Awakening—and strengthening—your responses to certain stimuli (feeling the soft touch of silk against your skin, getting a rush from a sexy stranger’s lingering look) can make you feel more sensual in and out of bed. “You can’t be open to great sex if you’re closed off to the everyday thrills in the world around you,” says Jennifer Berman, MD, founder and director of the Female Sexual Medicine Center at UCLA. “That’s why indulging in these simple sensations can set the tone for more intense carnal gratifaction.”
So read on to learn how to push your bliss buttons on a daily basis. Recognizing and relishing the following erotic opportunities is the ultimate way to deepen your sexual satisfaction.
1. A One-Glass Wine Buzz
The key to unlocking feel-good vibes is letting yourself unwind, and what better way to ease your frayed nerves than with a warm wine rush. “You’ll start to feel hot and tingly all over because red wine is a vascular dilator, meaning it increases blood flow throughout your body, which helps your muscles relax,” says Dr. Berman.
To fully take advantage of the boozy benefits, go slow, inhale as you take baby sips, and use a widemouthed glass so you get a good whiff. “The aroma can really trigger a sensory experience,” says New York City wine consultant Lyle Kula. “A glass of wine is like a bouquet of flowers. There’s so much wonderful fragrance that smelling it is a reward in itself.”
2. Shower Power
Talk about missed opportunity. Instead of relishing the muscle-pounding water cascading over our bodies, most of us rush through our A.M. routine in less time than it takes to burn toast.
“If you actually focus on the sensations, you’ll realize that the shower not only eases tension but clears your nasal passages as well. It also increases your circulation, making you more receptive to everything tactile,” explains Alan Hirsch, MD, neurological director of the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago and author of Scentsational Sex.
So vow to make tomorrow morning different. Give yourself extra time and concentrate on how good the soapy lather feels as you work your hands all over your wet body. Caress your breasts, making circular motions with your fingers. If you want to take it to the next lusty level, slowly work your digits down to your inner thighs, eventually moving to your nether region. Then you’ll really start the day off on a high note.
3. The Feel Of Satin
It doesn’t take a genius to figure out that soft, smooth fabrics, like satin, cashmere, and silk, feel pretty damn good on naked flesh. What you may not know is that luxuriating in these things can rouse your randy tendencies. “Lush tactile experiences make us crave more touch,” says Tiffany Field, PhD, director of the Touch Research Institute at the University of Miami School of Medicine. So slip on some silk panties, titillate your toes with cozy cashmere socks, or sleep au naturel between satin sheets, and bask in this sensual bliss.
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4. Being Pleasured
Oral action can be glorious, yet many of us have a hard time enjoying it. “A lot of women feel self-conscious about receiving oral sex, so they can’t concentrate on the sensations,” says Dr. Berman. “You need to relax and let yourself be vulnerable to what your body is feeling.”
The trick to letting go: Lie back, close your eyes, and do away with any distractions. Now focus on your body’s growing excitement and enjoy each level. Don’t worry about taking too long. Trust us, your guy gets off on getting you off.
5. Rhythmic Beats
Think about how a sound track intensifies a film. Well, the right music can do the same thing for a sack session. Playing tunes that mimic the rhythm of your body’s movements during sex can amp up the action. “The throbbing bass of Latin or reggae music resonates through your body, which can be arousing and make you want to move to the beat,” says Sasha Lessin, PhD, professor of tantric studies at the School of Tantra in Hawaii. Now that’s bumping and grinding.
6. Your Libido
You don’t have to be in the throes of passion to feel that tingly sensation down below. Just like a guy, you can become horny anytime, anywhere...like sitting at your desk daydreaming about last night’s hot date or feeling the vibrations of your car idling in rush-hour traffic. And just because you’re not in a sexual situation doesn’t mean you can’t capitalize on that south-of-the-border buzz.
“Focus on the pleasurable sensation when it strikes, and let yourself enjoy it...even indulge in a fantasy,” says Dr. Berman. “Lingering in an aroused state for a prolonged period builds anticipation, which makes sex more intense.”
7. A Body Massage
Getting a full-body rubdown can feel so good, it’s almost orgasmic. “Being massaged puts your body in a more relaxed state. Your heart rate and blood pressure go down, and even your stress hormone levels go down,” says Field. “Plus, it teaches your body to respond to touch,” which ultimately could make you more open and receptive to sexual touch.
Next time you get a massage, whether it’s from your guy or a pro, speak up about how you want to be handled in terms of the right amount of pressure. Then just close your eyes and let yourself be kneaded into blissful oblivion.
8. Pure Magnetism
You know when you lock eyes with a hunky stranger and butterflies start doing backflips in your stomach? Milk that feeling for all it’s worth. “The butterfly effect is your body’s way of alerting you to attraction,” says Debbie Mandel, author of Turn on Your Inner Light: Fitness for Body, Mind, and Soul. “And nothing makes you feel sexier or more confident than desiring someone and being desired.” So use that energy and stare back. You have nothing to lose…and a possible paramour to gain.
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