Even if you're the partner to orchestrate a breakup, it can still be really awful. Not only have you now got to adjust your life accordingly (what will you do with all that extra time?), but chances are some horrible things happened in the run up to the end of your relationship. Breakup convos can get nasty, and are usually utterly emotionally exhausting.
We think we know how to mend a broken heart: sleep with someone else, focus on ourselves, drink to oblivion. But now, science claims to have a legit answer to the question, "What's the best way to get over a bad breakup?"
New research from the Journal of Neuroscience has discovered thinking that you're over it could be the key to actually being over it. University of Colorado Boulder researchers studied 40 participants who have just been dumped, who brought along a pic of their ex and a friend of the same gender. Sounds weird, right? Bear with me.
They were then asked to talk through their breakup, according to UPROXX, while scientists kept an eye on an image of their brain. Then when participants took a break, half were told they were being given a nasal spray to numb their emotional pain (and the other half were told it was just a saline spray).
Shocking twist: Those who had been told the spray would wash their woes away went on to feel much less emotional, their brain reacted differently when they spoke about their broken relationship, and they found it easier to deal with the pain.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com/uk. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.