Carla Abellana Opens Up About *Not* Noticing Tom Rodriguez’s Red Flags After 7 Years Together
While some couples may seem like they have fairytale romances, such is not the case for everyone—including Carla Abellana, who had a failed relationship with her ex-husband and partner of seven years Tom Rodriguez.
In an interview with Boy Abunda, the actress got candid about the reason for her breakup with her former beau. "Napakadaming dahilan. Kung ililista po natin, medyo marami po yan.
"But basically, bottomline is… kumbaga, umabot na po sa breaking point, e. Kumbaga, sobra na po, parang ganun. So there was, still, disrespect, lying and all that. There was no change. Hindi po yon first time na nangyari sa amin, kung ano man po yung pinagdaanan namin.
"Pero ito po yung taken into a different level, mas extreme na po, mas malala. And you know, it came to a point na, parang, it’s too much already po."
When asked about shortcomings and giving too much, the actress also had an honest answer. "Siguro sobra pong magbigay na wala na pong natira sa sarili, parang ganun.
"Kulang, hindi ko po alam, siguro better kung yung isang tao po ang makakapagsagot nun. Kasi, as far as I know or as far as I am aware, naibigay ko naman po lahat and I really fought and, you know, gave everything my all po.
"Yung sobra, sobra sa pagbigay, wala na pong natira for myself, self-respect. I should also forgive myself. I should also take care of myself. Yung ganung mga bagay na halos wala na pong natira para sa sarili."
Carla and Tom were in a relationship for seven years before they tied the knot, prompting Boy to ask if she didn’t notice anything before deciding to marry him. To which, the actress responded, "They say marriage changes things na it would really reveal, maybe, some sides of the other person that you’ve never seen. Pero hindi na po siya ganun. Wala na po siya sa tagal talaga. Parang hindi na po applicable or totoo yung sinasabing ‘I know him too well’ o ‘I know her too well. Hindi niya gagawin yun.’ Unfortunately, we can still be wrong pagdating sa ganun."
She also shared that while she can see herself falling in love again, marriage is a different thing altogether. "Love, definitely po, Tito Boy, kasi ang love naman po di lang romantic lang. Love is all around us. There’s family love, love for your career, everything… napakadami po niyan. It’s definitely all around us. I feel that. I still believe in love.
"Aaminin ko po, madaming nag-change… especially with marriage. Yun po yung medyo nag-iba po yung aking pananaw or paningin pagdating sa marriage. So, I honestly don’t see myself getting married again.”