A recent survey found that most women who've worked in the tech industry for 10 years—an overwhelming 84 percent, to be exact—have been called "too aggressive" in the workplace at least once. Aggressive, of course, is usually used as a euphemism for a woman who isn't 100 percent chipper 100 percent of the time in the office. Where a man is simply doing his job, a woman is being bitchy, hormonal, or, LOL, "too aggressive."
The survey also found that women are asked to do things their male counterparts are almost never asked to do, like order takeout or take notes. Yay! This is called subtle sexism, and it's actually terrible and disgusting, and no one should have to deal with it. Here are 11 things that you should never have to deal with at work.
1. Getting asked who takes care of your kids, as if you would just leave a 4-year-old to run rampant around an empty house for 10 hours day.
Do men ever actually get asked this question? Seriously, do they?
2. Basically any comment on anything you ever wear to work.
Unless that comment is something like, "Wow, that shirt really communicates a firm message about your work ethic," clothing is not up for discussion. No gross comments about pencil skirts or blouses, k, thanks!
3. Being asked to bring in some cute little cookies for the boss' b-day, because OMG, don't we all love the boss!
Hahaha, hi, yeah, literally anyone who can read and has two functioning human hands is capable of baking cookies. Do not assume every woman in the office spends her after work hours slaving over Martha Stewart recipes (although if she does, you don't get to take advantage of that unless she offers).
4. Getting left out of important convos that happen over a round of golf/while watching a basketball game/late at night at some beer house.
Oh, it's so obvious what men are trying to do when they schedule these inconvenient, super boys club-esque meetings. This office is not your college frat.
5. Being accused of acting "too emotional" if you disagree with literally anything.
This is right up there with, "Oh, honey, is it that time of the month?" LOL, shut up!
6. Having to listen to the men talk about their disgusting weekend exploits picking up chicks at da club. No one is impressed by this, it's actually just super gross and not at all appropriate for a work environment.
7. Any compliment on your physical appearance at all, ever, in any workplace situation.
Men like to think that a compliment can only be good, and never bad, but they are wrong. There is a time and a place for a compliment, and telling me how cute I am at work after a meeting is neither the right time nor place.
8. Any comment on anything you eat, or don't eat, or the way you eat it, or whatever, just anything about food that isn't, "Hey, there's free food in the office kitchen."
Why is it that, when a woman eats, it causes such a stir? Women literally eat every day, usually more than once. It is not in your job description to comment on what I eat for lunch every day.
9. Being asked to take notes during a meeting, when that's actually not at all your job.
Oh, so you still think all women in business casual are secretaries? BYE.
10. Getting pulled into random meetings because you have ~female intuition~ and they need a woman's opinion on something.
You didn't get hired because you have female opinions (whatever that even means); you got hired because you're smart and have your shit together.
11. Being shamed for taking maternity leave, because didn't you know that newborn babies totally take care of themselves?
One solution here is to make sure that paid paternity leave is a thing in all workplaces, but comments like, "Oh, you'll never want to come back!" or, "Haha, sure, see you in a few months... *wink*" are unwelcome.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.