We all want to be in the mood for some loving, but sometimes, you're just not feeling it. Why is that? You still fancy your boyfriend, but you'd just rather sit and drill through the remaining episodes of Jane the Virgin than allow any other kind of "drilling" to commence.
But it turns out it could be your diet that's negatively affecting your sex drive. We all know which foods have a great impact on your libido (oysters, strawberries; we're looking at you) but it's news to us that there are certain types of food that also do the opposite.
Frida Harju, in house nutritionist at health and fitness app Lifesum, knows exactly what will put your fire out, and has shared her info with us so you know exactly what to avoid next time you've got an evening in planned.
This one's not exactly a newsflash. Most of us have had enough drunk sex to know it's about 36,450 times harder to make you both orgasm while under the influence. But it's not all bad news, as Frida explains: "Alcohol in moderation does not cause any damage to your libido.
"However," she continues, "excessive drinking can cause erectile difficulties in men or trouble achieving an orgasm, in both men and women. Excessive alcohol can also make you sleepy and uninterested." Yup, been there.
2. Red meats
"Interestingly, some red meats can contain added hormones or antibiotics, which can unbalance a man's natural hormone levels if eaten in large quantities," Frida informs us. Which is fairly annoying, because nothing says "date night" like a big hunk of steak.
But there is hope: "Opt for a leaner cut like a classic filet mignon for a healthy and balanced diet that will not wreak havoc with your libido."
Ugh, WHY is it all the good things? "Though cheese is absolutely delicious, especially when you have a carefully selected platter, it can mess with your hormones, again, for both men and women, affecting testosterone and estrogen, which in turn lowers the libido," says Frida.
On the plus side, though, cheese probably gives you almost as much (if not more) pleasure than sex. So if you're not prepared to give that up in the name of your sex drive, we totally respect your decision.
"This may be a surprising one to have on the list, especially considering the necessity of gum or mints pre-date, but mint can work as a turn-off, especially for the fellas," we're warned. "The menthol in the mint tends to lower testosterone, which will in turn lower the sex drive."
Look, it's unlikely you'll share a jar of Licorice over a date, but you never know. And just in case the idea is ever toyed with, say NO.
Why? "This plant is often used in candies, herbal teas and other drinks," says Frida. "While delicious, it contains phytoestrogens, which affect the levels of testosterone in the body (both men and women have testosterone), weakening your sexual desire."
This is getting unfair, now. There's nothing sexier than a chocolate fondue, is there? But apparently that's a rookie error, according to Frida.
"While absolutely delicious, chocolate is full of methylxantines, which can make us lethargic and sleepy, naturally lowering our sex drive," she warns. And we guess falling asleep during sex isn't the best way to communicate to your partner how into them you are.
7. Fried foods
"Not only are greasy foods bad for a healthy diet, but they can also affect our sex drives," says Frida. "The trans-fat found in most fried foods is known to decrease the libido in both men and women by increasing abnormal sperm production in men and interferes with gestation in women."
8. Microwaved popcorn
"While the perfect accompaniment to a movie night, this snack can cause damage to the sex drive. The chemicals used in the linings of popcorn bags has been linked to a lower sex drive. Popcorn bags contain perfluoroalkyl acids, which lower sperm counts in men and decrease the libido in women," we're told.
9. Corn flakes
"Surprising as this one is, it actually makes perfect sense," says Frida. But it all comes down to John Harvey Kellogg, the creator of the famous cereal brand, being a big believer in abstinence. Genuinely.
"He spent a considerable amount of time coming up with foods that would blunt sexual urges," Frida tells us. "While corn flakes are a great breakfast food, avoid them before any sexual activity, or spice them up with a natural aphrodisiac like a dash of cinnamon which warms up your body (and your sex drive), or a bit of honey which increases testosterone and oestrogen production." Who knew cereal could be such a dampener?
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.co.uk. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.