In Grade 6, I remember our teacher talking to us about sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). It was *such* a foreign concept that to be honest, I barely paid attention in class. All I remember from that day were the weird (and gross) photos she included in the lesson plan. A few years later, when I moved to a different school, my health teacher spoke to us about sex—but only in relation to teen pregnancies and *some* safe sex practices. I never learned about "orgasms" until I experienced it while masturbating (I also didn't know this term at the time, lol) and it felt like coming up for fresh air after holding your breath for a few seconds. Others call it a ~release~; there's also the French term la petit mort, which means "the little death." Of course, every person might describe it a little differently, so let's break it down, shall we?
What exactly is an orgasm?
Essentially, it is a reflex, a reaction. When you're turned on, blood flow increases to your genitals and your muscles start tensing up. All your nerve endings communicate with your brain. Through stimulation, usually with the clitoris as a major player (which is the most sensitive part of your vagina), a person can reach orgasm, the body starts contracting, and endorphins are released.
What does an orgasm feel like?
It can be so powerful that some people scream or even pass out. It's like a clenching feeling that might make you arch your back, curl your toes, or grab onto something steady. There are people who've likened it to a tickling sensation as well. You lose control or self-consciousness momentarily. It really depends on the person—but what we know for sure that it feels so, so good. Afterwards, it's normal to feel happy, relaxed, or even sleepy.
Types of female orgasm
The two common types of female orgasms are: clitoral and vaginal. As previously mentioned, many women need clitorial stimulation to even orgasm during masturbation or sex. ICYDK, the clitoris is basically made up of a bundle of nerve endings and is located in the front of the female vulva and under the hood. As you become more sexually aroused, the clit can swell up—just like a penis—and become *more* sensitive. Though there are plenty of people who rely on this stimulation, it's important to know that there are also those who don't like the sensation at all.
You can also have orgasms through vaginal stimulation or penetration; there's also the possibility that other parts of your vulva are touched while this is happening, of course. There are some people who need both clitoral and vaginal stimulation to climax. This is also where the discussion of the G-Spot comes in, though this is where two theories emerge: Is the G-Spot its own structure? Or is it actually attached to the clitoris?
Other types of stimulation
You probably already know that people have different sets of kinks. There are some studies that say clitoral or vaginal stimulation isn't necessary for someone to orgasm; people can experience orgasms through stimulation of the mouth, breasts or nipples, anus, and more.