And even though it's the same place you shave, think about your to-do list, and flawlessly belt Olivia Rodrigo, it’s very private and relaxing. If you close your eyes, you can even pretend you’re under a waterfall in Maui, which honestly sounds like the perfect place to get off.
Erotic educator Taylor Sparks, founder of Organic Loven, says the sensations of the water, the cleansing, and the masturbating are all healing, so combining the three is a simple yet effective way to serve yourself. And you, my friend, deserve to be served.
That’s why we talked with some highly educated experts to reveal everything you need to know about masturbating in the shower. Read on for all the sexy, steamy inspo.
Should I masturbate in the shower?
Absolutely. Not only is it *okay* to masturbate in the shower, but it's actually super healthy. Showers are sacred "me time" spaces, and using masturbation as a form of self-pleasure is absolutely normal and encouraged, says sexual health educator Jasmine Akins, founder of wellness blog It's Just a Coochie.
Masturbating also has a ton of health benefits too. Not only can it reduce stress, but it's a phenomenal way to learn about your body. So if the answer isn't already obvious yet, yes, you should absolutely masturbate in the shower.
How do I masturbate in the shower?
If you’re new to the world of shower orgasms (or you just want a refresher), there are a few things to keep in mind before getting down and
dirty clean. First, make sure the tub, showerhead, and faucet are all clean for, uh, obvious reasons. The last thing you want is to get an infection or walk away feeling dirtier (and not in, like, a hot way).
Another thing: Stay away from harsh chemicals right before you get in (hiii, bleach!). Some soap and water should be enough to get things grime-free.
Once things are clean and you’re ready to get your orgasm in, experiment with what feels good depending on the structure of your tub. “Switch between using the showerhead, your fingers, and different toys,” advises certified sex educator and Dirty South Sex Ed founder Irma Garcia.
In a shower without a handheld showerhead, prop up your leg and utilize your hands or toys, recommends Garcia. And in a shower/tub combo, lie on your back and use the water pressure from the faucet—or grab the showerhead—and play with the settings on your clitoris.
Experiment with different settings and positions until you find something you like, and if you have a tried-and-true method, don’t be afraid to mix it up in new ways. “Getting a super-soft clean towel to wrap around the faucet and then grinding on it can be pleasurable too,” suggests Garcia.
Is it safe to masturbate in the shower?
Yes, but don’t use the showerhead or faucet for penetrative masturbation. Instead, use it to stimulate your clitoris. Just make sure that beforehand, you test the temperature of the water with your hand to be sure it’s not too hot, and then also make sure the force of the stream isn’t strong enough that it’ll cause pain, says Sparks.
The other major concern with shower masturbating (and shower sex in general) is the possibility of falling. “Slipping and falling is going to be the most dangerous thing to look out for. So a slip-resistant mat for the tub or shower is highly recommended,” suggests Sparks.
Find a position that you can hold and potentially something to grab on to if you start to feel unsteady. It’s also always a good idea to have your phone within reach in case you need to call for help…or take some steamy selfies.
How can I make masturbating in the shower better?
In addition to literally playing with the temperate of the water—which Akins highly advises—here are a few more things Garcia suggests trying to elevate the experience:
- Put on some of your favorite music (which can drown out your moans if others are at home).
- Play an erotic audiobook. Highly recommend stories from Dipsea.
- Light incense or a candle.
- Bring a toy to play with.
- Grab a sparkling water or glass of wine to drink after you get out.
Basically, think of this as your own erotic pampering sesh. And if you’re feeling generous, you can invite your partner to join too, says Sparks. As long as the space is big enough for everyone to fit comfortably, you should be able to make it work, and non-penetrative sex is a great way to add variety to your sex life.
“Try ‘assisted’ masturbation positions,” suggests Sparks. “Maybe one time your partner gets to guide the showerhead for you. Maybe the next time you switch.”
What are the best toys for shower masturbation?
Now, if you’re looking for the best waterproof toys to bring into the shower, these have all passed the Shower Masturbation Orgasm Test (…meaning they’re water-resistant and perfect for cramped spaces, and they will become your new favorite shower product).
Try the VeDO Izzy Lay on Vibe, which has 10 vibrations, is fully submersible, curves to the body, and fits in the palm of your hand. Or give the Hot Octopuss Digit some attention since it can be worn on the fingers. “Worn on fingers” = amazing couples play. Worst-case scenario: Use your good old fingers, which work amazingly too.
However you go about it, the point of masturbating in the shower is to relax, unwind, and just feel good—whatever that looks like for you. “Ultimately, just enjoy yourself. Self-pleasure releases stress, gets rid of headaches, and brings out all kinds of creative juices,” says Garcia. And I, for one, think you deserve just that.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.
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