Can you have multiple orgasms? Well...maybe! About 47 percent of women report experiencing more than one orgasm in a row, according to a study by OMGYES, the Indiana University School of Public Health, and the Kinsey Institute.
One pro tip that might help you up your odds of having multiple orgasms: experiment as much as you can with masturbation. The reason is two-fold. First, you want to know what works best for your body, and masturbation is a great way to hone in and figure out exactly what gets you off in a low-pressure environment. When you’re with a partner, there’s a ton more variables to consider (hello, another whole person is involved!) but when you’re flying solo, your focus is solely on yourself so you can better enhance your pleasure.
Masturbation also improves your multiple orgasm game because it gets your body used to the feeling of orgasming over and over again. “[Masturbation] can strengthen your muscles that are usually involved for the marathon of bliss,” says Maureen Pollack, sex expert, intimacy coach, CEO of the Waterslyde, and co-owner of Lovability Inc. If multiple orgasms are making the Olympics, the only way you’re gonna get there is through practice, practice, practice.
Another thing to keep in mind: your second orgasm is usually easier to achieve than your first. “After your first orgasm, you are more likely to have multiple,” says Pollack. So if it takes you ten minutes of wrist-numbing hard work (and if you prefer the shortcut route, we gotchu) to get to O numero uno, don’t be discouraged by the idea that you’ll need to dedicate another ten minutes to get to the second orgasm. Wait a minute or two between your first orgasm before you get going again before you start stimulation again.
Don’t be too hard on yourself if you can’t have multiple orgasms on your first try. Everyone’s body is different, every orgasm is different, and what doesn’t work the first time, might work another time in a different headspace or with a slightly altered technique! If the above info has got you raring to go, here are some positions that might help you.
The Arc De Triomphe
To boost your odds of hitting multiples, lean on your hands and arch your back when sitting on your partner's face for more focused stim (and a slightly more comfortable pose for you). Adjust your hips accordingly to hit that perfect spot.
Slow and steady wins the orgasm race. You can have your partner move a lubed finger in excruciatingly slow circles around your clit, then level up with more intense rubbing, with a curved finger inside. Then, at last, your partner slides in while you continue rubbing yourself (or using a toy). High five if and when you recover.
Princess and the Peen
Avail yourself of two ways to go over the edge by straddling a cylindrical sex pillow (or rolled up towels or a well-covered firm couch cushion–you can be crafty!). Push back onto your partner for deep penetration and rub against your pillow contraption for more clit love. You can also fire up a vibe and prop it between you and the pillow. ~Blissy~.
Oral is a great way to try for multiple orgasms because it doesn't require a penis-having partner to stay hard for eons. Scoot your butt to the edge of the bed so your partner can kneel and get to work. This works best if you start with a gentle clit-only orgasm them move to a deep whole-V kind. For part one, gentle licks and sucks, for part two, they can slide a curved finger inside of you for firm and steady internal stim while they continue with oral attention.
The Rag Doll
If you want or crave different stimulation within the same position, because multitasking, lie on your side with a pillow under your head. He kneels by your butt, a knee between your legs so he's straddling your lower leg, and your upper leg goes over his thigh. Angle yourself to focus stimulation and if/when you have an orgasm, shift to another and try again. Options: rubbing yourself on his upper thigh, letting yourself go limp for P-in-V plus clit rub, anal plus vibrator, etc.
Bump and Grind
Trade off on thrusting duties to mix up the stimulation. Have your partner get on top a la missionary, then put your legs inside theirs and press them tightly together. Shift down a little so you can grind against the top of their shaft. You do all the moving—his job, if he can stand it, is not to come...yet. For round two, they lift themselves onto their hands so you can rub yourself as they thrust. Super sexy for all.
The Cup Holder
If you get super sensitive after an orgasm, a seated position is your friend. Sit on your partner's lap facing away for orgasm #1. After, when you think you can't take anymore, they gently cup your V with their whole hand. As your body parts calm down a little, they move up to slow rub with their whole hand. And so it begins again.
The Soft Parade
The clitoris extends way inside and around your vagina. The key to multiples is getting at it from different angles. For this, you need reinforcements. Start out solo—gather an arsenal of toys and take to your bed. Use your hand for a simple, and hopefully, starter, clitoral orgasm. Afterwards, try for another by sliding a dildo-style vibrator inside your vagina and pressing it against the top wall. If you can handle more, mix and match with butt plugs, clit vibrators, whatever you've got. Just make sure to lock the door.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.