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18 Women Reveal How They Knew They Were Bisexual

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Sadly, annoyingly, frustratingly, there are still so many misconceptions about bisexuality. One of the most common things bisexual women hear is that they're probably not actually bisexual. And of course, it's never a barrel of laughs to hear someone question your own sexuality.

Here, 18 women explain how they knew they were attracted to people of more than one gender.

  1. "When I was a teenager my best friend was at my house for a sleepover, and she told me, 'I have a crush on you.' My immediate feeling was something like, 'Hey, I think I'm into that.' Making out commenced, and that is how I figured out I was bisexual." – Via Reddit
  2. "In retrospect, I've had crushes on girls as long as I can remember. But I always confused them for admiration or jealousy as a kid. I remember sometimes thinking randomly, 'I'm not a lesbian, I've had crushes on guys.' Didn't even consider bisexuality until I was 16, and I had a sexy dream about a girl. And I went, 'Holy shit,' and things started to fall into place. I always used to think that bisexuality was just a thing straight women pretended to do to be subversive/sexy, or a stepping stone to coming out as a lesbian because that was the only way I ever saw it portrayed. I didn't know any bisexuals who were out. So I just assumed it wasn't an option for me." – Via Reddit

  3. "It was a bumpy ride. I always had crushes on guys, though I always got too uncomfortable to even kiss a guy. So I tried kissing a random girl at a party, and figured out I liked women. I thought I was a lesbian for a couple of years, and didn't even consider guys during that time. Then I started getting crushes on guys again. So I had sex with a guy. Now I'm bisexual. Sexual orientation is very obvious to some people, but to others, not so much." – Via Reddit
  4. "As a teenager, I always found guys and girls attractive. I figured this was 'normal' for straight people. I never considered acting on any of my thoughts/feelings towards other girls. [When] I was in university, I hooked up with my housemate after a night out. Neither of us had been with a woman before. Afterwards, it left me with many confusing feelings. Unfortunately, she had a boyfriend, and blamed me for her cheating on him. She wouldn't really talk to me about my feelings. It ruined our friendship.

    "A few years later I tried dating another woman, but it didn't work. The sex was great, but romantically we didn't work. Over time, I've come to terms with the fact that I'm a hetroromantic bisexual. Sexually, I'm bisexual, and attracted to men and women. However romantically, I'm only attracted to men." – Via Reddit
  5. "Through my teen years, I was only attracted to girls I knew in real life. But I was attracted to male characters in fiction. So that was kind of confusing, but I just rolled with it. I figured I just hadn't met any boys IRL that I was attracted to. And given that I was only attracted to like three girls out of the hundreds I knew, that didn't seem implausible. Honestly though, it helped to just adopt an attitude of, 'Well I'm attracted to whoever I'm attracted to!' and not think too much about labels." – Via Reddit
  6. "Okay, so there is this thing I guess that's common knowledge that girls look at other girls and check them out, even if they're straight. So, my friends would be like, 'Wow look at her boobs,' and I'd be like, 'Whoa I was just thinking that! I'm straight, then, because they're straight, and they're thinking what I'm thinking.' Only, I didn't notice growing up that they usually finished the sentence with, 'I wish I had boobs like that!Whereas I would mentally finish the thought with, 'I wish she was sitting on my face.' – Via Reddit

  7. "I always found myself gazing more at girls than boys. When I was old enough to discover porn and erotic art, I felt extremely aroused by the female images, but not the male ones. I'm bi, but I always found women a lot easier on the eyes, and have always had an easier time getting aroused thinking about women." – Via Reddit
  8. "I'm in a relationship with a man, and have only dated men, but I've kissed girls and been into it sexually. And sometimes I masturbate to women. But I enjoy kissing and fucking dudes too, and sometimes masturbate to dudes, so it seems like the logical conclusion." – Via Reddit
  9. "I still question it sometimes. I identify as bisexual, but sometimes I feel like I'm lying because I haven't been with a woman since I was a teen in high school. But I find myself having crushes on women, and fantasizing about women, so I still identify as bisexual when someone asks. But I think I just knew." – Via Reddit
  10. "Just always been attracted to both men and women. My upbringing from my mother was very insistent that I did not actually like women, so I learned very early to not talk about it. But it's never gone away. Since I'm married to a man, I get the typical backlash that I'm, 'not really bi' or 'will cheat some day.' Which of course is very irritating." – Via Reddit
  11. "I'm in my late twenties and only realized I'm also into women this year. I looked back at high school and thought, 'Huh, I think I acted so crazy and jealous because I was in love with her.' And also realized I had these really specific memories of when friends looked especially beautiful. Hot damn, I've always been into women, how about that?" – Via Reddit
  12. "In high school, any sex/romantic dreams I would have would revolve around girls, and I was kind of fixated with boobs. I also never experienced intense attraction to guys, so until I started dating my current (and only) boyfriend I actually thought I might be gay. I do wonder if I'm more demi sexual, but I'm staying under the bi umbrella until/unless I discover differently for sure. For reference, I am now mid twenties and in a committed relationship." – Via Reddit

  13. "Watching Cate Blanchett in Carol." – Via Reddit
  14. "I just had that 'butterflies in the stomach' feeling for girls the same way I did boys. Now it's only girls, but some guys are still fun to look at in a, 'yeah he's attractive with a great body' way. But emotionally, it's like watching paint dry." – Via Reddit
  15. "There are men that I'm turned on by, and women that I'm turned on by. The first time I was attracted to a woman I wondered if I was a lesbian, even after multiple crushes on men. I quickly realized how silly that was. I know what I like." – Via Reddit
  16. "I'm bisexual, but for most of my life I didn't really think too much about what my exact sexuality was. I didn't stress out about labeling myself, or officially coming out as anything. I just liked who I liked and dated who I dated and did what made me happy." – Via Reddit
  17. "I had crushes on boys before. You want to get his attention, hang out with him, find excuses to get to know him, and be noticed by himall that good stuff. I had a specific type of boys I liked. If there was a cute boy in my class and I got paired with him on a project, I'd think, 'Yesssss!!' One day it was just like that, but with a girl. She and I dated for four years. My taste in women is very, very specific. I have been attracted to significantly less women than men. But for the most part, it feels just the same." – Via Reddit
  18. "It's funny because I tried to convince myself I wasn't attracted to women, and I was straight not bi throughout my entire high school experience. I basically settled it by watching porn and realizing I was undoubtedly really attracted to women. I am, however, extremely choosy when it comes to women. I only like a very specific type. Although I am picky with men, but I don't think I could be romantically involved with a woman, it would only be physical." – Via Reddit
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