ICYDK, we've showcased 10 guys who keep their relationships off social media. They talked about the sanctity of having a private life. And that's admirable! But as it turns out, it's possible to protect a relationship from prying eyes, while still proudly sharing couple photos online. We've interviewed 10 millennial guys who are more than okay with social media PDA. Here's what they have to say about why they enjoying showing off their lady loves.
Jimm, 23, in a relationship with Cara, 25
What I think of couples who share their relationship on social media: I like it when people post about their partner online. Yes, posting about your relationship online is a matter of preference. Some people people prefer and value privacy when it comes to their relationship, and others have the urge to post every single detail about their partner online. While it may be true that there are other more important areas wherein a partner can find validation, I feel that posting about your relationship on social media platforms can help build a sense of security in a partner because it's another way of expressing how much one values the relationship.
Why I choose to share: I post about Cara online mainly to celebrate various milestones and to put a smile on people's faces. Like most couples, we usually post about each other when one of us hits a career benchmark or tries something for the first time. Most of my posts about Cara usually involve something ridiculous or cute 'cause I know my friends would get a good laugh out of it. I try my best not to be one of those people who constantly post random, pointless content about the relationship, but I can't help it sometimes when Cara does something funny and cute.
What my girlfriend thinks about it: She won't admit this but Cara absolutely loves it when I post about her. She might play it cool when I post about her, but at the same time, she jokingly comments about my posts especially when she thinks she doesn't look good but she says she feels kilig when I post about her, and I love it when she feels kilig.
Daniel, 32, is married to Diane, 28
What I think of couples who share their relationship on social media: I think it's okay as long as you don't flood everyone's feed with overly-cute couple pictures all the time.
Why I choose to share: Well, social media is about sharing your life, and your relationship is a big part of that. However, we don't share everything. The most important moments, we keep to ourselves.
What my wife thinks about it: She's happy about it because it shows that I'm proud of being with her.
Parkin, 32, is engaged to Carol Bernice, 30
What I think of couples who share their relationship on social media: I think that couples who do share their relationship on social media have their own reasons. But I believe that there should be a line drawn before it becomes either too much or too cheesy. I am not bothered by people who do share though; I can just unfollow people who share too much.
Why I choose to share: I share my relationship on social media because I want my close group of friends and family, especially those abroad, to know what has been happening to me in that part of my life. But my social media life is limited to Facebook, which I use for my job. So I am careful about what to share because I might negatively influence people or give out a wrong impression of me.
What my fiancée thinks about it: She feels secure and validated when I do it. She appreciates it when I post about us online. But she also thinks that only up to a certain level of cheesiness is allowed. Because we have the same sentiments on the issue, we do not practice the habit of oversharing.
Marv, 27, is in a relationship with Chynna, 27
What I think of couples who share their relationship on social media: I admire couples who limit and filter what they post on social media. I am a person who values privacy and intimacy and I personally don't feel the need to post everything that happens between us.
Why I choose to share: I share our photos because there are special moments that Chynna and I want to share with people who are close to us, and one way to reach our friends and family is through social media.
What my girlfriend thinks about it: She finds it very sweet and appreciates it very much.
Jason, 25, is in a relationship with Geena, 25
What I think of couples who share their relationship on social media: For a long time, I've aligned myself with the belief that most of what makes us happy in life comes down to our relationships with other people. When people fall in love, they want other to share in that excitement and be a participant in the pursuit (or obtainment) of it. I like to believe that when a couple shares their togetherness on social media, they're updating friends and followers with what's making them happy. I like to think that this is true even when some posts are probably vain attempts for external validation...but that reason for sharing isn't necessarily separate from the other.
Why I choose to share: I choose to share my relationship on social media because I'm proud to be in love with someone the whole world should love...I want others to get a virtual glimpse of who she is and how happy she makes me. I want to share our happiness with anyone who cares to follow my life. Another important aspect of sharing my relationship with Geena is that it allows me to keep a timeline of memories I've shared with her...it's similar to a journal in that I can (almost instantly) look back on those special moments.
What my girlfriend thinks about it: My girlfriend shares similar thoughts about sharing us on social media. Geena's as happy to be with me as I am to be with her, and is also proud of us as a couple.
Paul, 31, is married to Nicola, 26
What I think of couples who share their relationship on social media: I think that there's good and bad for when couples share their relationship on social media. Good, when they show that they're having a great time or being positive about their relationship. It can get annoying, though, when all they post are the cute stuff constantly. I personally don't mind them, but the danger is (and this is the bad stuff) when their relationship all APPEARS to be going well, when in reality, it isn't. I think posting all the good stuff constantly could hide the real, challenging, and difficult issues that the couples are actually facing but are in denial of.
Why I choose to share: I share our relationship on social media because I want to let the whole world know that I love my wife and I enjoy spending time with her and I'm super proud to be her husband. I post when we are doing fun stuff together because it helps us keep a record of these things, which we can reflect on and say: Yeah, that was so much fun. I also tend to post silly stuff about us just to make people laugh. There's so much negativity in the world already and it's amplified the most in social media. So why not make people laugh as a couple?
What my wife thinks about it: She's pretty easy going so she doesn't care too much when I share. It has to be fun, though! She's very funny and wants to use every opportunity to make people laugh, even on social media.
Jim, 25, is in a relationship with Leanne, 26
What I think of couples who share their relationship on social media: Each couple has their own way of displaying their affection for one another. If sharing their relationship on social media helps them grow their love for one another, then I'm all for it.
Why I choose to share: I occasionally share our relationship milestones such as birthdays or special trips. It's also a way to show my love for Leanne.
What my girlfriend thinks about it: She's cool with it, and she also appreciates the effort! (Outside of posting about our relationship in social media, she even helps me take and choose the best profile picture for my accounts!) We also keep in mind that our social media platforms are part of our respective personal spaces. We don't dictate to one another what can or cannot be posted.
Che, 33, is engaged to Foulin, 30
What I think of couples who share their relationship on social media: I'm cool with couples sharing their relationship in social media. On a certain level, I think it's healthy and makes their relationship more interesting.
Why I choose to share: My fiancé and I were very active on social media even before we got together five years ago. We are still very active now and we love sharing stuff online. We have one rule though: never ever post personal issues on social media. Personal problems need to remain personal.
What my fiancé thinks about it: She's fine with it as long as she gets to choose the photos I'm tagging her in.
Evan, 22, is in a relationship with Ryley, 21
What I think of couples who share their relationship on social media: I think couples who share their relationship on social media carry a responsibility of being authentic and honest about their relationship. For me, I love to see couples on social media that are honest and encourage one another beyond a nice photo. Read the captions and see what they're saying about each other. It shows what you're placing value in. Is it the way he or she looks on the outside or what he or she embodies and represents?
Why I choose to share: I think we tend to carry more influence than we care to admit as couples who decide to make their personal life public. We have an opportunity to be positive influences in our circle of followers.
What my girlfriend thinks about it: She says, "I absolutely love when Evan posts pictures of us on social media! Though I never doubt how much he loves or cares about me, it always makes me feel so special and that he’s proud of me! I love how we can almost be an inspiration to other couples through the platform of social media!!"
AJ, 32, is married to Renate, 36
What I think of couples who share their relationship on social media: I think some couples share way too much on social media. Haha. Honestly, I am fine with people sharing, but I am skeptical that some couples go overboard with their romantic posts to project the way they want their relationship to be perceived. It might be a fine line between, "That's a cute couple" and "This seems fake."
Why I choose to share: I choose to share my relationship, like others, because I can't help but share the things that mean most to me. I want people to know that I’m all about my wife and kids.
What my wife thinks about it: My wife is fine with me sharing. I try to embarrass her a bit, but she knows when I am just messing around.
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