Since you read Cosmo, you may think you’re familiar with every sex trick in the book. Reverse cowgirl? Been there, done that. The “Lusty Lotus”? Sooo April ’06. Luckily, sex experts are constantly coming up with ways to push the envelope, whether it’s by inventing spankin’ new moves or upgrading the carnal classics. “Putting a twist on tried-and-true techniques will create different sensations and make your sex life more interesting,” says certified sex educator Lou Paget, author of The Great Lover Playbook. Of course, we’d be remiss in our duties as erotic enlighteners if we didn’t share these cutting-edge tips with you. So after searching far and wide, we’ve compiled the wildest, most O-inspiring moves we could find.
New Move 1: Temperature Tease
Forget about just stroking your man with a simple pair of satin panties! For a real treat, pop those silky numbers in the freezer a day before you’re ready for action. Then loosely wrap the icy fabric around his package and gently slide it up and down. “The coolness combined with the satiny smooth texture provides a surprising sensation,” explains Olivia St. Claire, author of 302 Advanced Techniques for Driving a Man Wild in Bed.
But act fast-the heat coming off your man’s below-the-belt region will melt the chill rapidly. So once the panties hit room temp, go the opposite route and really warm things up. Paget suggests microwaving a damp washcloth for about 15 seconds. Then use it to rub his member in an up-and-down motion, just as you did with the underthings. “Not only is the warming sensation soothing, but it also brings the blood flow to his groin area, increasing his arousal,” explains Paget.
New Move 2: Naked Chef
Incorporating food into your passion play is a classic carnal activity. Turning your bodies into a sexy buffet is a fresh, tasty spin. Take a few of your favorite erotically appealing flavor combinations, like peanut butter and honey, whipped cream and chocolate sauce, or ice cream and cake. Put a dollop of, say, peanut butter on an area where you’d like to be licked (avoiding your genitals). Then dot the honey on the same spot on the opposite side of your body. Instruct your man to first lick off one flavor and then make his way over to the other, providing a pleasurable sensation for you and a flavorful sensation for him. Continue mixing up yummy treats in symmetric spots all over your body.
New Move 3: Pleasure Map
Okay, now this is going to sound a little out-there, but trust us, guys say it feels un-freakin’-believable. Heat up some massage oil, and put it into a clean medicine dropper. Then use the dropper to draw shapes, spell out naughty words, or create trails on his body-from his neck, over his arms, then down his back, butt, and legs. “The hot oil moving in specific lines will excite the skin more than a broad stroke of oil would,” explains sex therapist Ian Kerner, PhD, author of He Comes Next. Once you’ve left your hot, slippery mark, knead your designs.
New Move 4: Body Paint
For a unique sensation, use a clean artist’s paintbrush to tickle each other’s skin. “Take turns running it across the inner arms, behind the knees, over the tops of the feet-any area where you’re very sensitive,” explains Paget. “The bristles arouse the nerve endings, sending a message to the brain that you’re yearning for more touch and sensation.” For varying effects, test out different brush sizes.[nextpage]
New Move 5: Naughty Pearl Necklace
Believe it or not, this “Simple Girl” classic can be a passion prop. Pick up a 36-inch fake strand (this trick will ruin the real deal) and wear it all day so your body warms up the balls. “When you’re ready to romp, take off the pearls and cover them generously with lube,” suggests Paget. “Coil the pearls around the shaft of his penis comfortably but snuggly enough that the beads rest against his package.”
Intertwine your fingers and place the palms of your hand on either side of his penis. Next, slide your hands up and down in a wave motion, causing the warm, smooth beads to roll over the length of his shaft.
New Move 6: Scrunchie Tip V.2
If you’ve kept up with your Cosmo sex tips, you may remember reading that a scrunchie can be used on a man’s member to help him maintain an erection. Now we’re upping the ante and taking that technique in a new direction. Start by stacking six scrunchies on top of each other over his package. “Then remove them one by one using your lips and tongue,” says St. Claire. “As each piece is removed, it releases a little bit of pressure in his penis, which will make his orgasm more intense when it happens. Plus, the movement of the fabric will feel wild on his skin.”
New Move 7: Double Mint, Double Pleasure
You can create a pleasurable hot-and-cold double-whammy sensation with a few sips of warm mint tea. “The tea makes your mouth hot as you put it on each other’s private parts,” explains Paget. “Meanwhile, the menthol in the mint will cool down the area when you pull your mouth away, creating a hot-and-cold tug-of-war.”
Have him take a small sip of the tea before exploring you with his mouth. He should sip often to ensure you’re getting the full mint effect. He can alternate by blowing cool air on the warm, tea-soaked skin, making the tingly feeling more intense. After he’s-or rather, you’re-finished, put the minty moves on him.
New Move 8: Frisky French Kiss
Mix up your usual oral sex routine by having him take his above-the-neck technique below the belt. “Even if his skills are already stellar, it’s a fun, unique, and pleasurable experience to have him French kiss your down-there area the way he would your lips,” says Jane Bogart, coordinator of health promotion at the University of California at Santa Cruz and author of Sexploration. He can tickle the area with his tongue, wiggle it in a circular motion from top to bottom, and gently suck the skin.
New Move 9: Feel Buzzed
We’ve recommended using tongue vibes during oral sex before, but the buzzy sensations can be too intense for some people. A sexy solution: If you have a vibrator, have him lay it against his cheek when he’s down below or do the same to him. “This technique cushions the vibrations so they’re not overpowering,” says Paget. [nextpage]
New Move 10: The W
When moving down south, many women converge on their man’s General, inadvertently ignoring the surrounding areas. But his pelvic region has tons of sensitive spots aching for attention of their own. “Starting at the spot where his left thigh meets his groin, move your tongue down toward his scrotum, up between the testes, and then come down and around, finishing in the crease between his right thigh and his groin,” suggests Bogart. “The invisible lines that make up this W shape are thin-skinned and full of nerve endings, making them especially sensitive.”
New Move 11: Dual Oral Action
This trick is so simple but so amazing. “While giving him oral sex, slide a finger into your mouth and tickle his penis at the same time you’re stimulating him with your lips and tongue,” says St. Claire. “It’s an unexpected new sensation for him.”
New Move 12: Stuck on You
During intercourse, you’re all wrapped up in each other. So extend that carnal concept even further by literally tying yourselves together. Take a really long piece of sturdy plastic wrap (long enough to fit around your body about eight times). Then fold it in half, twist it into a long rope that fits snuggly around both of your bodies twice, and secure it with a knot at your waist so you’re locked together. (You can also use a Pilates stretch band or a knitted scarf that has a bit of give.) Whether you then get into girl-on-top, missionary, or straddle him face-to-face, you won’t be able to move more than a few inches from each other. “This not only increases the intimacy but also the fun factor, as you find inventive ways to move in sync,” says Bogart.
New Move 13: Passion Prop Play
To put a creative spin on standard missionary, stroke his back with a few sensual, around-the-house items. Keep a paddlebrush, a soft scarf, and a tennis ball (yes, a tennis ball) on your bedside table. While he’s on top, alternate between scratching his back and butt with the bristles of the brush, stroking him with the scarf, and rolling the tennis ball over his skin. “The changes in sensation will keep him on his toes during the act and provide him with an extra dose of pleasure,” says Kerner.
New Move 14: Web ‘n’ Wild
For a post-passion wrap up, set up an instant-messenger account with a secret name, and tell your man to be online at a certain time. Then send him a message—pretending to be a sexy stranger—and recount all the dirty details of your last rendezvous together. “Not only are you confirming how amazing your sex life is, but it’s also a form of exhibitionism as you brag about your sexual escapades to a ‘stranger,’” explains Kerner. Your play-by-play will whet your appetites for the next romp.