1. You never get kilig anymore.
There will come a point in every relationship when the butterflies in your stomach will cease to exist, but if you stop trying to regain that spark or kilig again, then you’ll end up in a rut—a comfortable but boring rut that will eventually take its toll on your partnership. You don't have to be sweet to each other all the time, but you should at least make an effort to let your partner know that you still care enough to try.
2. You constantly make excuses for him.
Every time he does something wrong you justify it to yourself and to others by making excuses on his behalf. He cancelled on your date for the third time in a row? You say, “Oh, he’s been really stressed with work, so he’s pressed for time. It’s fine, I don’t mind at all,” but what you really mean is, “What's one hour of his time? If he can have a drink after work with his officemates, shouldn't he have time to see me, too?” Don't pretend like things are okay when they're not, just to avoid confrontation.
3. Your conversations are more routine than spontaneous.
Lately your conversations have been like this:
Him: “Hi. What's up?”
You: “Nothing much. How was your day?”
Him: “Good, same as usual.”
You: “Okay, cool.”
*End of conversation*
You should be excited to tell each other about everything, even mundane things like what you had for lunch or how excited you are to see Interstellar. You keep the conversation going not because you have to but because you want to. Routine can be lethal.
4. Your fights outnumber the good times.
You spend more time arguing than actually enjoying each other's company. Every little thing gets blown out of proportion to the point where you both avoid talking to each other completely just to avoid fights. This kind of relationship is very unhealthy. If you have a problem, talk it out.
5. You don’t like to talk about him to your friends or family.
If you’re a naturally private person, then that’s understandable. But if you are intentionally not talking about your relationship to other people because you’re embarrassed of him, then that’s a problem. Being in a mature relationship means accepting the person you're with completely, including his flaws. You love him for who he is, not who you want him to be. Don't settle just because it's easy or convenient.
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