If you've been successful at having orgasms with your man, you know that all the effort is so worth it. Still, there are occasions when you want to speed up the satisfaction. Well, rejoice: "The more you learn about your own body's responses, the more adept you'll be at quickly reaching orgasm," says sexologist Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD, author of Sex With Your Ex. We asked experts for their best big O tactics. Used individually or all together, they'll help you hit bliss in record time.
- Find Your Tip-Me-Over Tricks
To hasten your orgasms with a guy, first spend a little extra time giving yourself one. Pay attention to your body and mind right before you climax—where you're touching, how much pressure you're applying, which muscles tense up—says sex educator Dorian Solot, co-author of I Love Female Orgasm. Then re-create those same moves during sex for a faster O.
It's also important to cultivate a titillating mood. "Every woman is unique in what she needs to feel—and stay—in a sexual mind-set," says Susan Crain Bakos, author of The Orgasm Bible. "It could be candlelight and soft music, deep breathing, or even porn playing in the background." So, figure out what atmosphere works for you, then set that tone before jumping in the sack.
- Tease Yourself Before He Gets There
One way to ensure faster blastoffs with your guy is to prime yourself before you even see him. "Building excitement throughout the day will keep you in a heightened state of arousal," says Fulbright. Fantasize about what you and your man will be doing later that evening, visualizing every hot detail. "Your body responds to stimulation more quickly if you're already turned on mentally," explains Bakos.
Speaking of stimulation, masturbating just to the brink—but not allowing yourself to peak—ensures that you'll be bursting at the orgasmic seams by the time your man walks through the door. When the two of you hit the sheets, "your body will quickly return to the level of build-up you've already achieved, and your guy can finish you off in a hurry," says Solot.
- Use Hot-Spot-Hitting Power Positions
Most women have two main areas of erotic real estate: the clitoris and the G-spot (to find this dime-size spongy area along the front wall of your vagina, insert a finger and make a "come here" motion with your digit). The quickest way to see stars during sex is to stimulate these zones by way of strategic positions.
Woman-on-top is probably the easiest pose to get you off because you control the angle, depth, and speed and can easily touch yourself. To get clitoral stimulation, grind against his pubic bone. Varying the move may crank up the heat faster. "Gyrate your hips in an oval rather than up and down," suggests Bakos. "You'll tease your clitoris every time you circle forward and your G-spot as you go backward.
"Doggie-style is another quicker-climax pose," says Fulbright. He is angled right at your G-spot, and you receive deep penetration. If he's well-endowed, he will also hit your A-spot—an area some scientists say is above the G-spot, toward your cervix, and that, when stimulated, can trigger an intense orgasm. Plus, if you get self-conscious during sex, facing away from your guy helps you tune out your nerves.
To up the arousal ante even more, squeeze your PCs (the muscles you contract to stop the flow of urine) during intercourse...no matter what position you're using. "Flexing these muscles pulls on the clitoris and vagina, creating more intense friction, which helps give you an easier, stronger orgasm," says Bakos.
- Double Your Pleasure
Zeroing in on the major erogenous areas is crucial, but to hit your high note even faster, multitask. "Anytime you can stimulate more than one spot at the same time, you'll up your all-over excitement, which can push you over the edge sooner," says Fulbright. For example, while he's going down on you, ask him to insert two fingers and do the "come here" G-spot move. Or, spin around into reverse cowgirl, so he can stimulate the back wall of your vagina and you can caress yourself down below.
But, don't just focus on some alphabetical area. Have him touch you all over during the deed: Rubbing your breasts, inner thighs, neck, etc. adds to the orgasm-inducing sensations.
- Turbocharge Your Touches
Sometimes a little "outside" help steps up the pleasurable pace. Adding a dollop of lubricant allows your hot zones to be continually, directly stroked without causing painful friction.
Erotic electronics also can accelerate your climax. It's simple math: Vibrators offer more strokes per second than hands do. If you're worried about your guy's ego, try a finger vibe that slips over one of his digits and enhances, rather than replaces, manual moves. To send feel-good tremors through both your bods, place a bullet-shaped buzz buddy at the base of his penis when you're on top, and grind against it.
When you peak faster, your guy can cross his finish line sooner, too. So, do what works to speed up your orgasm—ultimately, it benefits both of you.