Falling in love with your best friend seems to be a very common thing. Maybe it's the close bond you form that blurs the line between the romantic and platonic. Maybe understanding each other means you're more likely to look at your best friend in a more-than-friends way. But is it always a good idea to take your friendship to "the next level?"
Here, 13 women get real about crossing that boundary and explain how dating their best friend turned out.
"Not great. Turned out that a lot of what we (two very romantically inexperienced people) took for relationship compatibility was just friendship compatibility. We ended up together for a few years, but most of the time it just felt like best friends sleeping together. We never quite felt like romantic partners who were excited to be together long-term. I learned a lot, but I did have to lose a best friend to do it. Once we broke up, we were acquaintances at best." - Via RedditContinue reading below ↓
"We broke up and all our mutual friends stayed friends with him and dropped me. It was great." - Via Reddit
"We grew up together and were best friends for three years before we dated for another three. It was wonderful while it lasted, and it was definitely the best and healthiest relationship I had (because of who he is as a person). I think relationships should be based on a good friendship. He understood me and we were incredibly comfortable with each other from the get-go.
"It was super effortless as well, and the incredibly strong trust we had between us was an amazing foundation upon which we built a relationship. He saw the best and worst of me, and still stuck it out with me through it all. I never had to try to hide parts of myself or try to impress him. It was awesome." - Via RedditContinue reading below ↓
"We broke up because he was too emotionally dependent. Lost a friend and our group split." - Via Reddit
"The worst part about dating your best friend is losing that amazing friendship if you break up. I think I mourned the loss of my best friend more than the fact that I'd lost a lover. It didn't work out in the end, but I still miss him a lot and I'm sure that a part of me will always love him. But for what it's worth, I'd say it was worth the try. Just sucks that it didn't work out." - Via Reddit
"Dated for eight years and now married for four, so pretty good I guess?" - Via Reddit
"We've been married for over a decade now. We've had our ups and downs, but he's still my rock, still the loving, stable, funny, competent man that I loved hanging out with. I can't imagine life without him." - Via RedditContinue reading below ↓
"Weird. My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years after being best friends for a year. I'm glad we are happy but I miss being just best friends and not having to worry if it will all end." - Via Reddit
"Terrible. We decided to try dating and within a month he dumped me. Like, we got back from a road trip and he got high with his friends and texted me. And then refused to call me or meet with me." - Via Reddit
"Very good, as it turned out we were very compatible with each other. He was my childhood best friend and we were always very close. We understood each other, and because we were friends before, we knew who we truly were, rather than getting to know each other while we were dating. There wasn't anything about him that shocked or surprised me. We're engaged now, and we haven't had any real major problems. He's my fiancé and he's still my best friend." - Via RedditContinue reading below ↓
"Everyone I have dated was my best friend first. The first three ended badly, and I'm engaged to my current best friend. Not every friendship can make it work, but it is worth the risk. We are getting married on our seven-year anniversary this September." - Via Reddit
"Not good. Friends for seven years, dated for a very intense six months, broke up amicably but lost touch. Went from thinking I'd stand up in his wedding one day, to thinking we'd get married, to him getting married and I wasn't even invited. Wish we just had stayed best friends instead of trying to make it more." - Via Reddit
"Not as great as I thought it would be. And the worst thing about it is that you could never be best friends again after breaking up. Just very compatible acquaintances. But then again it has only been six months after the break up. So probably after a year or so, we can be [really] good friends again." - Via RedditContinue reading below ↓
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com/uk. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.