer," instructs Kerner. Check to make sure he likes what you're doing.
4. The F-Spot
On the underside of a guy's penis, just below the head, is a tiny line with major pleasure potential: the frenulum. While many women touch the F-spot during sex, most don't know the best way to stimulate it. "This band of tissue has more nerve fibers intersecting it than any other body part does," says Kerner. "To bring him the ultimate pleasure, it practically needs constant attention."
When giving him oral sex, bring your hand into play and kneel slightly to his side. This way, when you grab his penis, your fingers are against the underside, where the frenulum is. Move your hand up and down in tandem with your mouth, making sure to reach up to the tip of his member, so you graze the F-spot on each trip. During intercourse, get into a position that allows him to thrust, such as doggie-style or missionary. "He can angle his body so his frenulum gets maximum friction," says Kerner. Clench your pelvic floor muscles when he thrusts, creating satisfying resistance.
5. The 8-Spot
This erogenous destination is a pleasure minefield. Place your finger under his penis where his shaft and scrotum meet. Draw a ring around the base of his member with your fingertip (that's the top half of the 8), then draw another around his scrotum where it attaches to his body (that's the bottom half). "This spot contains the same sensitive erectile tissue that forms a man's penis," says Kerner.
During foreplay, trace out the 8 with your finger or tongue or use your tongue to tantalize one half while your fingers cover the other—then switch. Next, circle your tongue around his scrotum, and at the same time, squeeze the base of his member with your thumb and forefinger. "This traps blood in his penis," says Kerner.
6. The R-Spot
A guy's entire family jewels are certainly extremely sensitive, but there's one particular destination on his boys that can send more chills up his spine when touched than any other part of them. "The raphe is the thin seam that runs dead center along the underside of his scrotum from top to bottom," says Fulbright. "It's teeming with tingly nerve endings."
Men either really dig having their R-spot stimulated or feel it's too intense for them, so experiment with touching it briefly every 20 to 30 seconds while stroking his penis during foreplay. Signs you should back off: He flinches or stops making noises that indicate he's turned on (moans, sighs). If he's into it, "place your tongue at the back of his scrotum, where it attaches to his body, and slide it along his raphe," suggests Fulbright. "Continue tracing your tongue over the top of his scrotum and then up the underside of his member until you get to the head of his penis." You can also give him a rush while having cowgirl or doggie-style sex, by reaching back and lightly scratching his R-spot with one finger, using a come-hither motion.
7. The O-Spot
"According to Tantric-sex experts, rubbing a man's tailbone awakens his kundalini, or sexual energy," says Keesling. The O-shaped knob at the base of his spine is rife with nerves that connect to his penis, and stroking this can power up his libido.
With him lying face down, place two fingertips from each hand on his O-spot, and move them in small circles. "Now, kiss or lick up his spine while lightly spiraling your fingers over the area," directs Keesling. To deepen the sensation, switch to using your fingernails. When you're done, you'll see his spine isn't the only part of his body that's hard and straight.
8. The X-Spot
To find this next lusty locale, have your guy lie face down with his legs together. The crack between his buttocks, the creases where each butt cheek meets the backs of his thighs, plus the creases of his inner thighs form an X. "His X-spot is arousing because it runs by his anus, perineum, and testes without touching them directly," says Keesling.
Give him a massage, and move your hands lower and lower down his back as you knead. Once you reach his butt, press a fingertip into the outer crease of each cheek (where they attach to his thighs), and slowly drag your fingers in toward each other. When they meet in the middle, glide one finger up over the crack of his tush while simultaneously drawing the other down between his thighs. Repeat, zigzagging your fingers as you stroke. "Switching up the motion keeps him surprised, which boosts arousal," says Keesling. To top it off, swirl your tongue around the most sizzling point: the center of his X-spot, where the two lines cross.