1. He is your comfort zone.
You can’t imagine living without him because he has become a constant in your life. When he suddenly disappears from your daily routine, you feel lost and confused because there’s a big chunk missing and you don’t know what to do about it. You try to fill the void with distractions, yet still, you cannot deny his painful absence. You miss him terribly. You crave his company and the security of having him around. You feel like you can’t breathe without him.That’s why you can’t let go.
2. You are still hoping he is going to change or that you can fix him.
Deep down you know there’s nothing you can do to change him because that's all up to him, but you cling on to the slightest hope anyway, because you love him. You want what’s best for him and you genuinely believe that he’s a good guy—he just needs a little push in the right direction. You convince yourself that if you’re patient enough he will eventually come around. You wait in vain for him to realize that even if he doesn’t believe in himself, he is good enough for you and he is worth it. That’s why you can’t let go.
3. You are worried he is going to meet someone else and forget about you.
Your biggest fear is that he will find another girl that he is willing to change his ways for. He’ll learn from his mistakes with you and will try to be a better man, but you won’t be the one on the receiving end of it. He will move on and grow up, and someone else will benefit from it. That thought kills you because he should have realized that with you. Why couldn’t he step up for you? Why didn’t he love you enough to try harder? You let all these fears overcome you.That’s why you can’t let go.
4. You care too much.
It is your natural instinct. Even when he hurts you over and over again, you can’t stop caring about him. You can pretend to, but you know you’re just kidding yourself. Regardless of how much pain you’re in, you still take into account his well-being. So when he calls you at 2 a.m. saying he misses and needs you, you believe him. You make yourself vulnerable to him again and allow him back into your life despite knowing he is probably going to let you down. That’s how much you care.That’s why you can’t let go.
5. You are afraid to be alone.
Things may be far from perfect with him, but you’d rather settle for an unhealthy relationship than to not have him in your life at all. You lower your expectations to meet his and you force yourself to believe that things will be different. You’re afraid that if you let him go, you will not find anyone better and you will be alone forever. You brainwash yourself into thinking that this is as good as it gets, so you might as well stay. That’s why you can’t let go.
But that is also exactly why you should.
You’re stronger than you think. It's time you finally put yourself first. Don't ever let anyone make you question your worth, because only you have the power to determine that. Love yourself first—that's the only way you will attract the right kind of love.
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