TikTok is kind of ~my thing~. The app has reaffirmed my thirst for Draco Malfoy, revealed Edward Cullen has an icicle dick, and made it super easy to bake a chocolate lava cake using only my own microwave. (I'm sorry, how is this app free?) But the one thing I’m most thoroughly impressed with from TikTok is its sex content.
As someone who works primarily in the love and sex vertical, I can confirm there is some Grade-A sex advice being distributed on the app. And from what I’ve seen during my hour-long-late-night scrolls (yes, it happens to the best of us), it’s a super sex positive community filled with content creators who openly discuss kinks, BDSM, gender identity, sexual orientations, and more. Plus, there are legit therapists, sexual wellness educators, OB/GYNS, and all sorts of experts on the app you can follow. Turns out TikTok = the sexual education you didn’t know you needed.
But just like anything on the Internet, you can’t trust everything you read or see. And the same thing applies for viral TikToks that could be spreading false information—like, ahem, the "benefits" of pineapple juice. (Sorry, but it is not magical vagina juice. It does not make you smell or taste better down there.)
So I’ve taken it upon myself to share with you some of the best-and-actually-accurate sex advice and tips you can find on TikTok. If your partner is neglecting to do any of the things recommended in these vids, consider sending them this article as the convo-starter you’ve been looking for. (You can thank me later, bb.)
Let's start with a friendly PSA about the clitoris—including where it's located and why it's so important:
This is 100 percent accurate because, yes, your clitoris is a super sensitive, nerve-packed sex organ that exists solely for your pleasure. You can read more about it here.Continue reading below ↓
How to actually pull someone's hair without wreaking havoc on their split ends:
For all of you who experience painful sex, here's what a certified pelvic floor PT suggests trying:
According to the American College of Gynecologists and Obstetricians, 75 percent of women experience pain during sex at one point in their life. Sigh. So while some slight pain and/or discomfort could be related to the sex position you're in, if it's more severe, check out these tips here if the above vid doesn't help.
What you can do if your birth control pill went MIA when you dropped it somewhere under your bed, LOL:
I know, I know, this isn't your traditional sex tip—but we love some practical advice to avoid bbs if you're not trying to get pregnant. But because some birth control pills are different, double check with your doctor about your specific prescription to make sure this is the best course of action.Continue reading below ↓
A reminder that using lube does not mean you aren't aroused:
I cannot reiterate enough just how important lube is. Here are some fun and sexy ways you can use it that will enhance your pleasure.
Tips on how to sex without simply going through the motions (IYKYK):
There's also this super cool thing called tantric sex you should try.
Every penis owner is different and has preferences, but for a lot of them, it's allllll about that tip during a blowjob:
More blowjob tips, right this way.
This tip might not be legit ~science~, but it...seems to work?? *shrugs*:
But just so we're on the same page, there's no reason to make yourself sick or push your gag reflex in the name of good oral sex, okay?
Yeah, please stop with the at-home food dildos...
Right this way to amazing sex toys you should totally check out.
How to properly choke your partner without literally crushing their windpipe:
Huge disclaimer: This should come AFTER consent, safe words, and boundaries are discussed.Continue reading below ↓
A much-needed tutorial on how to tie your partner's hands together:
Tips and tricks for safe—but still sexy—wax play:
In addition to what's in the video, here are essential things you should know before trying wax play too.
Hi, yes, please send all the men in your life this video if you are not trying to get preggo:
Kinda tired of it getting lost up in there, k? #sexeducation? seriously just stop - somegirlnamedanna
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.