Hello, ladies. Allow me to address the men who have accidentally, totally coincidentally, absolutely randomly landed on this page for a second:
I’m assuming you’re here because you (err, sorry, your “friend”) really wants to impress a new S.O. with a tease of the package right? Cute. Seventy-six percent of women are totally into dick pics when appropriate, so this is good news for you. But what they’re not so into: unsolicited dick pics.
Let's establish some ground rules, to start: I don’t care if you’re sexing and things are getting ~spicy~ AF, pulling your pants down and letting them in on how your genitals are looking isn’t an icebreaker. So let’s agree to keep everything consensual and appropriate. Cool.
Now you’ll see below, we had 17 women explain exactly what they’re looking for in the *perfect* dick pic should they consent to one. Feel free to print this page out at your convenience, and you can tell “your friend” you’re welcome too.
- “I like when a guy’s hand has a good grip on it...if you know what I mean ;)” -Nico, 21
- “I prefer videos. Also, knock it the fuck off with the emojis.” -Taylor, 20
- “Once I got a flaccid dick pic. That was weird, so, like, don't do that.” -Kate, 21
- “Close up shots are horrifying. Stand back a lil bit.” -Sarah, 21
- “Don’t do the thing where you press down on your balls to make your dick pop and look bigger. We know it’s not that big. Also, a little mood lighting never hurts (like, bad nighttime lighting where everything looks yellow and you have to use flash...that’s a no-go). But a fresh-out-of-the-shower mirror picture is always a safe bet! Like, when there is still steam everywhere and you have to wipe a little off the mirror to expose the D.” -Sophie, 26
- “I’m a sucker for an artsy dick pic. Some may think it’s a bit narcissistic, but using a self-timer and lying out on something is sexy AF. I wanna look at you like the fucking work of art you are! And in my opinion, that should be a full-body nude. That’s because I don’t see a dick and get turned on....It does nothing for me visually. But I think the human body is stunning.” -Liz, 24
- “It’s hot when it’s an actual body shot and not some low-quality up-close-and-personal junk shot. I love it when my boyfriend of three years sends me nude pictures in risky places. Like, when he sends me something from work, I’m like, yesssssir.” -Megan, 24
- “The angle is everything. I don’t want it just from the top to see the head or from the bottom to see the balls. But if it’s from the side and he’s holding it like he’s touching himself, that’s kind of hot because you know he’s thinking of you in that moment.” -Valerie, 24
- “First of all, it doesn’t matter on the angle, lighting, or frame of your dick pic. If we didn’t ask for a picture, don’t send it. There’s nothing worse than being on your phone and having a huge, unsolicited penis picture pop up on your screen. That being said, I’m looking for something effortless. Turn off the florescent lighting, lie down in bed, and snap away. The last thing I want to see is a guy flexing in the bathroom mirror. Put your hand at the base of your (hopefully hard) penis for a better scale, and take the picture from a lower angle to make it look bigger.” -Taylor, 25
- “A photo of a guy touching his dick makes it look so much hotter than just a lonely penis staring you in the face. Erect is probably better than flaccid. Pants or boxers pulled down or totally pants-less is best, although sometimes peeking out of boxers can be hot. It’s also good when it’s close but not too close up that it’s anatomical. I like being able to see some background.” -Rachel, 35
- “When guys send a dick pic, I actually really don’t want to see the dick. I’m more interested in seeing his abs—or his dad-bod stomach—and maybe a little of the booty. An angle that I like is a nice high-above pic where the phone is looking directly down on the stomach or abs from above. Please don’t put your face in the photo or include your dirty room in the background. I’d just rather see their bodies. And finally, something else I’d like to emphasize: If you send a photo, I am not obligated to send one back!” —Maddie*, 21
- “When it comes to dick pics, I don’t care if you are three inches or nine—accurate representation is important. I am constantly working to love myself and my imperfections, and if you are feeling bad about your dick size, shape, etc., I can tell by the photo you send. Keep it natural and make sure it’s close up. Be confident in your photo, and if you have a cock ring, put that on too! I personally find cock rings super hot, and knowing you are comfortable with toys is a big turn-on and tells me a lot about a person.” -Sarah, 31
- “A good dick pic is well framed. You should be able to see the lower abs—or at least the whole pubic area, if the dick owner is self-conscious—and some thigh. The camera should be out at an angle away from the dick, somewhat to the side. The dick should be in focus and have enough light hitting it that there’s some contrast between it and its surroundings. The background should be clean and tasteful. I’m not particularly drawn to the idea of coming to your apartment if what I see in the background is reminiscent of a college dorm. This is just personal preference, but if pubes are really bushy, sometimes they obscure the base of the penis and make your dick look shorter. Doing a little bit of grooming can go a long way. When I send sexy pics, I take a lot of pride in the way I display my body. I love wearing lingerie and posing seductively, and I really like taking short videos sometimes too instead of just pictures. If I send you some high-quality content, then you sending a pic of your dick hard and hanging out of your underwear in your messy bathroom is not gonna cut it.” -Janice, 21
- “I personally like a hand in the picture because I really like to imagine that the guy is actively jerking off for me in some capacity. I also like mirror pics where I can see your full body or pics lying in bed from dick up (dick, chest, shoulders, face). Never send pictures of your soft dick. I know that sounds obvious, but you have no idea how many soft-dick pics I’ve gotten. Don’t awkwardly hold your dick in an unusual way just because you’re trying to make it look larger. And you can always ask the person you’re sexting what they want to see, and have them be specific. Be confident and bold and just ask, because it’ll probably help you in the long run. This way you can emulate their fantasies and hopefully get to hit it.” -Selena*, 20
- “I actually love dick pics that don’t show everything. I’m just way more attracted to a photo of a clothed boner than a naked photo. Like, hard dick laid flat underneath boxer briefs and I’m donezo. Or in gray sweats or athletic shorts. Leaving something to the imagination is hotter than a bare dick to me.” -Dia, 26
- “For me, a dick on its own isn’t attractive. Like, obviously, unsolicited dick pics are awful for many reasons, but one thing I hate about them is that they’re always just some smelly-looking dick without context with the flash on. And you can, like, see Fifa on the TV in the background. They’re never sexy. I don’t feel strongly about what is a ‘good’ penis, really. The person it’s attached to has a lot to do with how much I’m going to enjoy the dick, you know? So in my opinion, a good dick pic includes context. I want to see a little bit of the rest of your body. Maybe you’re standing in front of a mirror and holding your dick (with your shirt off, please). If you shoot the pic from below so I can see your face, you’ve gotta be careful with that one. If you do it poorly, it can end up looking like Cockzilla is about to attack your head.” -Rachel, 24
- “I’m looking for an accurate photo that shows true size and girth. A little lower ab muscle is always fun. If we know each other well, throw in some post-self-love fun—because everyone loves a good cum shot.” -Waameeka, 27
*Name has been changed.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.