If you're up for making your orgasms longer, more intense and just generally, better, then "edging" may be right up your street.
Edging is the term used for a very specific type of solo sex. It requires you to bring yourself to the point of orgasm and then, just, stop. I know, it sounds hard because when you get to that point it can feel impossible not to let yourself go. But trust us, it's totally worth the self-control.
You may have heard of orgasm denial, which sounds kinda similar but actually takes place over a sustained period of time (some people manage it for MONTHS). Don't worry; edging requires much less restraint than that (phew!) and means you can enjoy longer lasting, deeper and more fulfilling climaxes when you do eventually allow yourself to have one.
Annabelle Knight, sex expert for ONE Condoms, explains, "It takes a surprisingly short amount of time to become proficient in edging, after a few short sessions in a few days you’ll find the quality of your orgasm improves. Most women never look back after discovering edging." So here are Annabelle's tips on how to edge like a pro.
Know your PNR
The point of no return (PNR) is the point in which arousal meets orgasm. It’s important that you learn to read your body and know when this point occurs in order for you to stop stimulation.
Most women find their breathing becomes sharper, their movements more mechanical and that all their attention is focussed on their genitals. At this point, it’s important to stop all activity and let your body rest for a minute or two until it returns to a more normal state. Once your sexual energy has subsided you can continue with your session. Repeat this process for as long as you can–three or four times should do it–but it’s worth noting that the longer you practice the better your end result will be.
Do it alone
I wouldn’t recommend using a sex toy for edging practice unless you find it takes you a very long time to reach your PNR without one. Some women like to use small flat paintbrushes as the bristles provide a unique form of stimulation when continually stroked over the clitoris. This sensation lends itself to edging really well.
Put in the work
Edging is really great but like anything worthwhile, it takes practice and patience. Lots of women fall at the first hurdle and this is down to one simple fact; orgasms are great and it’s hard to say no to one when it’s knocking at your door. But if you keep at it, the results will 100% be worth it.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com/uk. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.