Do you know what an orgasm feels like? If you don’t, you probably haven’t experienced it yet because you just know it when you get it. Not a lot of women get to the big O, so here are ways to make it happen:
1. Know that your orgasm relies on you, not on your partner.
A number of people believe that getting an orgasm depends on their partner, or that great sex for them lies in their partner’s skill. But that’s not the case. No one will know how to make you orgasm unless you show them how (different girls find different things very, very pleasurable), which means you have to know how to do it first. Remember: there’s no reason for you not to derive the highest pleasure possible from sex and to tell your guy how he should be thrusting—sex is about both your pleasures, not just his.
Explore your own body. Find out where you feel good and how to make yourself feel good.
Lucky for you if you get it right the first time! For the rest of the women out there, it’s going to take a while. But practice will take you there eventually. You need to devote time to touch yourself, like a lazy afternoon on a weekend or a few minutes before you go to sleep.
First step is to find out where your clitoris is. If you don’t know what a clitoris is, your first step is to Google it. Then stroke it and the clitoral hood lightly and more firmly to see which you like best. (Don’t forget to do this with clean fingers and trimmed nails!) The clitoris is the most accessible way to orgasms because it has more than 8,000 nerve endings (but that also means it’s extremely sensitive, so don’t be rough there).
You can also orgasm through the G-spot. Now this is something that you really look or feel for—it’s located about 2 inches inside the vagina on the topside of the vagina wall. Stimulate it by massaging it with your two fingers, palms up.
Don’t pressure yourself to have an orgasm, because that’ll just make it elude you more. It’s much easier to feel aroused when you’re calm, so do whatever it is that will relax your body. Take a hot bath, drink some chamomile tea, listen to soothing music, turn off the lights, light some candles. Be in the moment.
Source: Harper's Bazaar
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