We all know there is no such thing as 'good sex' and that what it really comes down to is how two (or however many!) people communicate and respond to each other's directions and verbal and non-verbal cues. So often, the key having better sex is to just... talk. And one of the most helpful conversations you can have with a partner is about if, and how you orgasm. Asking for what you want in sex can feel really daunting, and like there is so much potential to upset or offend a partner. So here's how to teach a partner how to make you orgasm, according to IRL women and people with vaginas who feel comfortable doing just that.
Remember, orgasm shouldn't be seen as the "end goal" of sex. But, considering there's a huge orgasm gap (with women and vagina-having people orgasming much less than men and people with penises during sex), we know it's something we need to be talking about a LOT more.
1. "Tell them what you like and don't be shy about it. You are teaching them what you like otherwise how else will the know." [via]