Losing your virginity is a big deal for some people. Not just the idea that they want to lose it at the right time, but even the idea that they need to lose it in the first place. "Virgin" itself can even be an insult (although it really shouldn't be).
Guys especially love to play up how much sex they're having, or just how early they lost their v-card.
But when exactly are guys really losing their virginity? We asked these eight guys to tell us the truth.
- "I lost my virginity on my 15th birthday. I think I was pretty early, at least among my group of friends. I had a few friends at that age who had claimed they had also lost their virginity, but no one really believed them. I think because I had a long-term girlfriend, they believed me and there was a sense of legitimacy." —Todd, 28
- "I told everyone I lost it when I was 17, or I would avoid the subject entirely. But I was a late bloomer and didn’t really lose it until I was 20 and in college. I think I wasn't confident or just got in my own head too much to get there. None of my relationships with women had really lasted long enough to have sex at that point." —Jack, 26
- "I lost my virginity around the same time as a lot of my friends, I think, when I was 17. The way I remember it, everything got really serious after everyone in my friend group started to get their licenses. If we could drive, we all thought we were adults already, right? So we were serious, our relationships were serious, all of it. I also literally wound up losing my virginity in my car." —Michael, 26
- “Prom. Well, after prom. I didn't literally lose it at prom. But we all went to my friend's dad's cabin after prom and that’s when I lost it with my girlfriend. It was all very cliche." —Greg, 27
- "I wish I could say I had an interesting story, but I lost it when I was 18. It was my senior year of high school, and I lost it to someone that we had a very flirtatious relationship for what felt like years but in high school time was only a year. We hooked up one night and then dated for a while, and that was that." —Kevin, 28
- "It wasn't until college. I grappled a lot with my sexuality and understanding of my sexuality during my teens and even to some extent when I got to college. I wasn't very comfortable with myself, and I wasn’t really admitting I was gay. It took a long time to admit I wasn't attracted to women and then a longer time to admit I was attracted to men. So I didn’t lose it until my junior year. Part of me wishes I could go back in time and shake myself and tell myself to hurry it up, but I can’t change that. I learned to accept myself and that’s what’s important." —Andrew, 27
- "I lost it at 17, but I was young for my grade so it was my senior year of high school. It was to a family friend I had a crush on for the longest time. The weird thing about it all was I didn't really tell anyone about it. I felt like they'd think I was lying, you know? Like, how people would be like 'I have a girlfriend but she just goes to another school so you don't know her.' Instead I just kept it to myself." —Kyle, 27
- "I was 19 and it was a little later than some of my friends, for sure. I wasn't popular in high school, honestly. I just didn't have a lot of luck with the ladies and so… not much happened for me, then. I think I was still really reserved when I got to college. It took me a while to come out of my shell." —Marc, 28
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.