We get it, you just met someone special, and you’re running high on ~*crush vibes*~. You deserve to be happy, which is probably why you’re always wearing rose-tinted glasses around this person. I’m sure you already know this–but not everyone is good for you, so it’ll help if you watch the cues of ~red-flag behavior~.
Luckily for you, we came up with a cheat sheet on those signs to be on the lookout for. So go ahead, bookmark and take notes!
Dating red flags you should never ignore:
1. He’s a damaged case
You probably heard the famous quote: “Hurt people hurt people.” Despite this being one of the emo kids’ favorite Tumblr quotes (LOL), there’s nothing cool about dating an emotionally broken man because whatever you do, there really is no fixing someone who doesn’t want to do it for himself. After all, you want a boyfriend, not a project to rebuild (unless...).
2. He’s not ready to commit
This is what irks me the most about dating. If he says he doesn’t want to commit, believe him—and stop wasting your time. Maybe he doesn’t like you enough, or maybe he does (but the timing is just off), but take that as a sign that it's not the best situation to be in at the moment. Who knows, maybe your paths will cross again somewhere down the road—but for now, don't shrink yourself so you can settle. You deserve better!
3. He feels like he’s a main character
Eep, we know. While there’s totally nothing wrong with self-love, it just gets problematic if a person delves into an all-about-me behavior and is solely focused on his needs and wants. Relationships are supposed to be give and take, so make sure your emotions are considered, too.
4. He makes you pretend to be someone you’re not
If you feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells with this person, then it’s absolutely a red flag. Your relationship should be your safe space, and your person will never make you feel like you can’t be yourself (the silly, messy, unfiltered version) around him.
5. He doesn’t prioritize you
You can probably tell if you’re in someone’s priorities with the amount of time and effort they allot for you, so if you’re feeling like you’re just on the back burner, then it’s probably time to move on. Nuff said.
6. He’s not trustworthy
Trust is important in every relationship to survive. If you feel like you’re constantly suspicious of him and his actions, it’ll probably not work out, maybe not now, but sooner or later. You know what they say, a woman’s intuition is always right—so if you feel like something’s up, trust that, and communicate to him why you’re feeling that way and then decide based on how he responds.
7. He doesn’t take responsibility for anything
Nothing is more attractive than someone who holds himself responsible for his or her shortcomings and backs it up with changed behavior. If someone constantly gaslights you and refuses to acknowledge his faults, then that’s a telltale sign of an emotionally immature person, someone you don’t want to invest feelings in, trust me.
8. IYKYK :')
Always listen to that voice of reason. Your heart might know what it wants, but your head will give you the love you need. Keep your standards high, and be with someone who meets just that.