The last thing anyone wants is to be involved in a nude photo (or sex video) scandal. Imagine having your privacy violated because your personal pictures ended up in the wrong hands. It is degrading, humiliating, and downright cruel.
Jennifer Lawrence, Kate Upton, and Vanessa Hudgens had no intention to showcase their naked bodies to the public when they sent private pictures to their significant others. But it’s not only celebrities who fall victim to nude photo scandals. Women’s rights are violated every day with each missed-send or hack.
We’re not saying you shouldn’t send sexy photos to your S.O. It’s your life and your body, and it’s your choice to do whatever you want with them. But you have to be responsible and smart about it, too.
Here are some things to ASSUME before taking nude pictures or videos:
1. Once you send it, you can never take it back.
Technology has its ups and downs. It is so easy to send a photo in a matter of seconds, but there’s a big chance things can go wrong along the way. Once the image leaves your phone, there is no turning back. The receiver gains access to it and you lose control over what happens next. EQUALLY IMPORTANT: External hard drives and laptops get stolen, too. Learn from Chito Miranda and Neri Naig.
2. All devices are synced.
Companies like Google and Apple have developed systems to sync all our devices for easy sharing. Generally, it’s a very helpful feature. On the downside, incriminating documents become more available in different platforms. When you send a photo to your boyfriend’s phone and he backs it up via iCloud or Google Drive, your photo will not only show up on his phone, but on all his synced gadgets as well (latptop, tablet, etc.). Just because he deletes it from one of those gadgets doesn’t mean it’s gone forever.
3. Your parents and future employers will see it.
Just because your folks sometimes have a hard time navigating their way around the interwebs doesn’t mean they cannot find your photos. Also, do you really want to lose your dream job because HR found an #AfterSex selfie? Cyberspace is a very tricky place. You never know where (or when) things might turn up.
4. You cannot trust anyone.
So you sent a nude pic to your boyfriend of five years, but you broke up two months ago. In a perfect world, he will have the decency to delete all your inappropriate photos post-breakup. But let’s face it, that doesn’t always happen. In fact, he may even forget the pictures exist until a friend stumbles upon them while browsing through his laptop. That’s when things get ugly. Anyone with access to your ex’s gadgets can potentially be a threat.
5. ALWAYS from the neck down.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to send intimate photos to your partner PRIVATELY to keep the fire burning. It is especially helpful for couples in long distance relationships. We suggest you take extra caution when sending nude photos by only taking pictures of yourself from your neck down. That way, if it ends up in the wrong hands, they can't prove that it's really you (unless you have identifiable birthmarks or tattoos, of course!).
Ultimately, it's your body, and YOUR choice. As long as you're informed of all the scenarios that might play out, know that choosing whether or not to expose yourself via a nude photo or video is a decision you have the POWER to make.