Anal sex is most often portrayed as a doggy-style-only affair, but the truth is, there are so many different ways to do butt stuff. From using a variety of lubes to incorporating foreplay techniques and even throwing in some fun sex toys, there are so many ways to enjoy the experience.
And yet, there are a lot of misconceptions about anal sex too. Yes, of course, pain is a thing, but it can easily be addressed, and both you and your partner will have some thoughts about whether or not you like it. Which, like, to each their own! You don't have to like anal sex.
But, the odds of enjoying it will be higher if you try one or more of these 15 positions. Whether you're with a penis-owner or a strap-on owner, you'll appreciate these inventive switch-ups for all the varying stimulation they provide.
All Hands On Pecs
Anal sex often leaves you staring off into the distance, so this position is great for people who want a sexy view. From missionary position, have your partner enter you slowly. Hold onto their chest to help guide their thrusts.
The Plug And Play
If you're not a billion percent sure you want your partner to go all in, start with a test run. Try some clit love via toy or hand, while your partner attempts an exploratory excursion with a well-lubed butt plug. If you want more, it's easy to move onto trial entry by penis or strap-on. Your butt, your rules.
The Posterior Plank
This position has the lowest incidence of suffering a sex-induced butt cramp, if that's something you're worried about. Perfect for when you're feeling lazy but also want to have anal sex, aka Thursday.
Anal Will Always Love You
A more intimate take on doggy-style, stand in front of your partner and have them enter you from behind, keeping your bodies close like they're your "Bodyguard." Then, for the grand crescendo, throw your arms out to the sides like the diva you truly are.
Back Me Up
A kinky take on doggy-style, and who doesn't love doggy-style? Always communicate what speed and depth you're comfortable with in this position, but they can help you relax and stay horny by reaching around and fingering your clit.
The Kinky Cowgirl
Straddle your partner, cowgirl-style, and slowly ease onto their, er, saddle. Then ride them and enjoy holding the reins.
The Low Rider
Get more control over what's going on back there by with a doggy-spoon hybrid. You can use your foot to go deeper or slow it down if it gets too intense.
Just because your rear is the center of attention doesn't mean your front should be ignored. Have them enter you in a spooning position, then use their top hand to give your nipples or clit some love.
The Inversion Booty
An advanced move for yogis and experienced anal sexperts. Swing your legs over their shoulders and have them enter you at an upward angle. The pay-off to your impending leg cramp: They can rub against the sensitive interior parts of your clit from here.
Get the physical benefits of double penetration without the possible accompanying emotional weirdness of having a threesome by just using a dildo instead. Hug a pillow between your legs to keep the dildo or a rabbit-style vibe in place while your partner goes in from behind. So. Much. D.
Lean On Me
It seems basic, but this position is not actually for beginners. You have little control over the speed and depth, and they'll have a hard time reaching your clit to keep you aroused. Do this one with a trusted partner with whom you communicate well to make sure everyone feels supported.
Netflix And Chill
It's like Netflix and chill, but, you know, around back. Straddle them on the couch so you have total control over how fast and deep they go, and put on some episodes of Outlander so you can sneakily get off to Jamie Fraser.
No reason you should be getting all the ass-tastic love. Try the intimate Tantric Yab Yum position, but with anal for you and a vibrating prostate toy up the bum for your partner. Press a bullet vibe against your clitoris and, honestly, y'all will barely have to move to have insane, toy-fueled orgasms.
The Triple D
If you and your girl have double penetration fantasies, but also happen to be monogamous lesbians, fill up with hers n' hers double-headed dildos. Suction 'em to the ground, lube up, and gently slide on. Once situated, slowly bob up and down while rubbing your own or a nearby clit.
The Fork Lift
For a sitting version of doggie that gives you waaaay more control of how much you're gonna take, sit down on your partner's lap. Slide down as slowly as you please, bracing your hands on your partner's thighs so you're in full control. (Ahem, making the backing up "beep-beep" noise here is totally optional... as in, not really recommended at all.)
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.