I am high-maintenance. I learned what I liked at an early age, and I refuse to settle for anything less than those things. And while some people consider that to be a poor quality, I know it's actually the opposite.
While it sucks for my bank account, I'm picky about everything from pizza to coffee to jewelry to guys. But I'm not ashamed about it—at least not anymore.
After years of feeling bad for being impossible to make dinner plans with because only certain restaurants were OK with me, and years of getting eye rolls from friends when I insisted on getting coffee from only certain coffee places, I don't feel bad anymore. Being high-maintenance doesn't make me an annoying bitch. It makes me a strong, fierce woman who knows what she wants.
Being high-maintenance doesn't make me pretentious. It just means I'm not afraid to tell people how I feel.
I like my coffee sugar-free with non-fat milk, and I refuse to get that coffee from a doughnut shop. It's not that I'm too good for the coffee joint. I just actually don't like their coffee and I don't think that's a crime.
Being high-maintenance doesn't make me needy. We all have needs. I just happen to let those needs be known to the general public instead of bottling them up inside and being upset when they aren't met.
Being high-maintenance doesn't make me high-strung. Once I get what I want and therefore become happy (which is pretty often because I make it happen), I'm the most laid-back and chillest person ever.
Being high-maintenance doesn't make me designer-hungry. It just means I've got standards. And it's not that I think you can't get stylish shoes for lower prices. It's that almost every pair of shoes I have purchased at discount stores have fallen apart shortly after, while my shoes from higher-end retailers have lasted years. I don't care how much money something costs; I care about quality. If I like something inexpensive, I'll want it just as bad as when I like something that is pricey.
Being high-maintenance doesn't make me an attention seeker. When I'm expressing my wants and needs, I'm not looking to make everything about me. I'm just trying to have the best experience possible.
Being high-maintenance doesn't make me difficult or hard to please. I do what I want to do, and if I don't like the options, I won't feel like I'm missing out if I'm not involved. Life is too short to agree to plans you aren't necessarily thrilled about or to wear an outfit that you aren't totally in love with.
Being high-maintenance means I won't settle for anything less than happiness and that is one of the best qualities a person can have, in my opinion. I love being high-maintenance and you should too.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.